Advice For A First Time Father

[BXKingPin82]

Hold it down.

 

[Dontay Flaco]

I have no advice, I just wanna say congrats to you and yours OP!

Make certain that your lady is getting enough rest. If you're going to breast feed, go buy a decent breast pump and have her fill up as many bags as possible. Sleep in the nursery with your baby girl and you get up and feed her throughout the night. Absolutely cater to her because giving birth taxes women mentally and physically.

Be patient and remember every decision you make from here on out impacts your kid.

Just the fact that you're here asking lets me know you will be fine. Congrats, every man wants a son but every man needs a daughter. Having a girl will soften you in ways that you never thought. You will treat your lady even better than you're already treating her.

Whose cutting onions in here?

 

[International Playa]

Dope thread, will definitely revisiting it in the future

 

[Psychosis]

@OPTiMO
@Mr Hate Coffee

What did y'all do for the gender reveal?
And what y'all plans for the baby shower?

 

[OPTiMO]

I have no advice, I just wanna say congrats to you and yours OP!



Whose cutting onions in here?

Thank you man!

 

[OPTiMO]

@OPTiMO
@Mr Hate Coffee

What did y'all do for the gender reveal?
And what y'all plans for the baby shower?

It was actually crazy with the gender reveal - we got an ultrasound at 15 weeks and the lady told us it was gonna be a boy... So we ended up doing a little reveal on Thanksgiving with each of our fams. Then come to fukkin find out like 2 months later that the first chick got it wrong and its a girl. Still trying to return hella boys clothes we had got but hey

Next time I definitely wont get an ultrasound that early.


We throwing a shower in April at my girls sis house - bringing all the fams together. Cant invite too many people because the coviid shyt but it is what it is - should still be cool

 

[MajesticLion]

Where do I start....


1. If guys had issues before, especially when it comes to running the household...it will be magnify to the ^1111000093492092


2. Layout a plan starting now who is responsible for what...so you don’t have to constantly ask her to do xyz and vise versa; all involve must know their role and responsibility.


3. Having an organized household is extremely important to reduce stress and focus more on your blessing

4. have your finances in order, who is paying for what; daycare depending where you live is expensive.


5. Read books...baby first year helped me a lot. Everyone is going to come at you with all types of advise on how to care for your child, reading books will give you an independent POV that you can shut the noise of others and pick and leave their advises.


6. Have your baby on a schedule; babies are really smart and they love structure. Tell your girl to look up newborn routine on Pinterest or google.maternity leave is a bytch and a routine keeps you moving.

7. you don’t need a lot of baby clothes focus more and toddler clothes and shoes. Diapers and wipes.

8. toys are great; specially those that are gear towards motor skills, it gets them tired and ready for a nap....it should be feed, play, nap through the day and the night routine


9. Read read read read read read to your child every night as part of your night routine. My son knew his ABCs and Count from 1-10 as a 1 year old.

10. know each other parenting goals.

11. never sit back and let her do everything.

12. you are not going to sleep for awhile. So plan how you guys are going to tackle waking up in the middle of the night. If she is breast feeding this can be hard to do that’s why is important that during the day she has help so that she can get some sleep.

13. if she is breast feeding and going to work after maternity leave, tell her to pump after or during when she is feeding the baby so she can start storing her breast milk.

14. start potty training at 18 months.
that’s all I got.

15. have vitamin D on your baby shower list; the baby needs to take it for a year.

16. Women have baby blues (hormones going back to normal) after delivery some severe others mild. Keep an eye on your girl for the signs and get her the help that she may need.

17. When ready go on dates if possible; don’t let go of your intimacy cause at the end of the day you gotta have each other.




oh yeah congratulations!

I clean forgot everything I was going to type.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

@OPTiMO
@Mr Hate Coffee

What did y'all do for the gender reveal?
And what y'all plans for the baby shower?

Seen one of my exes do a zoom call where they cut the cake and the color of the cake is the gender. Will probably copy that

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

So we ended up doing a little reveal on Thanksgiving with each of our fams. Then come to fukkin find out like 2 months later that the first chick got it wrong and its a girl. Still trying to return hella boys clothes we had got but hey

Next time I definitely wont get an ultrasound that early.

y’all didn’t test for chromosomal abnormalities? That blood test tells you the gender and it’s like 99% accurate

 

[H@LLOW]

The best and toughest job, there is no telling how they will grow up to be, just do your part, and always be there.

 

[get these nets]

I know, I know - the net isnt the place to be getting your life advice - but there are definitely people in here who drop some gems so why not check in.

My girl is due in May and we're having a girl. Any words of wisdom yall can share would be great.

Don't buy the condoms that are on sale next time.

 

[JoseLuisGotcha]

The best and toughest job, there is no telling how they will grow up to be, just do your part, and always be there.

lol i remember your wild and immature threads from sohh so it’s funny /cool seeing you give solid parenting advice ....damn we really getting old

 

[OPTiMO]

y’all didn’t test for chromosomal abnormalities? That blood test tells you the gender and it’s like 99% accurate

Nah we did the 15-week elective ultrasound - never again

 

[OPTiMO]

The best and toughest job, there is no telling how they will grow up to be, just do your part, and always be there.

You're a legend man - thanks for the words

 

[Arianne Martell]

If you plan on taking off from work take off around weeks 7-9. Do not take off work to stay home with your wife immediately after birth, it's a waste. All that baby is going to do is sleep and you won't be helping her at all. Around week 7 the baby actually stays up a bit and she will be begging for help so she can get some rest.

Don’t listen to this

you absolutely need to be there the first weeks because your girl needs to rest eat right to HEAL her body and mind. Meaning all she can do is tend to the baby and rest. You need to do the rest, clean, cook, shopping, help with the baby, etc.

unless you have family that will be there to do those things while you are at work then I recommend you take your leave with mom.


People really throw women in the bushes postpartum

after delivery care is just as important as the pregnancy.