A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?
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There is really a simple solution to this. If a person is not attracted to you, it really doesnt matter what you bring to the table. There are plenty of good women out here that I am compatible with but if she is 300 lbs, I'm immediately not attracted to her. In my opinion, our preferences outweigh our wants. I would suggest people to honestly write down their preferences in a mate and do the same for what they want in one. Now review both lists and compromise with yourself.
I am 39 with a good job, no kids, in great shape, and never been married. I would love to get married one day.
She needs to chill with her blanket statements and accusations though.
I am 39 with a good job, no kids, in great shape, and never been married. I would love to get married one day.
She needs to chill with her blanket statements and accusations though.
She's right
I don't eeen like this chick, but she's dead on here. This something I currently struggle with. I'm very set in my ways and very rarely do I run into a chick worth coming out my zone for.
I don't eeen like this chick, but she's dead on here. This something I currently struggle with. I'm very set in my ways and very rarely do I run into a chick worth coming out my zone for.
There is so much fukkery going on in the dating scene period and when you add African-American fukkery to the mix it's gives the fukkery it's own flavor.
Me personally, I haven't had any issues meeting dudes and I have received two marriage proposals in my lifetime. But I just didn't want to rush in just to say I was married b/c the timing and circumstances were wrong. (And Frankly I dodged a bullet in both cases...one dude who proposed is now married and STILL gets at me disrespecting his wife...had to delete him from all social media.)
Personally I think there are some hard realities blk men and blk women need to unpack. I mean just numbers wise alone, white supremacy has decimated our male population. There was a thread on this a couple of weeks ago. So even if every blk chick was perfect (
) and given to African American males 1:1, there would still be quite a large number of blk females left without a mate due to blk male mortality and incarceration. This isn't an indictment of blk males btw, but an acknowledgement of the effects of white supremacy. So numbers are already skewed against blk women uniquely in our community.
The marriage rates from the stats posted in this thread tell another abysmal story. Of the blk men available, only 32% are tying the knot and 1/4 of those newly married are marrying non-blk women.
This isn't about blame. It's about the natural effects of an evil group of people fukking over our community to make it easily exploitable, especially the women.
I suggest, black women continue to work on themselves and consider moving to areas with larger concentrations of blk males. Sure you can open your options but dating non-blk men comes with its own fukkery that is even worse than the shyt we got going on. Also consider men of African descent from other diasporic communities as well who can be awesome.
Otherwise, if you are the problem...that problem won't magically go away by hopping the IR fence or by complaining.
Me personally, I haven't had any issues meeting dudes and I have received two marriage proposals in my lifetime. But I just didn't want to rush in just to say I was married b/c the timing and circumstances were wrong. (And Frankly I dodged a bullet in both cases...one dude who proposed is now married and STILL gets at me disrespecting his wife...had to delete him from all social media.)
Personally I think there are some hard realities blk men and blk women need to unpack. I mean just numbers wise alone, white supremacy has decimated our male population. There was a thread on this a couple of weeks ago. So even if every blk chick was perfect (
) and given to African American males 1:1, there would still be quite a large number of blk females left without a mate due to blk male mortality and incarceration. This isn't an indictment of blk males btw, but an acknowledgement of the effects of white supremacy. So numbers are already skewed against blk women uniquely in our community. The marriage rates from the stats posted in this thread tell another abysmal story. Of the blk men available, only 32% are tying the knot and 1/4 of those newly married are marrying non-blk women.
This isn't about blame. It's about the natural effects of an evil group of people fukking over our community to make it easily exploitable, especially the women.
I suggest, black women continue to work on themselves and consider moving to areas with larger concentrations of blk males. Sure you can open your options but dating non-blk men comes with its own fukkery that is even worse than the shyt we got going on. Also consider men of African descent from other diasporic communities as well who can be awesome.
Otherwise, if you are the problem...that problem won't magically go away by hopping the IR fence or by complaining.
For the sake of argumentShe's right
I don't eeen like this chick, but she's dead on here. This something I currently struggle with. I'm very set in my ways and very rarely do I run into a chick worth coming out my zone for.
I don’t see the problem with that. If the prospects aren’t not your standard what are you supposed to do?
It’s easy to point the finger at everybody else. I’ll leave it at that.
Hint Hint my nikkaThe girl I'm dealing with liked this video on IG
You clowns do understand that the more you post her shyts the more popular you're making her, right?
My father always told me "the absolute worst thing you can do to someone is ignore/not acknowledge them".
I didnt know who she was until you clowns started posting her shyts every other day on the forum.
I'd smash in a heartbeat, tho 
Hell if the smash is good i might even wife her 
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DING DING motherfukking DING....I said nope, difference is im not expecting to get married doing this shyt. Im 100% aware what i need to give up to get a wife. You over here crying about not having a man but refusing to live different
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“I’m Sorry for 2025”
@Intruder v3.0 is right. I won’t give this clown anymore attention. She’s a 37 year old feminist who seems annoying as hell. No value to any above decent man whatsoever.
The only reason she thinks she’s a catch is because she’s famous and light skinned. Most brothers aren’t even phased by the “light skin long hair” sisters anymore. There are too many options.
I bump into so many entitled women like her ALL the time. Even when they lay the p*ssy out on a platter I still won’t smash, just because of the headache it will bring.
They can never self reflect and just realize they are not a catch at all. And they call me selfish because I don’t want to commit.. nah, I don’t want to commit to YOU because you’re a damn headache and I’ll always take a peace of mind over a piece of ass any day.
The only reason she thinks she’s a catch is because she’s famous and light skinned. Most brothers aren’t even phased by the “light skin long hair” sisters anymore. There are too many options.
I bump into so many entitled women like her ALL the time. Even when they lay the p*ssy out on a platter I still won’t smash, just because of the headache it will bring.
They can never self reflect and just realize they are not a catch at all. And they call me selfish because I don’t want to commit.. nah, I don’t want to commit to YOU because you’re a damn headache and I’ll always take a peace of mind over a piece of ass any day.
Well of course it is. Didn't someone here also point out that black men caused global warming? I think that is a real issue that needs to be discussed before we destroy the planet.
Because that's been proven to take yall forever and women don't want to wait for that. Plus it doesn't make sense to do it alone.
No one gets shamed for marrying, period, but most white people aren't doing what you're describing in the bold, stop it. They are typically on their second marriage in their 40's.
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This swirler propaganda bullshyt again...
Honestly, women like her arent a headache at all once they find the right dude for them. They've done wasted away in the streets for so long that they know they have very few options available to them so when they find that cat they like and they feel they can accept his baggage they adjust accordingly. THey may sill express all that feminism shyt towards other men but they' wont gamble and be a headache to the one dude they feel they can hang onto because they know how hard it was to find said dude to begin with and they may be dead by the time they find another.
It actually makes perfect sense to do it alone. Old white dudes who have been married will tell you. If your wife wins in divorce court on average it will set you back 15 years.Because that's been proving to take yall forever and women don't want to wait for that. Plus it doesn't make sense to do it alone.
