Advice For A First Time Father

[OPTiMO]

Here is a warning. You are having a baby girl. Your heart is going to open up in ways you didn’t know was possible. Being a girl dad is the best blessing and the worst curse. Nobody gonna love you like your daughter.

Damn, that hit home like crazy. I been listening to "Nas - Daughters" recently and it has me shook... idk the first thing about raising a daughter

 

[Depreciating Asset]

Where do I start....


1. If guys had issues before, especially when it comes to running the household...it will be magnify to the ^1111000093492092


2. Layout a plan starting now who is responsible for what...so you don’t have to constantly ask her to do xyz and vise versa; all involve must know their role and responsibility.


3. Having an organized household is extremely important to reduce stress and focus more on your blessing

4. have your finances in order, who is paying for what; daycare depending where you live is expensive.


5. Read books...baby first year helped me a lot. Everyone is going to come at you with all types of advise on how to care for your child, reading books will give you an independent POV that you can shut the noise of others and pick and leave their advises.


6. Have your baby on a schedule; babies are really smart and they love structure. Tell your girl to look up newborn routine on Pinterest or google.maternity leave is a bytch and a routine keeps you moving.

7. you don’t need a lot of baby clothes focus more and toddler clothes and shoes. Diapers and wipes.

8. toys are great; specially those that are gear towards motor skills, it gets them tired and ready for a nap....it should be feed, play, nap through the day and the night routine


9. Read read read read read read to your child every night as part of your night routine. My son knew his ABCs and Count from 1-10 as a 1 year old.

10. know each other parenting goals.

11. never sit back and let her do everything.

12. you are not going to sleep for awhile. So plan how you guys are going to tackle waking up in the middle of the night. If she is breast feeding this can be hard to do that’s why is important that during the day she has help so that she can get some sleep.

13. if she is breast feeding and going to work after maternity leave, tell her to pump after or during when she is feeding the baby so she can start storing her breast milk.

14. start potty training at 18 months.
that’s all I got.

15. have vitamin D on your baby shower list; the baby needs to take it for a year.

16. Women have baby blues (hormones going back to normal) after delivery some severe others mild. Keep an eye on your girl for the signs and get her the help that she may need.

17. When ready go on dates if possible; don’t let go of your intimacy cause at the end of the day you gotta have each other.




oh yeah congratulations!

This person is dropping knowledge. Listen to all this advice.

And #1 is critical. If she criticizes you as a dad try not to take that shyt personally.

The first year is really really tough on your relationship. Year 2 is such a relief from year 1. In year 3 they are 2 and the terrible twos can be no joke depending on the child's temperament. After 2 it all just gets much easier as kids start to be able to do things for themselves.

 

[BaggerofTea]

Congrats breh

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

I know, I know - the net isnt the place to be getting your life advice - but there are definitely people in here who drop some gems so why not check in.

My girl is due in May and we're having a girl. Any words of wisdom yall can share would be great.

we due in July. congrats breh. I’m excited for my first time as well

 

[OPTiMO]

we due in July. congrats breh. I’m excited for my first time as well

AYYYYY!! Congrats to you as well man. Ya'll get the gender yet?

 

[Depreciating Asset]

When you resort to television try to always make it educational. There are tons of good educational videos on YouTube. My kids learned phonics, shapes, counting, months of the year, planets and more. Don't have them use their screen time on bullshyt.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

AYYYYY!! Congrats to you as well man. Ya'll get the gender yet?

yeah but we’re keeping it a secret. A few of my friends lurk here. I don’t want them to find out like this

 

[TallMan_J]

@OPTiMO

Just do your best. Try to be the best protector, provider, example, educator and guide that you can be. Patience is key too. Try not to spoil her too much, but definitely reward/praise her when she’s earned it.

It’s hard not to spoil your little girls at times, but you don’t want them to become entitled brats.

 

[homiedontplaydat]

Budget around diapers, it's the most expensive thing ur gonna need to have abundance of as a new father.

Prepare to meet the REAL VERSION of ur girl after having a child with her. This will force her hand.

At this point ur main priority should be obtaining more assets to help ur seed.

 

[Prince.Skeletor]

Put some money in some type of educational plan that accrues interest, there's plans out there where you pay maybe $120 a month and then when she 18 she will have access to that money and you will get alot of it back anyway.

Don't let them watch alot of TV

Never EVER shake the baby if you frustrated, they are extremely fragile beyond belief. They have no neck remember that.

Do alot of bedtime stories, it really helps develop their minds and vocab.

Get a dishwasher if you don't have one.

if you live in a house with stairs get barriers
make your house kid-safe
babies are very curious, eventually when she can crawl she may want to touch electrical outlets and shyt

always read to your baby

get educational toys

if the baby will have grandparents get them involved

 

[Snoopy Loops]

Thread has me shook and I’m not even expecting. Having a kid seems scary asf

Congrats tho. Wish you all the best

 

[ImmaGetJoeClarkArrested]

I got 8 kids and my only advice is just be prepared for whatever....you’ll never be ready for all the surprises so don’t let anything get to u...just focus on doing ur best with everything and when u can’t do ur best just know that it’s not the end of the world....congrats

 

[Arianne Martell]

Oh yeah



NEVER EVER NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER NEVER NEVER NEVER

LET ANYONE (GRADMAS, GRANDPAS, AUNTIES AND UNCS INCLUDED) KISS YOUR BABY...STAND YOUR GROUND, PROTECT YOUR CHILD’S SPACE

NNNNEEEEEEEEEEEEVVVVVEEEER


Don’t care about nobody’s feelings if they can’t respect that show them pics of babies infected with herpes (some have died) and they can

matter of fact they sale onesies now that says please no kisses only dad and mom...something to that effect...

 

[Arianne Martell]

Outside walks stimulates the baby = baby sleep better especially when exposed to the sun, get their internal clock adjusted.

 

[Arianne Martell]

Don’t get offended when mom tells you that you are “doing it wrong” when it comes to the baby...


Us moms especially when it’s our first have a set of standards when it comes to dealing with our child...don’t take it personally ...she will relax eventually.