Any dude that says he is happy in a relationship a straight liar

[ChatGPT-5]

My girl is tall, beautiful asf, works IT, games, funny, and has a fit body with a thick booty. I didn't settle I got lucky. Sure I have occasional thoughts of when I was flipping hoes every weekend, but then I think about the 'popping up to your crib unannounced', stalking, and shyt talking, and it goes away quick. The dating app scene is trash. I like where I'm at, and live with my best friend. My girl is bad, but it's not just that, because I've been with dimes before, it's that she has humour and substance, highly intelligent, mild tempered (we've only fought once in a year). That is fukking impossible to find. Like I said, I got lucky, I can't fukk this up, I don't want to go back to the streets.

 

[HarlemHottie]

So there was 2 parts to the question that I wanted you to ask him, sister.
There is a reason why there was 2 parts.
But you end up listing the reason you are valuable yourself, because he didn't say it.
I wanted him to list off the reason that he's with you. And then think could he have achieved those things without u.

I'm willing to entertain these invasive questions in a way he is not. He is not the guy you ask a question and he spills his whole heart. If I had asked for my own purposes, he mighta looked at me crazy too. I gave you what he was willing to give an internet stranger and tried to explain that which he would not.

I also don't exactly understand what it is you want. How would a list of reasons he's with me lead to achievements that would or would not have made without my presence? I mean, I could list off a few, but is that your expectation of a relationship?

He absolutely cannot find another me. All that shyt I listed? Where? nikkas literally started a whole movement and flying over whole continents just to find bytches that will smile at them and fix a plate. No. No, he could not.

The point I was making is that To a man with the means and knowledge. A woman isn't needed. Other than for sex.
Y'all tend to over value yourselves and so do a lot of men.
No disrespect.
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I had fun with this Convo but we are just gonna keep saying the world is opposite of what the other person is saying...sooo lol

You have a very low opinion of women, possibly related to the company you keep (the cheating wives you mentioned earlier, the horny and thirsty married men, etc). Some of the questions you've asked are just... wow. (My conversations with the ex stripper who posts here were similar, actually.) So far from my experience that I almost couldnt grasp the series of assumptions you must have made to get there. He don't really allow messy people around us. There's a single childhood friend kinda grandfathered in who be moving crazy, several baby mothers, etc, but he comes looking for advice from somebody he knows is running his shyt properly.

I haven't spoken on "the world" at all, the world is obviously shyt. I'm speaking about my house and responding to the thread title. "ANY dude that says he is happy in a relationship is a straight liar" is false bc I know at least one and he seems pretty happy. Given the power differential between us and the longevity of the relationship, I have no reason not to believe him and neither do you.

 

[HarlemHottie]

I like where I'm at, and live with my best friend. My girl is bad, but it's not just that, because I've been with dimes before, it's that she has humour and substance, highly intelligent, mild tempered (we've only fought once in a year). That is fukking impossible to find.

THIS, THIS, THIS. Love this for yall!

 

[mag357]

I'm willing to entertain these invasive questions in a way he is not. He is not the guy you ask a question and he spills his whole heart. If I had asked for my own purposes, he mighta looked at me crazy too. I gave you what he was willing to give an internet stranger and tried to explain that which he would not.

I also don't exactly understand what it is you want. How would a list of reasons he's with me lead to achievements that would or would not have made without my presence? I mean, I could list off a few, but is that your expectation of a relationship?

He absolutely cannot find another me. All that shyt I listed? Where? nikkas literally started a whole movement and flying over whole continents just to find bytches that will smile at them and fix a plate. No. No, he could not.


You have a very low opinion of women, possibly related to the company you keep (the cheating wives you mentioned earlier, the horny and thirsty married men, etc). Some of the questions you've asked are just... wow. (My conversations with the ex stripper who posts here were similar, actually.) So far from my experience that I almost couldnt grasp the series of assumptions you must have made to get there. He don't really allow messy people around us. There's a single childhood friend kinda grandfathered in who be moving crazy, several baby mothers, etc, but he comes looking for advice from somebody he knows is running his shyt properly.

I haven't spoken on "the world" at all, the world is obviously shyt. I'm speaking about my house and responding to the thread title. "ANY dude that says he is happy in a relationship is a straight liar" is false bc I know at least one and he seems pretty happy. Given the power differential between us and the longevity of the relationship, I have no reason not to believe him and neither do you.

Ok. I fux with you HH. But thats now 2 post in a row where you kinda insulted me lol.
I Don't know why... I'm playing nice.
I love the convo and I'm always take everything as a learning experience. Even though I feel like I know what I know... I'm always willing to listen. So Im trying not to say things that can come off offensive, because it doesn't help the convo.

I chalked up our disagreement as just having different perspectives. It can be left at that.

But You talked about the company I keep and said I have a low opinion of women.
That's kind of insulting, especially because it's completely inaccurate.

All I know is ambitious women, that don't need anybody...
Smarter than me and have way more shyt than me lol
Caring and loving.
They have my utmost respect.


Everyone in my circle is great fathers, great mothers, doctors, lawyers, business owners.
The women I deal with are intelligent, well traveled, and got more degrees than a muthafuka lol

Those cheating wives I've fukked are looked at as good women, "aunties", pillars of the community. The same with the older horny/thirsty men... They are everybody's uncle, BBQs on Sunday..."i love my family" types...
But when nobody is around... It's "where the bytches at".

