Any dude that says he is happy in a relationship a straight liar

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

A lot of you all make the mistake of not actually being friends with your significant other

If you can’t have genuine fun that doesn’t revolve around just seeing her as a fat ass with a hole that shyt is on borrowed time.

The idea of maintaining a “roster” like I did in my 20s sounds absolutely exhausting

 

[Phitz]

well, your happiness doesn't come from your woman, happiness is YOUR choice

as long as the woman is not starting fights all the time, stressing you out, or psychologically abusing you, there's no reason to be unhappy about it

you wake up everyday and choose to be happy or not

 

[Carlton Banks]

Why are in a relationship with her? Wouldn’t be easier to find a woman to you aligned with on those issues?

Yeah cuz finding that is so easy. This is where you begin to lose me and start sounding like these other fools. Y'all nikkas need to stop acting like y'all can find a throat demon the same way you can find good auto shop.

 

[The ADD]

Yeah cuz finding that is so easy. This is where you begin to lose me and start sounding like these other fools. Y'all nikkas need to stop acting like y'all can find a throat demon the same way you can find good auto shop.

I just asked the question. Finding another chick can easy depending on what you value. You can’t find another throat demon. There is the answer……..

 

[OliviaTwist]

The Brother didn't say anything crazy about self interest...he basically said that men need very little to be happy.
But women are more complex with their needs in regards to happiness.

OP said he needs multiple women that’s ALOT

 

[mag357]

Almost there:

So the man just wants to chill and relax and put a title on a woman? There is nothing the women needs to do or provide? So he would be fine if they were just in a relationship by name only? He never sees her and just watches his sports and chills?

Great questions.
I think the world use to be normal but as the world has changed, normal relationships have changed.

But the answer is simple because men and women are naturally the other half of each other.
So whatever she provides for him to make him Happy, would be something she would need for herself anyway, and makes her happy.
And vice versa.
So no one is really compromising anything.

He likes and needs to eat. She likes and needs to eat. If she cooks food. That man is gonna love the shyt out of her...even though she's just doing shyt she would be doing for herself anyway.

He likes sex...she likes sex... she gives him sex. That man gonna be happy with her because she provided sex. Even though she wants sex too.

He wants kids, she wants kids... seeing her raising the kids makes him happy. She enjoys raising the kids.

I'll flip it.
She fears being alone... Hes naturally protective of the women in his life. Feeling protected makes her happy.
She hates doing physical things like shoveling snow.
Physical things like shoveling snow is nothing for him.
Somebody needed to shoveled anyway.
But this makes her happy.

Imo, The world has made women search for other types of happiness because of seeing people on TV and social media living fake lives. Fantasies. That puts real relationships in danger.
(Men are like this too now)

I will say this though. Because even though I don't have a girlfriend.
I do believe in taking care of the females that look out for me.
As men, we aren't stupid. We know women are different than us.
At times, They crave more than just the normal, natural things that men provide.
This is what you sign up for when dealing with women intimately.
So if a woman is doing the things that make you happy, which is usually just the simple things I explained.
Then you should feel good to sometimes do the more "involved" things that make her happy.

Planning a trip. Sending flowers. Compliments every once in a while. Some woman are different so you learn those "complex" things that makes her happy.
But I repeat, that is NOT your job or your responsibility.

 

[OliviaTwist]

So the plan is to run through a bunch of women for the rest of your life? Nothing deep, nothing special, nothing of value, just operate based on sexual urges and that’s it? 10 years from now do you think you’ll be able to sustain this type of lifestyle?

 

[The ADD]

Great questions.
I think the world use to be normal but as the world has changed, normal relationships have changed.

But the answer is simple because men and women are naturally the other half of each other.
So whatever she provides for him to make him Happy, would be something she would need for herself anyway, and makes her happy.
And vice versa.
So no one is really compromising anything.

He likes and needs to eat. She likes and needs to eat. If she cooks food. That man is gonna love the shyt out of her...even though she's just doing shyt she would be doing for herself anyway.

He likes sex...she likes sex... she gives him sex. That man gonna be happy with her because she provided sex. Even though she wants sex too.

He wants kids, she wants kids... seeing her raising the kids makes him happy. She enjoys raising the kids.

