A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?

[xCivicx]

Some people just want to get the married rate for their car insurance. Use two incomes to get a house built. Open an ESA for their children's private school education. Contribute to their IRA at the married amount. Add a beneficiary to their policies that's not a parent. Start family businesses. This isn't shyt yall think about. Too scared someone will add shrimp to their Applebee's 2 for $20 entree.

What about the black man that's focused on establishing himself and building a financial foundation BEFORE starting a family?

No one shames a white male for getting married and starting a family in their 40s+...

 

[xCivicx]

Nope.

maybe you should move

 

[Blackout]

Typical ignore nerdy and corny black men and choose wrong and pretend good black men don’t exist so she can go with a white one.

This happens a lot.

 

[Rawtid]

Now when black men say this that they have to date out to find a wife y’all get in a uproar. I don’t do gender war shyt but a lot of you sistas are not wifey material. It’s the cold hard truth. That’s just facts. Ask ya self this why so many professional black men marry out? Oh wait let me guess colorism? So many of y’all go to the club every weekend well in to your 30s cry on Ig or FB why you can’t get a good man.

I don't get in an uproar. My nephews are bi-racial. Whether you love all races of people or choose to expand your options, that's fine.

My issue with IR is when a person is looking for standards of another race, in their own people. For example, when some black women want to emulate white households into their own or Black men raised by a single mother, looks for the same characteristics as a white women raised with two parents, in a black woman raised by a single mother as well. Now wonder we are failing.

 

[Max Power]

Matter of fact Amanda know what she doin. She ain’t dumb.

She’s pre-emptively putting out these little bullshyt potshots at black men so that when she inevitably pops up with a white man ala Serena she has a built in narrative she can fall back on....

I can just SEE it now

2021
“Bu bu but... I WANTED a black man! I got love for my brothas, Black men just don’t want to commit! NONE of these black men out here want a wife and family! Every single one of them wanna go to the club, smoke weed, and be fukk buddies! I couldn’t allow my physical chakra to be continually drained in such a manner. So I went on retreat in the Caucus mountains and my earth bound spirit animal spoke to me and told me it was time to ditch Jamal and find me a Jason”


2023

“My debut novel ‘Black Men Are The White Men Of The Black Community: Just With Worse Credit!’ Will be in stores this Sunday! It has already been given a 4 star review from The New York Times which called it “Bold, Edgy, Witty, and Uncomfortably Closer to truth than fiction”. It is a fictional account of my life, times, and trials trying to find love and acceptance in the black community. As a light skinned woman of color, my struggle and pain has been continually deafened and buried by the very race of men I once fiercely championed. It is a story of the fall. The rise. And the redeemed. It is the story of every black woman living in America. It is my truth. Special thanks goes out to my Husband Jason Jacobs, who supported me through everything. We playing Mammy Betty and Master Charles tonight boo!”


2027

Via Instagram (as presented by BET Voice)
“ I am very happy to announce my new talk show, Amazing Amanda, has been picked up by the new Viacom streaming service! Debuting next year, Amazing Amanda will be a show geared towards black women in America who need a voice to champion their struggles! We will discuss Toxic Black Masculinity, the dangers of Raising black babies in a traditional patriarchy where the black man’s word goes unchallenged, and why Michelle Obama would have made a better President than Both Barack and Bill Clinton (still love you boo!) combined! Its a little Oprah! A little Dr Phil! And a WHOLE LOT OF ATTITUDE!

 

[Barnett114]

Some people just want to get the married rate for their car insurance. Use two incomes to get a house built. Open an ESA for their children's private school education. Contribute to their IRA at the married amount. Add a beneficiary to their policies that's not a parent. Start family businesses. This isn't shyt yall think about. Too scared someone will add shrimp to their Applebee's 2 for $20 entree.

Who is y'all?

And you're making it seem that the average black woman is someone worried about an IRA or ESA

 

[360dagod]

Family
Money
Gym

Long as I got those 3, im chilling

 

[The Fade]

Just get ya white man already and KIM and keep us out ya mouth

Then you can take on their problems like him taking money out ya purse for heroin and ketamine

 

[Rawtid]

maybe you should move

For what? When you guys have negative conversations about black women, you always manage to make it clear you're speaking about the general population, but get in your feelings when women do the same. If it don't abide, let it slide. But you'd be lying if you said you didn't know men that way and taut themselves as good men. Some of them are you fathers, uncles, best friends. I KNOW individually, on the Coli, this doesn't apply to yall.

 

[Rice'N Beckford]

The low rate of black marriages tell you what you need to know about black men and committing.

#IBlameBlackMen

 

[Brock Landers]

It's always someone elses fault, right?

Stay purposely delusional, brehettes

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Maybe it’s you, Ms. Seales.......

And maybe, just maybe, shyt gets played out and you don’t want to deal with the same person until the casket drops.

 

[ZoeGod]

Some people just want to get the married rate for their car insurance. Use two incomes to get a house built. Open an ESA for their children's private school education. Contribute to their IRA at the married amount. Add a beneficiary to their policies that's not a parent. Start family businesses. This isn't shyt yall think about. Too scared someone will add shrimp to their Applebee's 2 for $20 entree.

Please before you talk about black men not good with finances who has the most student loan debt of all groups of people?
Female students, especially black women, have the most student loan debt at the time of graduation

And most black women don’t major in STEM? It’s either social work, women’s studies, liberal arts bullshyt degrees or communication. Then they graduate with a useless degree working in Old Navy making 30k a year with 75k in student loans with minimum payments of $175 a month.

 

[Rawtid]

Who is y'all?

And you're making it seem that the average black woman is someone worried about an IRA or ESA

Not you specifically. And you're right, we aren't, but doesn't mean she's not looking for a guy who isn't. Which goes back to my point, that you will miss because you've got your next smilie queued up on quote, but both black men and women are looking for standards in each other that we just aren't going to have, yet saying there is no one "good". Adjust your standards. NO ONE is good enough to say that someone else isn't good enough for them. We all have shyt to work on.

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

self reflection is a lost art it seems