A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?

[MMA]

We literally have a dedicated GMB contingency and nikkas like Alpha Male Strategies taking about fukking bytches to sleep for life and we b still giving her a hard time for saying an honest complaint that black woman genuinely have?

So many of my brehs in my circle - I'm taking nikkas who have their shyt together, attractive, making money, professionals, etc - and they enjoy the bachelor life so much it's hard to break away from it.


shyt it took me way too long to commit to the best woman I've ever met. I literally gambled losing the best woman for me because I enjoyed being THAT nikka for a gang of women.

She has a point that should begin atleast an amicable discussion.

That's why that is your circle. Marriage men, men in relationships most likely hang out with men with that same standard.

You never see single women looking at married women for advice

If you want to be married and have children ANY time soon, that's your best bet. A black man wants AT LEAST 5 years. You know it! I know it sounds bad, but I see it too often. Maybe bi-racial, but grew up on his white family's side.

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Funny thing is that "Insecure" (the show Amanda stars in) touched on this very issue. That Asian girl on Molly's job had no problem getting a brotha to marry her. Why couldn't Molly? Amanda is the real life Molly.

 

[Cynic]

Why be in a relationship for 12 years if you don't want to marry her? It's bullshyt to say there is a lack of "marriable" women more than it is a lack of men committing. For all the reasons it would benefit you to commit....to something, you don't. STATISTICALLY you don't commit education, you don't commit to real estate, and you don't commit to women. You're not going to have the general population of us be single mothers AND say it's only on the mothers they weren't married and not because of the man's lack of commitment.

I'm not saying that black women aren't equally at fault, but as you stated men control the relationship and it's direction, so take your blame in the shyt too. The general population of you guys do not commit. Just accept it.

because you can ? Whether or not she is "marriable" is irrelevant because
the most important aspect is legislative exposure and financial risk.

Would you commit to :

- asset seizures
- debt onboarding
- state sponsored child theft

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Funny thing is that "Insecure" touched on this very issue. That Asian girl on Molly's job had no problem getting a brotha to marry her. Why couldn't Molly? Amanda is the real life Molly.

This nikka bringing up a gawt damm TV show

 

[Rice'N Beckford]

Women dont like men who dont need em for anything. Because quite frankly, its a womans nature to take care of a nikka. How many women yall know that deal wit the same broke, emotional and uncultured nikka cuz they “built” him?

Shorty hit it right on the head u goddamn right I just wanna go out for a date or 2, not smash and go back to my crib and just chill and stack my bread.

If you on as shyt as a man you dont need no woman tbh.

I feel like a bronco cant be held captive

 

[xCivicx]

The black man isn't making THAT much more than $30k though. It's nothing wrong with investing in your education. A $60k+ combined income is a lot better than any of the individual situations from a financial perspective though.

I think you should be focusing less on finding a man to combine finances with, and focusing more on finding a man that's looking for the same things that you are

 

[Cynic]

Of course because the return you get from westernized women is pretty much negative

Might as well do bad on your own

@Cynic @Serious

She wants men who've built their castles to submit to her agenda but being older means
her value (fertility-wise) is diminished compared to her younger counterparts.

She'll probably hook some foreign eurocac and ride off into the sunset

 

[Taadow]

but both black men and women are looking for standards in each other that we just aren't going to have,

I'm gonna stop you here for a second...

Are we really?

Like Amanda was saying, I think there is a growing contingent of people who "want to be by themselves"
and have "a semblance of independence" - and therefore, are not "looking" for mates.

I will venture to say I am one of those people.

If you keep it all the way real, I think you would say you are one.

 

[panopticon]

Life is about survival of the fittest

Honestly if u can't get a mate let alone marriage, it is nature telling u that you should kill yaself and be removed from the food chain


As a man you literally should be able to walk into a relationship

Just like how women can get sex at any moment regardless of how they look


I been proposed to by a female I wasnt even in a relationship with


I could close my eyes and pick a random contact in my phone and be in a relationship



If u top material why wouldn't someone want to marry u?

On a more serious note, its ideas like this that are keeping a lot of good brehs and brehettes from meeting one another and establishing healthy relationships.

That sort of thinking (what was once called Social Darwinism) didn't come from nowhere - this is a recent development in the popular culture, maybe over the past 30-40 years tops. It's grown in popularity because of the fukked up socioeconomic situation so many of our people are dealing with.

TBH, the shyt is terrifying and inhumane. Can any Coli brehs or brehettes imagine your grandparents thinking this way?

 

[The Fade]

Women dont like men who dont need em for anything. Because quite frankly, its a womans nature to take care of a nikka. How many women yall know that deal wit the same broke, emotional and uncultured nikka cuz they “built” him?

Shorty hit it right on the head u goddamn right I just wanna go out for a date or 2, not smash and go back to my crib and just chill and stack my bread.

If you on as shyt as a man you dont need no woman tbh.

I feel like a bronco cant be held captive

if you wash your own dirty draws, make ya own food and make more than her????? and you pick the kids up from daycare?????
and you still have time to do bullshyt in the hood?????????


you're being selfish because you automatically win every argument till she runs to the white man to clean you out

 

[JQ Legend]

The hell did Black men do to yall

Stop chasing after dudes who don't want the same thing you do

Brad will treat you like a hoe just as much as Chang or Ishmel could

I don't even argue with chicks like that

Let the white boys have them

And I'll be 37 soon

Pretty sure I'll be single for life

Not because women ain't shyt, mainly because I ain't

See how easy that was Amanda?

 

[MMA]

I don't even argue with chicks like that

Let the white boys have them

And I'll be 37 soon

Pretty sure I'll be single for life

Not because women ain't shyt, mainly because I ain't

See how easy that was Amanda?

Thecoli kills me every single day
---
Black history month c00ning I'm seeing is something else

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

On a more serious note, its ideas like this that are keeping a lot of good brehs and brehettes from meeting one another and establishing healthy relationships.

That sort of thinking (what was once called Social Darwinism) didn't come from nowhere - this is a recent development in the popular culture, maybe over the past 30-40 years tops. It's grown in popularity because of the fukked up socioeconomic situation so many of our people are dealing with.

TBH, the shyt is terrifying and inhumane. Can any Coli brehs or brehettes imagine your grandparents thinking this way?

Kill yaself

 

[Doobie Doo]

You might be on to something. She’s failed to embrace her “basicness” that other men easily see and are resistant to latch onto

She needs to look in a mirror every night and do a Tina Turner Budist like chant

"Embrace it/
You're Basic"

 

[The Fade]

I don't even argue with chicks like that

Let the white boys have them

And I'll be 37 soon

Pretty sure I'll be single for life

Not because women ain't shyt, mainly because I ain't

See how easy that was Amanda?

i pray every day some of these bitter attitude ass women find a white boy to shoot up with and finally be happy. and get inducted in the white girl sisterhood like they always wanted