7 Things We Truly Miss About Old-School Dating

[Terrance Curtis Beasley]

In my experience men with disposable income don't flinch about frivolities like paying on dates. It's the perpetually broke who create this whole philosophy about not paying because some other dude might not be paying. It's weird. It's immature.

And this "i ain't paying for shyt" philosophy appears in other parts of their life as well but imma stay quiet.

Ight guess what? I dont pay for shyt and still get my dikk sucked.

Yall cant do shyt about it. Its a movement :hahabirdman:

#AintNoFlowersBih
#SuckDisdikkForFreeBih

 

[jwonder]

What black woman complained about wanting a career?

Black women having to suffer from white women's middle class feminism?

You dudes in here are historically illiterate.

You are fat and disgusting. You don't count. Only bum and desperate dudes apply to you. Plenty of black women wanted careers. They also joined that feminist bullshyt. Some aren't even feminist, they just wanted a career. Just because you want to sit on your fat ass all day and waste people's tax dollars doesn't mean their other women have that same mentality.

 

[Jone2three45]

Different circumstances. I can break it down why things aren't the way they are, Men are just adjusting to women, that's all.

1. There were no sexpectations.

I don't understand this one.

2. Men were expected to be chivalrous.

I don't know what kind of boys, not men she's messing with.

3. Men put effort into their appearance.

Same as #2

4. You could expect flowers.

Women consider this creepy especially on the first date.

5. Your date paid attention to you, not to his/her phone.

I found women to be more obsessed with their phones, with the rampant narcissism of the instagram and snapchat generation, I guess it's just me.

6. Men always insisted on picking up the tab.

I would not pay for anything expensive on the first date, for the second yes. Why? Women have admitted to using men for free meals I can draw up links for that.

7. There was no talk about your sexual history.

Because if you gave someone head and I never got head I'm gonna think something's up.

 

[LadySimone]

The shaming tactics are strong with this one

In my opinion the way that you get to have a lot of money is the first place is by being frugal not just throwing it around frivolously because you can

Its the reason why rich people clip coupons and drive modest cars and dont buy designer clothes

I'm sorry but paying for food is not a financial burden and if it is don't date. America is one of the few places in the world where food is dirt cheap. We don't even import our good. In the uk food is a lot more expensive.

Stop creating these false narratives of people being broke for going on dates.

 

[LadySimone]

You are fat and disgusting. You don't count. Only bum and desperate dudes apply to you. Plenty of black women wanted careers. They also joined that feminist bullshyt. Some aren't even feminist, they just wanted a career. Just because you want to sit on your fat ass all day and waste people's tax dollars doesn't mean their other women have that same mentality.

Receipts for the historical revisionism. America became a middle class country after World War I maybe even World War II. Most white women were either working working at home or living in poverty. Read grapes of wrath, although fictional,

 

[LadySimone]

Ight guess what? I dont pay for shyt and still get my dikk sucked.

Yall cant do shyt about it. Its a movement :hahabirdman:

#AintNoFlowersBih
#SuckDisdikkForFreeBih

Enjoy.

 

[FTBS]

I was being sarcastic.

You'll get a woman you probably actually want instead of the ones you just bide your time with. No pregnancy scares stds drama and bitterness.

Do the men in here sound happy? Do they sound functional ?

A lot of the men in here think they are winning but I haven't seen the successes.

We've determined the women have lost (especially if she black) but what have you black men won?

Most women of all standards are losing. Simps are losing. A lot of good guys are losing. The community is losing in general. Good men and women who pick accordingly are good though. shytty dudes got it the best. Most of the bitterness and unhappiness that you see in men comes from being told via movies, TV, literature, even women themselves that women want one thing throughout their young lives and then trying to be that thing and then getting used and freindzoned while said shytty dudes .

 

[LadySimone]

Most women of all standards are losing. Simps are losing. A lot of good guys are losing. The community is losing in general. Good men and women would pick accordingly are good though. shytty dudes got it the best. Most of the bitterness and unhappiness that you see in men comes from being told via movies, TV, literature, even women themselves that women want one thing throughout their young lives and then trying to be that thing and then getting used and freindzoned while said shytty dudes .

Lies.

Men filter information based on their own agenda and capabilities. They arent helpless social sponges that just soak up any message. Where is their agency?

And can I tell you about shytty dudes, they have something women want. Women aren't just attracted to shyt. If Flava Flav is a shytty dude (minus the fame) he wouldn't get no play.

 

[Action Mike]

I'm sorry but paying for food is not a financial burden and if it is don't date. America is one of the few places in the world where food is dirt cheap. We don't even import our good. In the uk food is a lot more expensive.

Stop creating these false narratives of people being broke for going on dates.

So you've never split or contributed on a date?

If so why?

 

[Action Mike]

At the bolded, yes. This is what I do. On my last date, he bought the ice cream and I bought the lunch we had. It ain't that hard. shyt, things like dating shouldn't be so stressful or labour intensive. Damn.

Agree. It's simple and your enjoying each other's company even more. I love it.

 

[FTBS]

Lies.

Men filter information based on their own agenda and capabilities. They arent helpless social sponges that just soak up any message. Where is their agency?

And can I tell you about shytty dudes, they have something women want. Women aren't just attracted to shyt. If Flava Flav is a shytty dude (minus the fame) he wouldn't get no play.

I never said men weren't responsible for recognizing the reality of the situation and acting accordingly (same goes for women btw).

If those shytty dudes have what you want you need to be with them and accept the bullshyt that comes with it .

 

[Black Magisterialness]

me

 

[Zero]

M: If I didn't think you could I wouldn't have asked you out in the first place.

You get the check next time.

You gon' eat the rest of that steak or we takin' it back to the rest?

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[blackestofpanthers]

At the bolded, yes. This is what I do. On my last date, he bought the ice cream and I bought the lunch we had. It ain't that hard. shyt, things like dating shouldn't be so stressful or labour intensive. Damn.

You're a hairhat?
@Fonsworth @Poitier thoughts?

 

[Poitier]

You're a hairhat?
@Fonsworth @Poitier thoughts?

Canadian and Jamaican thats a double wench and not applicable since she isn't AA