They aren't bad people... Just human.

I've been blessed to see and know the messy side of the game. So when you say I keep low life company or whatever. Im thinking maybe you just don't have enough life experience to know the truth about people.

You sound like a good woman...a good catch tho.

When you say he can't find another YOU or that that man has never wanted to fukk another woman. That doesn't sound realistic but
Like you said you "have no reason not to believe him"
I don't believe him because it doesn't sound realistic. But I'm just a dude off the Internet. Who gives a shyt what I think lol

But This why I hate these kinda conversations.
It feels like I'm personally attacking you. So you say the company I keep is a bunch of low lives lol
Which is attacking me and my character

One of the reasons I got off this site before is because Ive learned most things about our lives shouldn't be discussed. Especially if it's not face to face.
You'll end up making enemies out of people who could have been allies.

Im Only wishing power and blessings to you sister. Seriously

 

[rabbid]

So the plan is to run through a bunch of women for the rest of your life? Nothing deep, nothing special, nothing of value, just operate based on sexual urges and that’s it? 10 years from now do you think you’ll be able to sustain this type of lifestyle?

The flaw in this perspective is that you believe there's nothing of value in operating based on sexual urges. Therefore, you're never really going to see someone's perspective so its pointless to answer that question directly. There's positives in playing the field just as there's negatives in being committed and vice versa.

You got dudes doing 10 years in a miserable marriage and dudes doing 10 years being a successful bachelor. We gotta dead this idea that everyone will be happy in a long term relationship vs something else.

 

[mag357]

But if he only needs the easily attainable he can get without a relationship then why is he with her and subjecting himself to doing things he doesn’t want to do if at his core he just needs food, sex and chill time? I don’t get being in a relationship when your only needs are a hot meal and sex. You can get that anywhere, in more variety and not have to make someone happy when that’s not your ideal.

That’s where I think the concept of a serious relationship is lost here. If those three things make it lopsided, what is bar? We both work, you cook my dinner, I go watch sports we have sex, rinse repeat? If so just state that in the up front.

Exactly... You're saying the same thing I'm saying lol.
Literally...
Imo, there is no benefit for a man to be in a relationship.

Granted there are just some people who are raised to value family and making their own family.
That is the only thing I can come up with

 

[Finesse]

Women lowkey dont even respect nikkas who are too relationship prone. This is coming from a nikka who has been in half a decade long relationship.


My ex was cool she kept it real with a nikka. But it gets boring for both parties over time. Especially if yo chick feel you cant go out in the field and hunt and get it poppin again.

Women will never admit it but they like nikkas who can flip a bunch of hoes. It gets their pheromones goin.

 

[The ADD]

Exactly... You're saying the same thing I'm saying lol.
Literally...
Imo, there is no benefit for a man to be in a relationship.

Granted there are just some people who are raised to value family and making their own family.
That is the only thing I can come up with

We aren’t but I respect you for saying instead of deflecting it to be a woman’s fault or willfully getting into a relationship you don’t want to be really be in.

 

[Mr. Foxx Foxx]

some days it’s rough, others I wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

[A Pimp Named Slickback]

Date "ain't shyt" women and group all men together with your stupid ass because it hurts brehs

 

[In The Zone '98]

Do for her. Do for you.

You have to remember to do for you.

Any partner who robs you of your individuality is not the right partner for you!

 

[Blessings]

All facts. Finally a decent post in here.

When a man is in a relationship, his time to do the things that make him happy as an individual, changes. Some times a guy will stop doing all the things that made him happy altogether because he's dealing with a high maintenance/time consuming bytch. Like my girl doesn't claim to hate it, yet when I'm in my zone doing my hobbies and things I actually enjoy, I notice her personality changes. Suddenly she's annoyed, neglected or just sad. It's like dealing with a fukking toddler who doesn't like any of their toys and just wants to bother you all day.

You chose that for yourself. Your girl doesn’t represent all women

 

[Carlton Banks]

You chose that for yourself. Your girl doesn’t represent all women

You right. I'm just gonna cheat

 

[The Realist Perspective]

OP said he needs multiple women that’s ALOT

Is it a lot? I don’t think so in comparison.

Dealing with 3-4 women in brief interactions, in comparison to dealing with 1 woman constantly. I could go a couple days, texts at most, without interacting with my women, I’d see them when I see them. But now, I must constantly attend to my girl’s needs, give her attention, support her financially, because that’s my obligation as her man.

So the question then comes, why be in a relationship? THIS, is a lot. I have to sacrifice much more for much less. This is simply the plight of a man settling for just one woman, and the expectations that come with that.

I don’t even want to go into the topic of marriage, and how it quickly becomes a constant fascination, an obligation even more restrictive, with a government now involved in your freedoms and obligation. You can scoff, but these are true things I speak of. I can logically walk any woman or self denying man through this and I would not fail in being convincing.

 

[The Realist Perspective]

You clowns are going to let your Internet personas lead you into a life of misery.

Man said 3-4 on his team

That post is nearly 10 years old. I stand by both statements as being 100% true.