I'll flip it.
She fears being alone... Hes naturally protective of the women in his life. Feeling protected makes her happy.
She hates doing physical things like shoveling snow.
Physical things like shoveling snow is nothing for him.
Somebody needed to shoveled anyway.
But this makes her happy.

Imo, The world has made women search for other types of happiness because of seeing people on TV and social media living fake lives. Fantasies. That puts real relationships in danger.
(Men are like this too now)

I will say this though. Because even though I don't have a girlfriend.
I do believe in taking care of the females that look out for me.
As men, we aren't stupid. We know women are different than us.
At times, They crave more than just the normal, natural things that men provide.
This is what you sign up for when dealing with women intimately.
So if a woman is doing the things that make you happy, which is usually just the simple things I explained.
Then you should feel good to sometimes do the more "involved" things that make her happy.

Planning a trip. Sending flowers. Compliments every once in a while. Some woman are different so you learn those "complex" things that makes her happy.
But I repeat, that is NOT your job or your responsibility.

Interesting that you boil the key examples of needs a man wants down to food and sex. Those things are easily attainable outside a relationship so why enter into one…..

As to the bolded, it’s not your job but if you really love the person those seem like small lifts for the greater good.

• Like you don’t like trips?
• 1-800 Flowers is too much?
• Hey babe you look nice tonight. Not a lot of work there. She never looks nice enough to compliment?

I think people have to be honest with themselves. You either don’t really like the person you are with or at your core you don’t really want a relationship (which is fine) but stop blaming it on the woman wanting a sensible level of fulfillment in the relationship.

 

[mag357]

OP said he needs multiple women that’s ALOT

Yea... I think that's a tricky conversation.
But I get it.
Not speaking for him...
But because I don't believe men are naturally monogamous, (I don't think women are either). That's always gonna be an issue.
Men are gonna want to have sex with different women.
And regardless of sex, they just like being around the various qualities in different women.

 

[mag357]

What?! Yes, please explain further, we definitely need to get that one straight.

You do realize that some people don't struggle with self control, right? That some of us, with not a lot of effort, somehow manage not to scarf down the chocolate fudge cake, right? I feel like I'm explaining the maintenance of a healthy weight to a body positivity advocate.

I'm not gonna get into the people you're apparently surrounded by, but I will say, when I'm considering whether or not to do a thing, I don't base that decision on the people who tried and failed miserably. I look to those who actually had success, they're obviously the best models.

That said, if you personally are choosing not to marry bc you simply don't want to put in the effort, cool. No need to shyt on the whole institution, or the very possibility that ppl exist who find happiness within it, especially since you have no personal knowledge of it. Even the ppl you know, they do all that horny and thirsty shyt in the street and go right back to that nasty house, with that surly and/ or fat wife and them bad ass kids.
Again, it's like fat bytches who think skinny bytches gotta be starving not to get fat. No, and how would you know in the first place? When you ever been a skinny bytch? And they be adamant, too.

Spoiler: Me, us, blah, blah, blah

I literally put it in quotes being funny. Its a big house for two people, we barely see each other.


Ok, so I did ask. He thought it was a ridiculous question, literally ''. I waited to reply bc I had that same reaction, like tf? But I had to stop and realize, you really meant that shyt, no shade intended.

All that shyt I talk on here is true. I'm that same person irl, fym? I cook, clean, speak languages, suck dikk on demand, work herbs, build things, fix things, sew, read tarot cards, grow food, and I pick up new skills every few yrs. I'm brown skin, pretty face, his preferred body type, dont get fat, wear my own hair and nails and perform my own services. I'm equally comfortable at a luncheon at a private bank or a cookout in the projects, ppl find me extremely likable and a good conversationalist, I work this to his behalf. His whole extended family is healthier just by knowing me. I could write several more sentences. I mean, I legit don't even know what you asking, and neither did he.

Once I explained that your question was genuine, bc you really don't know me like that, he said that the reason he reversed his prior GMB position was because he found me valuable enough that he wanted to keep me. Simple. Like I said before, yall be over complicating shyt needlessly.

Man smh...ok so.
So there was 2 parts to the question that I wanted you to ask him, sister.
There is a reason why there was 2 parts.
But you end up listing the reason you are valuable yourself, because he didn't say it.
I wanted him to list off the reason that he's with you. And then think could he have achieved those things without u.

