7 Things We Truly Miss About Old-School Dating

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Why y'all still fussing? It's easy: y'all go out, check comes, whoever asked the other out pays OR y'all agree beforehand on splitting the tab.

This is why so many of you are single. Rather argue about problems than find solutions.​

 

[HONEYBLAY]

Some of the comments....
~Carry-On..~

 

[Action Mike]

Haven't you heard, breh?

Man's money = family's money.

Woman's money = woman's money

 

[mamba]

Damn stories like this make you feel withdrawing from dating and focusing on you is the best. I've been the other dude on many occasions. SMH I'm going to do everything I can to become the other dude( you).

Never be that simp, breh.

Women only require all that extra shyt from nikkas they are lukewarm on.

nikkas that really get them felling some type of way only have to do the bare minimum so they don't walk away feeling like two-bit whores.

 

[LadySimone]

I'll play along. What incentive do men have to out in "Herculean efforts?" Besides sex obviously, which many guys get without putting in much effort.

I was being sarcastic.

You'll get a woman you probably actually want instead of the ones you just bide your time with. No pregnancy scares stds drama and bitterness.

Do the men in here sound happy? Do they sound functional ?

A lot of the men in here think they are winning but I haven't seen the successes.

We've determined the women have lost (especially if she black) but what have you black men won?

 

[Action Mike]

Why y'all still fussing? It's easy: y'all go out, check comes, whoever asked the other out pays OR y'all agree beforehand on splitting the tab.

This is why so many of you are single. Rather argue about problems than find solutions.​

Take the ones that offer and spilt more seriously, the ones the stand there like ...welcome to the d-league.

Men who want a relationship today shouldn't be looking for grown children to adopt but a partner. If not then #GMB better let me in.

Brehettes grew up watching their mother work and spilt responsibility in the household but now you want to act like a princess?

 

[Bless't]

Damn stories like this make you feel withdrawing from dating and focusing on you is the best. I've been the other dude on many occasions. SMH I'm going to do everything I can to become the other dude( you).

 

[Terrance Curtis Beasley]

Penny pincher.

 

[jwonder]

Haven't you heard, breh?

Man's money = family's money.

Woman's money = woman's money

Only in America. I'd just tell the selfish c*nt to go play in traffic.

 

[LadySimone]

In my experience men with disposable income don't flinch about frivolities like paying on dates. It's the perpetually broke who create this whole philosophy about not paying because some other dude might not be paying. It's weird. It's immature.

And this "i ain't paying for shyt" philosophy appears in other parts of their life as well but imma stay quiet.

 

[jwonder]

Y'all indirectly set the standard for courtship so.....

And like another poster said, people, not only men are going to put in the least amount of effort to attain something.

"If she's worth it I'll go the extra mile"

But I've seen it first hand the actions listed above has gotten a nikka no play while I ate by literally doing nothing. Back when I was in college there was this fine slim athletic chocolate chick that went to my high school. She had this dude that was pursuing her for the longest. Always calling her beautiful and stuff on her IG pics, always walking her to class, using his meal card for her at the cafe. He wasn't ugly or anything (no homo) and was a legitimately good dude. Now here comes me on the other hand and I don't consider myself a bad dude, but I am the type of nikka who will put in the least effort possible to get in some draws if I can. So I've casually talked to this girl a few times, she's a friend of a friend and went to my high school, I always tease her about shyt yadda yadda I can tell she's feeling me.

So one night she ask me out the blue if I wanted to get anything to eat and she would buy. That night I didn't feel like going out because I had already made plans for another girl to come through the spot, but she said she would pick up Chinese food for carryout. She got dressed all nice under the presumption that we would be eating together in my room, but at this point the other girl had already arrived and we were watching TV on the couch. Her face just dropped to complete disappointment. She flashed a fake smile dropped off the food and left. Despite all that she was still fukking with the boy and a few weeks later I smashed

One day I asked her about the other dude basically telling her, you know he really likes you and she just said she wasn't interested and he was doing too much .

Moral of the story. I'm not saying she was obliged to fukk with that other dude just because he gave her attention, but as a proud red-blooded heterosexual male, I'm looking at this situation like I never want to be that guy. Especially since I was able to attain everything he pined for with little to no effort. This wasn't a bum bytch either, this was beautiful college educated girl who got a degree in Petroleum Engineering. This is just my example, but I'm sure most brehs on the Coli have been on one side of a story similar to this and realize that a lot of things in the OP are simply unnecessary.

Damn I'm sooo fukking happy I was raised on Too Short. I've never been that dude. Chasing and trying to impress. I always thought that if a woman was truly interested you don't have to jump through hoops. The majority of fault is on dude. You caking this broad without reciprocation than you are a fool. The broad may have been educated and all but she's a bird accepting free meals like that. That's how some girls end up getting hurt. She should've told told dude she wasn't interested in a nice way and not accept anything. That's what a classy woman would do.

 

[LezJepzin]

Suddenly look for it? Really? Given the state of black relationships from the time blacks start puberty we aren't collectively looking for anything.

It's just sad for the most part now, those characteristics are looked as being "thirsty" .

 

[freetroit]

In my experience men with disposable income don't flinch about frivolities like paying on dates. It's the perpetually broke who create this whole philosophy about not paying because some other dude might not be paying. It's weird. It's immature.

And this "i ain't paying for shyt" philosophy appears in other parts of their life as well but imma stay quiet.

The shaming tactics are strong with this one

In my opinion the way that you get to have a lot of money is the first place is by being frugal not just throwing it around frivolously because you can

Its the reason why rich people clip coupons and drive modest cars and dont buy designer clothes

 

[LadySimone]

Only in America. I'd just tell the selfish c*nt to go play in traffic.

Actually in Islam it's exactly that.

Sheikh Abdullah bin Sulaiman al Mani’ (one of the member of Grand Scholars of Saudi Arabia) said, “Women have their own independent private rights, financial rights, and other acknowledged rights. Hence, it is not allowed for anyone to take their financial rights, but with their willingness. Therefore, if a woman willingly give her monthly salary to her husband, father, or mother, they might lawfully spend the money.

فإن طبن لكم عن شيء منه نفساً فكلوه هنيئاً مريئاً

“Give women their bridal-due in good cheer (considering it a duty); but if they willingly remit any part of it, consume it with good pleasure.” (QS. An Nisa/The Women:4).

The woman's dowry was the only wealth she would have and it would be at her discretion if it was to use to contribute to the household or anything else. No obligation.

We not Muslim in here but you're wrong to think women have the same financial obligations culturally or historically.

 

[thirdeye]

Why y'all still fussing? It's easy: y'all go out, check comes, whoever asked the other out pays OR y'all agree beforehand on splitting the tab.

This is why so many of you are single. Rather argue about problems than find solutions.​

At the bolded, yes. This is what I do. On my last date, he bought the ice cream and I bought the lunch we had. It ain't that hard. shyt, things like dating shouldn't be so stressful or labour intensive. Damn.