A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?

[Barnett114]

just having fun and poking at a hole in their logic. nikkas be claiming X so they should claim this chick to

You nikkas is trying to derail threads for no reason like this one that is flowing well

 

[Sensitive Christian Grey]

I don’t really follow her and I ain’t watch the video, but that quote is true to life with what I’m dealing with right now. Then I can also look at one of my homies from college who let a good relationship/woman go because of this. Not sure what the issue is with this generation but I’m about to go white

just having fun and poking at a hole in their logic. nikkas be claiming X so they should claim this chick to

We'll see you at the racial draft

 

[Cadillac]

You nikkas is trying to derail threads for no reason like this one that is flowing well

a nikka just having a little fun breh, chill

 

[MMA]

I know y'all hate her but let's keep it real. There's a lot of us who even if we met the perfect woman we would be hesitant to commit and give up the option of what we may perceive as freedom.

And honestly there is nothing wrong with feeling that way as a man. There's some women who feel the same way.

She asked a good question that's being ignored, which is, where does that leave everyone else who are willing to commit?

My answer: Just find someone you like who's willing to commit as much as you are.

The problem here is that the people get stuck on what they cannot have instead of focusing what's in their control.

Men of all backgrounds are weak when it comes to women and no one knows it more than women know it. The second a men can get with a women that he deems worthy. He'll do anything to keep her happy. Anybody who doesn't see that within modern men are completely lying to themselves. Getting married for women is an easy task, these men will whimper at the thought of being denied more sex.

We live a society that harbors this. That's the real problem with many who are dating/looking for marriage. Everybody believes they deserve more than what is always coming at their door. Everybody believes they deserve a better paying job, a better house, a better car etc. And what they will do for those things they deem are better is inconsistent with their morals, beliefs and sensible functions. But what is it that they actually have? What is she doing with the kind of men she wants to settle down with? She's in a friends with benefits at 37 with a grown ass man, she has already told on herself to everyone with what she deems her worth.

Her problem is age, it's that simple if she was 10 years younger her opportunity of finding man who want to settle down would be a lot easier. There would be a hopeful sucker at every corner. They at a younger age with a timeframe (the men) would be concerned about finding a wife, starting a family, sharing a home with that person. A (single) man in his 40's will think about his kid starting college while he's heading toward retirement. The problem with age is the older men get the more they give up on the idea or task of marriage. Most single established men in their 40's are only looking at women for what they can do for them, not what they can do for her and vice versa. The less they need/expect love the further they are detached from it.

Imagine a coli nikka pursuing her for fwb and see what her response is. Senses will flare up like flames.

 

[Easy-E]

Be a feminist and still screaming about men committing to traditional patriarchal relationships

 

[paperbag]

The low rate of black marriages tell you what you need to know about black men and committing.

Hard not to when if the only issue between y’all is that someone is simply scared/unwilling to commit. Would be one thing if that person didn’t like/love you, treat you right, etc.

Anyway. I’m out this one

Commitment, lasting marriage and nuclear families are no longer a part of black American culture.

White men over 25 have lines and veins,yuck, maybe go Asian?

 

[Wild self]

I don’t really follow her and I ain’t watch the video, but that quote is true to life with what I’m dealing with right now. Then I can also look at one of my homies from college who let a good relationship/woman go because of this. Not sure what the issue is with this generation but I’m about to go white

Oh, really?

 

[Sniper]

If a man meets a woman he wants to be with and marry, he'll be with that woman. And only that woman.

If he doesn't see you as a woman he wants to marry, he'll keep his options open.

 

[The Fade]

So basically she wants a breh with options, to give up his options

This is the root of it all

 

[BigMan]

Interesting what she said and not something I expected when I clicked the thread

She’s right, a lot of dudes want to be alone. She’s asking where do the women fit in? Prove to him you’ll be an asset instead of just an orifice. A lot of women overrate their desirability and aren’t upfront about what they’re looking for and end up looking stupid

 

[⠀X ⠀]

What incentive does she provide for a man to want to be exclusive with her?

Let's keep it 100. She's 37, going on 40. She should have gotten married 10 + years ago. I wonder what she was doing back then...

You already know what type of guys she's trying to snag. Them dudes ain't trying to get stuck with her aging ass, when they got real options.

 

[Wild self]

Commitment, lasting marriage and nuclear families are no longer a part of black American culture.

White men over 25 have lines and veins,yuck, maybe go Asian?

We need selfless women not influenced by the media and embrace their Feminity without bitterness. Stop with the Tupac in a Business Suit and get with a healthy breh dedicated to BUILD WITH a woman.

Women want the finished product to show off to their friends. Always superficial and never anything about what lasts.

 

[kdslittlebro]

I actually prefer being single so that I can focus on my well-being (mentally & physically) plus I'm the type of man that doesn't mind being alone, one time a woman once told me that by me choosing to be single I'm being selfish I didn't understand at first what she exactly meant by that but I'm guessing this Amanda woman has similar thoughts.

Being single, when you have no desire to be in a relationship is more selfish than being in a relationship you don’t wanna be in astounding logic

 

[ill_will82]

I follow this chick on IG/Twitter and I'm almost at the point I'm ready to unfollow her on both platforms. I'm getting tired of hearing her speak. Some people don't know when to STFU.

Has she ever thought that some men (just like some women) enjoy their own freedom? Also ppl like to have options.

I'm single and no kids. Sure I'm pushing towards 40s door but I'm not gone be in a rush to hop in the dating scene when most women already has kids. I enjoy having peace of mind.

 

[Sniper]

Reverse the situation.

If I as a man find women not wanting to commit to being in a relationship with me, whose to blame for that?