I'm sure he can cook, clean, build things by himself and all the other things you listed, he could have another woman do without being committed to her.
He could have a new brown skin, pretty face chik for every day of the week if he wanted.

The point I was making is that To a man with the means and knowledge. A woman isn't needed. Other than for sex.
Y'all tend to over value yourselves and so do a lot of men.
No disrespect.

To the point about men needing women for self control.
If you listen to any married man, it's "when I was single, I lived a crazy life"
"Before I got married, the stories I could tell"
The boundaries in a relationship allow these men to gain control of themselves.
Even though a man should gain self control and focus on his own.
You said your man had different chix before you.. doing his thing...GMB type guy ... he wasn't a monk/saint/internet nerd.
But now he's settled down with you. And is living a healthy life. Like a diet. Which is good.
Before you tho, he was enjoying himself alot of chocolate cake, vanilla cake, strawberry cake etc.

I had fun with this Convo but we are just gonna keep saying the world is opposite of what the other person is saying...sooo lol

And I'm coming off like "that guy" lol. And I ain't that guy that hates love, hates marriages and wants to see people out here living crazy.

I'm happy you are a sister, with a brother and you're happy in your relationship.

 

[ORDER_66]

I was happy in the beginning... OP smoking...

 

[the bossman]

These conversations go in circles because it all comes down to what an individual values. That's gonna be different for everyone

 

[mag357]

Interesting that you boil the key examples of needs a man wants down to food and sex. Those things are easily attainable outside a relationship so why enter into one…..

As to the bolded, it’s not your job but if you really love the person those seem like small lifts for the greater good.

• Like you don’t like trips?
• 1-800 Flowers is too much?
• Hey babe you look nice tonight. Not a lot of work there. She never looks nice enough to compliment?

I think people have to be honest with themselves. You either don’t really like the person you are with or at your core you don’t really want a relationship (which is fine) but stop blaming it on the woman wanting a sensible level of fulfillment in the relationship.

Yes... Those things are easily obtainable. So the point being....HE DOESN'T NEED MUCH FROM HER TO BE HAPPY.
And I admittedly keep saying, an honest man understands I women's happiness is a bit more complex. So if she makes him happy and he wants to go outside of his normal routine of making her happy by planning a trip, calling for flowers etc... Then that's what's up.
But do you see how lopsided that can become.

Doing the extra shyt to make her happy is considerate but she needs to find things to keep herself happy. Just like he does...

A marriage could be 70yrs long, it will only last if you are content with yourself first.

 

[Umoja]

Any dude that says he’s happy in a relationship is lying. Previously I had 3-4 on the team and they all loved me. I had them taking turns. I had to fill my calendar of who with when. And I wasn’t expected to hear them talk incessantly about absolutely nothing. Hang out all the dang time. Nor expect any gifts or goofy flowers.

Why do us men put up with the abuse of women? Women are the sole ones requiring for a man to be commited to them. That’s abusive, he should have as many women as he wants.

I legitimately beat the hell outta my dikk to some cat titties breh...cartoon cat titties at that. That opening scene with the kitten on that fat cat nipple had me hard as fukk off the jump. I busted one hell of a yellow load.

I can't be the only one.

You clowns are going to let your Internet personas lead you into a life of misery.

Man said 3-4 on his team

 

[The ADD]

Yes... Those things are easily obtainable. So the point being....HE DOESN'T NEED MUCH FROM HER TO BE HAPPY.
And I admittedly keep saying, an honest man understands I women's happiness is a bit more complex. So if she makes him happy and he wants to go outside of his normal routine of making her happy by planning a trip, calling for flowers etc... Then that's what's up.
But do you see how lopsided that can become.

Doing the extra shyt to make her happy is considerate but she needs to find things to keep herself happy. Just like he does...

A marriage could be 70yrs long, it will only last if you are content with yourself first.

But if he only needs the easily attainable he can get without a relationship then why is he with her and subjecting himself to doing things he doesn’t want to do if at his core he just needs food, sex and chill time? I don’t get being in a relationship when your only needs are a hot meal and sex. You can get that anywhere, in more variety and not have to make someone happy when that’s not your ideal.

That’s where I think the concept of a serious relationship is lost here. If those three things make it lopsided, what is bar? We both work, you cook my dinner, I go watch sports we have sex, rinse repeat? If so just state that in the up front.