A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?

[SheWantTheD]

Amanda Seales most likely only sees men in the industry, athletes, entertainers, etc as viable partners. Not everyday joes who work 9 to 5s unless she finds them extremely attractive or they making good money.

Them nikkas not tryna commit to no shorty any time soon, and if they do they probably gonna cheat on the side.

She's got damn 37! She couldn't have figured this shyt out all this time? All these years I've never even heard of her being in a long-term relationship not once.

 

[SheWantTheD]

BYATCH its simple...STOP PURSUING or DESIRING COMMITMENT from GUYS who clearly AIN'T ABOUT THAT LIFE

she full of shyt....UP HERE BLAMING MEN..when it's clearly her

its no different than a GUY pursing BEAUTIFUL SINGLE WOMEN who ain't trying to BE LOCKED DOWN

all u do is FRUSTRATE YOURSELF...

and thats what SHE IS DOING

cause in reality the GUYS WHO WANT TO COMMIT TO HER she IS NOT ATTRACTED TO

she LIKES THE GUYS who has OPTIONS.......cause it's a CHALLENGE to try to TAME OR CONTROL him

and when they do get him THEY GET BORED


I went thru this with my ex...

this is our second time back together and it's MUCH BETTER

cause when i was in SIMP CITY all commited to wanting to be married and all that shyt

seems like she got BORED and was basically PLAYING MY AZZ

So i bounced....

and now that we back together...and i got my own spot......i let her know all the time..

I GOT OPTIONS BYATCH

i have not hesitated to let her know that...3 weeks ago i kicked her out of my place and talked to her for weeks.....

got back with her ...things going good we fukking and enjoying life

then she got JAZZY WITH HER MOUTH again...so i ignored that hoe...

at her worst moment...she got stressed and passed out at work....

i just contacted her a day ago after not talking to her.....

yeah she was mad for a minute..but she coming over so we can spend the whole valentines weekend together fukking and everything..

note to you all..THEY PLAY CRAZY..YOU PLAY CRAZY...

ACT LIKE YOU DONT GIVE A FUKK..AND IT WILL ALWAYS KEEP THEM INTRIGED

UNPREDICTABLE ....SPONTANEOUS ALWAYS WIN

BEING PREDICTABLE IS BORING TO THEM...

Please breh.. do ya self a favor and bush this chick.

You will drive yourself crazy tryna keep that crazy broad interested by being hot and cold.

Find you a women with high self-esteem.

 

[Eclipser]

I edited my post. But if I remember correctly the divorce rate between bm and ww is higher than the divorce rate between bm and bw. And if you really want to use those stats to support your argument, I could point to the fact that in both cases of high divorce rates (amongst bw and bw as well as bm with ww) the common denominator is BM. Bw and ww are initiating the divorces after being married. So by that metric what conclusion would you draw then?

Because on the flip side, though a much smaller number, bw with wm marriages don’t have high divorce rates. So as I said before, bm might be getting married more, but If these marriages aren’t lasting, then what of it? Unless you don’t think divorce is a big deal, i’d argue that the high divorce rate means that perhaps some of these men aren’t as ready for the women they married, like they thought they were.

Now I don’t cape for IR marriages, I know you do. But if anything it’s the fact that they rarely work out, and often go much worse than marrying a bw, that sort of has me giving the side eye to any breh that seriously believes that marriage to a ww is better. Stats don’t support it. And a lot of bw don’t like Wm, enough to want to marry them let alone date them seriously and vice versus,though that seems to be changing some, it is what it is.

What makes you say more bm try harder to get married than bw?

This is cherry-picked pro-BW/WM IRR propaganda.

While there is a (single) study that shows the divorce rate between BM/WW is higher than that of BM/BW WM/BW, there is another study that builds on it using the EXACT SAME DATA SOURCE OVER A LONGER PERIOD OF TIME showing what the CONSENSUS of similar studies show:

Over a fixed amount of time (usually a 10 year span)

1. BM/BW couples have a higher divorce rate than BM/WW AND WM/BW
2. There is no significant difference in the divorce rate between BM/WW AND WM/BW
3. WM/WW has a lower divorce rate than all these groups.

It is INTELLECTUALLY DISHONEST to ignore the CONSENSUS and hold up one cherry-picked study with outliers as the truth, but if you can claim that the common denominator in failed relationships is black men it absolves you of any accountability. This is one of the reasons for the immense popularity of this study, as well as the OBVIOUSLY FAKE "StUdY" that claims that 92% of biracial children with BM fathers are born out of wedlock.
(most downloaded "StUdY" on SSRN, a site where ANYONE can upload papers...or scientific racism as it were).

