All I ended up getting for Christmas was my heart broken

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with, decided to leave me under the understanding that she was only leaving temporarily, that she just needed time apart and that she had every intention of coming back.

In 12 days, it will have been one year since. I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide. I was coming close to making everything work out, completely turned my life around for this girl and our son so we could all be a family again. About a month ago, things greatly started to improve and she was even about to come back and were were going to be together again. Everything I had worked for in the last year was finally about to pay off, but in the end I ended up getting hurt once again.

Today I got my son for christmas eve and she came to pick him up after work. Having us all together made me feel so down, rather than being happy in that moment, all I could think about was how things will never be like this ever again. When they left I completely lost it. In an instant I went from being happy and content to feeling absolutely miserable. We started texting and she asked me what was wrong, so I told her.

She told me that I should start trying to date other people. It completely broke my heart to see that from her. For a year I held out hope that she still wanted to be with me, that she still loved me, that she wanted our family together again. She's pretty much telling me that I should move on at this point. I can't move on. I can't just let go of a 7 year long relationship. Trust me, over the last year I've tried as hard as I could to move on, to accept that she isn't coming back. Even if I wanted to move on, even if I tried, she would always be in the back of my mind. I could never love anyone else the way they deserve to be.

So now I will be spending christmas alone, one week later I will be spending my birthday alone, and then 6 days after that constantly reminded that one year ago that day I lost everything that mattered most to me forever. It was also 3 years ago today that we decided that we were going to get married. So that kind of makes this all sting a little bit extra.

what caused her to want to take a break?

Give it another year. She's seeing someone else. Hurts but it's the truth. She wants u to see other people because she already is. It's over dude. Sorry. Regroup, start over, and get revenge.

Yup

She not like that breh. She said it wasn't even me.. She said it was her. She just needed time to figure some shyt out.

:e40:

id say it wasnt her....or you

its was him

Y'all cold man damn

Spoiler

 

[FcKuPaYmE]

It's not. She may or may not be having sex with someone. I went 2.5 years after me and my first boyfriend broke up.

Was there some event that lead to her wanting to break up, or had things just built up for a long time?

Exactly.

Im not exactly clear what really did us in. You know she never really gave me a definitive reason on why she "needed time apart" from me. But Im just gonna focus on taking care of my son and try to move on in time. At least now I know that we are definitely finished so I wont be waiting in the wings ready to .

 

[RiffRaff]

I hate hearing stories like this when a kid is involved. When my parents got divorced that was rough for me, still is....

I never want this to happen to me

 

[thegreatwb]

Im not exactly clear what really did us in. You know she never really gave me a definitive reason on why she "needed time apart" from me. But Im just gonna focus on taking care of my son and try to move on in time. Atleast now I know that we are definitely finished so I wont be waiting in the wings ready to .

Her lack of an explanation doesn't even make sense. If you are the child's father, she could do a much better job taking care of your son if both of you were together. Yea, it's pretty obvious she's interested in someone else unless you are leaving something out (like you are a crackhead or have smelly feet). She just didn't want to break your heart and tried to let you down easy. Don't worry man it happens to the best of us. She sounds like one of those chicks that will be demanding for her husband to be 6'5" with a 100k job. And then in 10 years, she will wonder why she's still single.

 

[Banned Account12]

id say it wasnt her....or you





























its was him

 

[Born2BKing]

Sad thread. I was there not too long ago. Like others said, it's over and done. She may eventually come back years later, but it wouldn't be the same.

I know it feels like you'll never get over it, and I know all you want is the pain to go away, but all you can do is wait it out. You *will* get over it in time, and you *will* feel better and you *will* recover.

Worst pain ever. 2013 is gonna be a long year. It's gonna get worse before it gets better. Hang in there breh breh. You'll be alright.

You ain't never lie breh. Crazy part with me is that it was my 4th girlfriend who I went through this with and I was the type to think I'd never get hurt by a chick but GOT damn I was wrong. I'm just glad that shyt is over and I finally moved on. Can't let that shyt happen again though, fukk dat.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

You ain't never lie breh. Crazy part with me is that it was my 4th girlfriend who I went through this with and I was the type to think I'd never get hurt by a chick but GOT damn I was wrong. I'm just glad that shyt is over and I finally moved on. Can't let that shyt happen again though, fukk dat.

Easily one of the hardest things to deal with is heartbreak because it flips EVERYTHING upside down. That year I was fucced up over a chick, my work performance declined, I lost like 20 lbs off my already slim frame, and I started making one bad decision after another trying to understand why she left.

Now that it's over, I look back and laugh at how I could have been so emotional over a woman, but the pain is real.

