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MajesticLion
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Man...that's life. No matter what choice you make, you're giving up time/opportunity for other things.
From the little bit that some posters have shared in here it just seems like communication hiccups, I don't know. What you tolerate early is what they expect going forward. Set your ground rules on communication and stick by them. Women want consistency yet hate feeling bored, so it will feel like a tug of war sometimes. It doesn't have to be. Nobody's perfect, so you have to listen and earn trust and respect on your end, the same way she has to on hers. A lot of people play wait-and-see-what-they-do games...nah. Take the initiative and be the example worth emulating. It speeds up the process.
And yes, I completely realize that that seems like the playbook for raising children, and no, they're not children to be spoiled or catered to whenever they mewl about whatever. If you tolerate childish behaviour patterns then that's what you'll get, and if not then not.
The two most precious things to any individual is their time and their health. Time = opportunity. Every second, you could be doing something else, directing your energy in any number of ways. Don't waste it. Your health should self explanatory, but people tend to take it for granted. Women shoulder a lot of stuff but men are out here literally killing themselves under the weight of stress and depression from any number of outdated expectations...and when you check it, a lot of it is for people that ain't even worth the sacrifice. Don't waste your health, no matter what age you are.
You make the best choices you can and enjoy the journey.
This is what I'm feeling right now. I'm going through some health issues at the moment and she still expecting me to be "that nikka"
They make u feel like an entertainer on stage every day
Provide
Ok
Protect
Ok
Be her rock
Ok
Be her confidante
Ok
Be there for her
Ok
But when you need something
Then they look at you like
The only men I know who are miserable are the one's who live false lives trying to please people around them at the cost of themselves. Cut that shyt out. Men today are attempting to bring happiness to the unhappy; it is not your job to do what a parent was suppose to do. You have already fukked up your union and most likely nothing will change it. A woman built on looking for drama has entertainment is a slow poison in your bloodstream.
They all show the signs early on. Men just refuse to see what some of these women really are - the easiest sign is she doesn't listen. You set your standards from day one and if she can't meet up with em, bushes.
My wife knows the day she tries to bring in misery into our household, I'm gone. Not dealing with bullshyt, we are already black in a country out to screw us over at every corner; you and I are not about to become each other problems.
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Shouldn't be stressing over someone who isn't your wife. If she's stressful now just wait
Take your L and do what your head is telling you to do
Folks can't do it, they hate being alone
You chose em
BaldingSoHard
Veteran
Forget about sex.
Forget about looks.
Neither of those shyts will make you happy.
When you're laying on your death bed, you will not be remembering how fat the ass was or how she "threw it back". You will die with a smile on your face knowing you armed your children with the best experience possible. Because after you have kids, literally nothing else will matter to you.
I know it's hard to forego biology, but in 2019, you kinda have to if you want to live a long and happy life.
My girl is a 6 on her best day. We have sex 3x a month at most. She's getting the ring with no regrets.
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BaldingSoHard
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Man...that's life. No matter what choice you make, you're giving up time/opportunity for other things.
From the little bit that some posters have shared in here it just seems like communication hiccups, I don't know. What you tolerate early is what they expect going forward. Set your ground rules on communication and stick by them. Women want consistency yet hate feeling bored, so it will feel like a tug of war sometimes. It doesn't have to be. Nobody's perfect, so you have to listen and earn trust and respect on your end, the same way she has to on hers. A lot of people play wait-and-see-what-they-do games...nah. Take the initiative and be the example worth emulating. It speeds up the process.
And yes, I completely realize that that seems like the playbook for raising children, and no, they're not children to be spoiled or catered to whenever they mewl about whatever. If you tolerate childish behaviour patterns then that's what you'll get, and if not then not.
The two most precious things to any individual is their time and their health. Time = opportunity. Every second, you could be doing something else, directing your energy in any number of ways. Don't waste it. Your health should self explanatory, but people tend to take it for granted. Women shoulder a lot of stuff but men are out here literally killing themselves under the weight of stress and depression from any number of outdated expectations...and when you check it, a lot of it is for people that ain't even worth the sacrifice. Don't waste your health, no matter what age you are.
You make the best choices you can and enjoy the journey.
This is a "new" poster worth watching.
Good shyt, breh.
MajesticLion
Veteran
This is a "new" poster worth watching.
Good shyt, breh.
Thanks man, I appreciate that.
BaldingSoHard
Veteran
You spitting some level-headed, experienced, knowledgeable shyt.
That's always welcome (and needed) around here.
YaThreadFloppedB!
The Patron Saint of Threads
Shout out to 3 stacks . You know the vibes.
Thanks, I just played this for the first time in probably 8 years, I have been throwing on Take Care for November, that kind of sound is perfect, and always a nice nostalgic to hear the early Drake records. I love a few of those Take Care classic, and they sound even better at 34, than when I was 26.
So I have a question for all you that are miserable or irritated.
is this something that occurred over time or was it always present and you ignored the signs?
I don’t necessarily agree with this. Nothing along there sense of fukk them kids mommy needs a life too, but I think you have to nurture your relationship. If the family is intact the kids will ultimately have a more secure home and relationship with their parents imo. I think it’s a mistake in relationships when people let themselves take a backseat and focus solely on their kids. A strong bond between the parents will lead to a stronger household, I hope you understand what I’m saying. I am not saying neglect your children, just that when the sole focus becomes child rearing, either party can feel less than.
I just feel like focusing on each other will still yield the same results if you are both of the same mindset.
is this something that occurred over time or was it always present and you ignored the signs?
I don’t necessarily agree with this. Nothing along there sense of fukk them kids mommy needs a life too, but I think you have to nurture your relationship. If the family is intact the kids will ultimately have a more secure home and relationship with their parents imo. I think it’s a mistake in relationships when people let themselves take a backseat and focus solely on their kids. A strong bond between the parents will lead to a stronger household, I hope you understand what I’m saying. I am not saying neglect your children, just that when the sole focus becomes child rearing, either party can feel less than.
I just feel like focusing on each other will still yield the same results if you are both of the same mindset.
Calibrated
Superstar
Forget about sex.
Forget about looks.
Neither of those shyts will make you happy.
When you're laying on your death bed, you will not be remembering how fat the ass was or how she "threw it back". You will die with a smile on your face knowing you armed your children with the best experience possible. Because after you have kids, literally nothing else will matter to you.
I know it's hard to forego biology, but in 2019, you kinda have to if you want to live a long and happy life.
My girl is a 6 on her best day. We have sex 3x a month at most. She's getting the ring with no regrets.
What qualities about your girl made her the right one? Chick I'm talking to now I can tell she would get more annoying as time went on.
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
#uglygang for the win!