This kind of propaganda is indicative of what is becoming a huge problem in our media:

Taking SHARED black disfunction, identifying the source of it as BM pathology, and absolving BW of any accountability.

If we want to get to a point of understanding then we have to start with honesty. You can't build mutual understanding on a foundation of lies.

 

[KENNY DA COOKER]

Please breh.. do ya self a favor and bush this chick.

You will drive yourself crazy tryna keep that crazy broad interested by being hot and cold.

Find you a women with high self-esteem.

Yeah but finding a woman with high self esteem and good looks and fiyah puzzy is like finding a UNICORN



sorry ..but id rather be with her and all her bullshyt

i seen what's out there in the single world.....and for me at my age early 40s it ain't much to desire.....

most women in age bracket are flabby n sick looking like Monique and even if you put aside thier looks

they got so much BITTERNESS from all the emotional baggage they carried ...and they also are broke...


my woman on the other hand still got perky tittays....looks great for her age...works out ...just got her second degree ....cooks the meanest plates ...and fukks the hell outta me and is very trustworthy...and has a great career...

i mean she is the only woman that i can't see myself cheating on...i just don't have that desire she pleases the hell outta me

yeah ill admit she can be crazy at times...but it's a crazy I AND ONLY I CAN DEAL WITH RIGHT NOW...

so im good homie ....happy valentines day to "US"

 

[CarmelBarbie]

This is cherry-picked pro-BW/WM IRR propaganda.

While there is a (single) study that shows the divorce rate between BM/WW is higher than that of BM/BW WM/BW, there is another study that builds on it using the EXACT SAME DATA SOURCE OVER A LONGER PERIOD OF TIME showing what the CONSENSUS of similar studies show:

Over a fixed amount of time (usually a 10 year span)

1. BM/BW couples have a higher divorce rate than BM/WW AND WM/BW
2. There is no significant difference in the divorce rate between BM/WW AND WM/BW
3. WM/WW has a lower divorce rate than all these groups.

It is INTELLECTUALLY DISHONEST to ignore the CONSENSUS and hold up one cherry-picked study with outliers as the truth, but if you can claim that the common denominator in failed relationships is black men it absolves you of any accountability. This is one of the reasons for the immense popularity of this study, as well as the OBVIOUSLY FAKE "StUdY" that claims that 92% of biracial children with BM fathers are born out of wedlock.
(most downloaded "StUdY" on SSRN, a site where ANYONE can upload papers...or scientific racism as it were).

This kind of propaganda is indicative of what is becoming a huge problem in our media:

Taking SHARED black disfunction, identifying the source of it as BM pathology, and absolving BW of any accountability.

If we want to get to a point of understanding then we have to start with honesty. You can't build mutual understanding on a foundation of lies.

For every study that supports an argument theres another study that counters the same argument, these days. I’m not following every study on marriage, the way you are apparently, because I’ve never seen the study you’re referring to. Or cared enough to vet it, the way you have. Are you a pawger?


The only study or research I’ve seen is the one that most of us have seen, where bm/ww marriages= higher divorce rates. Had I cared more about this particular issue regarding IR marriages, like you do, perhaps I would have dug deeper, as you have. As it stands I don’t care for IR marriages, whether it’s between a bm and ww, or a bw and wm. I care more about the state of black marriage.

And if your study is credible and true(I’ll take your word for it that it is) then it actually supports what I said later on, which is that bm and bw are equally unsuitable as marriage partners.

 

[southern.girl]

Just stop it. This whole we've been together this many years and he ain't put a ring on it is bullshyt. How does she treat you? Is he faithful? Committed, loyal, a good partner?

Y'all know the laws aren't in men's favors at all, fukk getting married by the state. and most people are too broke to be having no wedding either.

The government doesn’t recognize play wives & neither do I. Justice of the Peace is the cost of cheap car rental.

I can’t believe women are actually falling for this spiritual marriage BS. SMH.

 

[Eclipser]

For every study that supports an argument theres another study that counters the same argument, these days. I’m not following every study on marriage, the way you are apparently, because I’ve never seen the study you’re referring to. Or cared enough to vet it, the way you have. Are you a pawger?
True, this is why I brought up the idea of consensus. One study can contradict another, so you have to look at the body of work around a topic to get an idea of what is true or not. Ex. Studies that find no evidence of global warming while the scientific community almost unanimously deems global warming as real.
When I smell bullshyt, I look at the scientific consensus to see if my hunch is correct. This doesn't take that much time and you become a generally more informed person. No, I am not a "pawger", my GF is black, and I have never dated white girl. (I don't think I'm some unicorn either. This is pretty normal).