 

[FcKuPaYmE]

Her lack of an explanation doesn't even make sense. If you are the child's father, she could do a much better job taking care of your son if both of you were together. Yea, it's pretty obvious she's interested in someone else unless you are leaving something out (like you are a crackhead or have smelly feet). She just didn't want to break your heart and tried to let you down easy. Don't worry man it happens to the best of us. She sounds like one of those chicks that will be demanding for her husband to be 6'5" with a 100k job. And then in 10 years, she will wonder why she's still single.

When she comes and get the rest of her things we'll probably have a long talk because we do have a son together. We were together 7 years so I think she owes me a better explanation as to what really went wrong, if nothing else it'll give me closure so I can move on and be happy in the future.

 

[Born2BKing]

Easily one of the hardest things to deal with is heartbreak because it flips EVERYTHING upside down. That year I was fucced up over a chick, my work performance declined, I lost like 20 lbs off my already slim frame, and I started making one bad decision after another trying to understand why she left.

Now that it's over, I look back and laugh at how I could have been so emotional over a woman, but the pain is real.

Yeah me too, that was like 4 years ago for me so I can laugh at it now myself. But it's life ya know, live and learn.

 

[ChocolateCake]

she had a change of heart... move on, she don't want you... life is too beautiful to wast tears on NO BODY..


be strong ma brotha, your son needs you!

 

[Jasmine20]

I pity your child. Neither of you parents remembered to marry before procreating.

I don't understand why she didn't abort your son. You are good enough to spawn with, but not good enough to marry? On what does she base these monumental life choices?

After 6-7 years with no marriage, SHE MOVED ON WITH HER LIFE. Did you expect her to hang out forever? Perhaps you will find the next chick who will give you 6-7 more years & another b*stard kid. *shrug*

AND WHY MUST YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN ORDER TO LURE HER BACK? Are you a felon or satanist or serial cheater or some such? What major fault of yours repels this gal? You aren't telling us some substantial thing. -_-

--> aq out

so cold.

http://www.the-coli.com/locker-room/50440-having-small-meat-appreciation.html#.UNpyp47FVGE

This is probably the reason why she left.

Good luck op.

 

[Thebadguy]

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This song helps a lot.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

This is probably the reason why she left.

Good luck op.

*scours the internet for some way to capture the magnitude of my deadness at this comment*

*comes up with pics from Auschwitz death camps*

*thinks *

*decides to post instead*

 

[winb83]

The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with, decided to leave me under the understanding that she was only leaving temporarily, that she just needed time apart and that she had every intention of coming back.

In 12 days, it will have been one year since. I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide. I was coming close to making everything work out, completely turned my life around for this girl and our son so we could all be a family again. About a month ago, things greatly started to improve and she was even about to come back and were were going to be together again. Everything I had worked for in the last year was finally about to pay off, but in the end I ended up getting hurt once again.

Today I got my son for christmas eve and she came to pick him up after work. Having us all together made me feel so down, rather than being happy in that moment, all I could think about was how things will never be like this ever again. When they left I completely lost it. In an instant I went from being happy and content to feeling absolutely miserable. We started texting and she asked me what was wrong, so I told her.

She told me that I should start trying to date other people. It completely broke my heart to see that from her. For a year I held out hope that she still wanted to be with me, that she still loved me, that she wanted our family together again. She's pretty much telling me that I should move on at this point. I can't move on. I can't just let go of a 7 year long relationship. Trust me, over the last year I've tried as hard as I could to move on, to accept that she isn't coming back. Even if I wanted to move on, even if I tried, she would always be in the back of my mind. I could never love anyone else the way they deserve to be.

So now I will be spending christmas alone, one week later I will be spending my birthday alone, and then 6 days after that constantly reminded that one year ago that day I lost everything that mattered most to me forever. It was also 3 years ago today that we decided that we were going to get married. So that kind of makes this all sting a little bit extra.

you are brainwashing yourself to believe bullshyt. instead of looking back at the past with regret look forward to the future with optimism that you will meet a better woman and build a stronger bond and have a better relationship.

your happiness in life should never be conditional on other people. happiness is a decision you make for yourself. you decide that your life is good and you are happy.

you are making yourself miserable holding on to an ideal that doesn't exist. this woman wanting you and this family they're fantasies in your mind. they don't exist. why should you be unhappy because a fantasy doesn't exist? there are better woman out there than her just waiting for you.

a woman that doesn't want to be with you isn't worth being miserable over. why the hell is your ideal woman a woman that isn't even interested in being with you? what kind of sense does that make? what kind of sense does it make to be unhappy over a woman that doesn't want you anyway?

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

throw away the ego

shes probably choking on some pubic hair right about now


take the L

way too many females out there

single>>>>>>>>>>>>>