The only study or research I’ve seen is the one that most of us have seen, where bm/ww marriages= higher divorce rates. Had I cared more about this particular issue regarding IR marriages, like you do, perhaps I would have dug deeper, as you have. As it stands I don’t care for IR marriages, whether it’s between a bm and ww, or a bw and wm. I care more about the state of black marriage.
I only care about this issue in so far as people use dubious statistics and "studies" to disparage black men and shift the blame of black disfunction solely onto BM, absolving BW of any accountability. That's not fair, and NO progress can be made if that's the game we're going to play. I don't give a damn about IR marriages.
And if your study is credible and true(I’ll take your word for it that it is) then it actually supports what I said later on, which is that bm and bw are equally unsuitable as marriage partners.
This is my main point as well.

 

[SheWantTheD]

The government doesn’t recognize play wives & neither do I. Justice of the Peace is the cost of cheap car rental.

I can’t believe women are actually falling for this spiritual marriage BS. SMH.

Well you can stay chasing the ring at the cost of a good man because he doesn't wanna get married by the state.

If you made considerably more than your partner would you still want to get married with no prenup, nothing?

Doesn't matter though, cause y'all almost never "date down"

 

[SheWantTheD]

Nah. I proposed to her a decade ago.

Was never about marriage. It was about a grand wedding she wanted ME to pay for that I couldn’t that left us at an impasse.


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#GMB

 

[SmarkMero]

 

[ajnapoleon]

She gonna be with a white man soon or with one now

She is doing this to grease the wheels so she don’t look crazy



She 37 so all this male (black man) bashing she been doing caught up with her

No man that knows about her not gonna commit because they all think she don’t like men


Sorry not sorry get your cats and call it a day or get you a white man to race play with

 

[ajnapoleon]

This bytch needs to shut the fukk up


Once agin it’s always black men they never take responsibility for themselves ever they never do anything wrong

I tell black woman all the time don’t threaten saying you gonna get a white man because black men not treating you like you “deserve “ to be treated


My question is what makes you “deserve” it?


Never get a answer

What do you bring to the table?


Just go get a white man you can dominate and keep it moving


While I find a black woman to build with

I never threaten to go get a white woman not my thing never will be

 

[Wiles]

I grew up in the church, thought that black love was everything and was willing to do whatever it took to be loyal, faithful and the complete opposite of what women complained about.

I totally regret it.

I live with my fiance and two daughters. I pay all the bills, she's staying at home since she just had a baby a few months ago. Yesterday, I woke up at 5:30 am, shoveled the snow, took out the trash, made my breakfast and prepared food for my older daughter.

Went to work. Put in a busy 9-5 shift at my corporate job.

Came home... didn't have a lot of food in the crib. Did wifey go to the supermarket? Nope. Of course not. I went. Bought groceries. Came home. Kitchen was a mess.

Washed the dishes. Cooked some food to go with the food I cooked the night before. Ate. Took out the trash. Shoveled again. Cleaned up.

Tried to get it in with wifey. She said she's still on her period (it's been 8 straight days)

Spent time with my baby daughter. Changed her diaper and put her down.

Shower, come out and see wifey trying to get me to watch Married at First Sight and talk about it... because she's interested. Seriously.

We haven't had sex in three months.

#GMB for life

She goes to sleep. I'm just watching ebonyhead Pornhub videos and NBA highlights.

Why am I saying all this?

I'm miserable. This get married shyt is for the birds. It's nothing but hard work, commitment, discipline, sacrifice and communicating a bunch of shyt you shouldn't have to. Did I mention we have a counseling session coming up?

For all the single brehs out there... do not be like me.

fukk what they say and how they cryin about shyt. Y'all are ahead of your time. Travel, see the world, eat exotic foods, have positive arrangements with women that get your lifestyle and make money brehs.

Unless you find a consistent, hard working woman who takes initiative to work hard for you and put effort into YOU... don't EVER commit.

 

[xCivicx]

Nah. I proposed to her a decade ago.

Was never about marriage. It was about a grand wedding she wanted ME to pay for that I couldn’t that left us at an impasse.


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See how the poster you responded to tried to blame YOU for the female in your life choosing to become a shytty partner?

There are so many unhinged people on this forum smh

 

[Hey_zeus]

I was rocking with the vid when I thought it was just one part. She lost me with that part 2 and 3 earth and moon rotation shyt. fukk is this duck talmbout