I'm non violent in real life, but if it's the last resort...........
Any of y'all ever dealt with a stalker or persistent threats IN REAL LIFE?
- Thread starter Bushmaster
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I had a dude on here threaten me multiple times, follow me around the forum from post to post and threaten to come to a 'meet up' to hide in the bushes and bust me in the back of the head. After a few months of that the mods put him on my ignore list like I was the problem. He continued his stalkerish behavior even though I couldn't see his post. He then tried to communicate with me through others. shyt was mad creepy. He was finally blocked from the forum after I posted in the mods forum. I posted there because I knew he would follow and they finally saw how crazy he was.
I'm sorry to hear that
So he is still stalking you? Did you go to the authorities? What steps have you taken to get him to stop?
I haven't seen him since he was fired so I think that its over. I hope so at least.
I threatened to call the police several times but I never followed through.
MischievousMonkey
Gor bu dëgër
Yep in high school as a freshman or sophomore can't remember. Older white dudes in my highschool who got my phone number I don't know how and sometimes called late at night saying racist shyt.
Bushmaster
All Star
Ngl this whole ordeal has made me realize how vulnerable women are in this society.
Not to say that women can't be stalkers, but at least the threat of violence is off the table in most cases.
Bushmaster
All Star
Bushmaster
All Star
I actually never had a stalker thank God.
I've had persistent men who would call my job or pop up lookin for me but once I made it clear I had a man/not interested they backed off.
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Yep.
Some Gang-related shyt back in NY.
My specialty is explosives.
Had an end-user device go off and "hurt" someone it shouldn't have.
Gang member.
Owned up to it, took my lumps with homeboy that got hit...we squashed it, no probs.
His scumbag homeboy thought he could G me and take it further.
Let him know that shyt wasn't happening.
He proceeded to "Show up" everywhere I was at...for close to 4 months.
Got in his face and told him his bullshyt had to stop or I'd stop it for him...we threw down...I won out.
He upped the ante to him and his boys showing up everywhere lookin for me...with guns.
I didn't want that kinda heat...Notified my customers and connects that I was out of business and promptly decided to "Explore" the rest of the country for a few years.
Checked back in every now and then from abroad to see what was up...scumbag got shot up doin what he does...I was officially free and clear!!!
But by then I had no reason to go back to NY...life outside of NYC was just amazing!!
Some Gang-related shyt back in NY.
My specialty is explosives.
Had an end-user device go off and "hurt" someone it shouldn't have.
Gang member.
Owned up to it, took my lumps with homeboy that got hit...we squashed it, no probs.
His scumbag homeboy thought he could G me and take it further.
Let him know that shyt wasn't happening.
He proceeded to "Show up" everywhere I was at...for close to 4 months.
Got in his face and told him his bullshyt had to stop or I'd stop it for him...we threw down...I won out.
He upped the ante to him and his boys showing up everywhere lookin for me...with guns.
I didn't want that kinda heat...Notified my customers and connects that I was out of business and promptly decided to "Explore" the rest of the country for a few years.
Checked back in every now and then from abroad to see what was up...scumbag got shot up doin what he does...I was officially free and clear!!!
But by then I had no reason to go back to NY...life outside of NYC was just amazing!!
Wayment hold up........you're not Killmonger?
monsterpreneur
Pro
No. Thank goodness. I wouldn't take that ish lightly, after all the stories I've heard.
Jean toomer
Superstar
1. Save all texts, phone records, and emails
2. If you have the cake, Consider hiring a DT and have the stalker tracked. You needed.
3. File for a restraining order with all the evidence you’ve collected
4.Get the strap.
Godspeed
I think the craziest case of stalking I've ever heard was about Richard Farley.
Richard Farley - Wikipedia
In the end he ended up killing 7 people and injuring the woman he was obsessed with. The wiki doesn't do it justice how insane this guy was. Read about him in John Douglas book Obsession where he gives a thorough breakdown of the case . She told him several times in no uncertain terms she wasnt interested. This guy was delusional to the end in thinking if he pursued her enough he would be able to convince her to love him. He even stole her apartment keys and made copies and left one on her car as a threat to let her know he could enter her house anytime he wanted when she least expected.
Richard Farley - Wikipedia
In the end he ended up killing 7 people and injuring the woman he was obsessed with. The wiki doesn't do it justice how insane this guy was. Read about him in John Douglas book Obsession where he gives a thorough breakdown of the case . She told him several times in no uncertain terms she wasnt interested. This guy was delusional to the end in thinking if he pursued her enough he would be able to convince her to love him. He even stole her apartment keys and made copies and left one on her car as a threat to let her know he could enter her house anytime he wanted when she least expected.
Below is a more thorough breakdown of this dude insane behavior .
The Crimes of Richard Farley
The Crime
By the 1980s, ESL (Electromagnetic Systems Labs) Incorporated could be justifiably proud of its reputation as a premier defense contractor and a respected landmark in the burgeoning electronics industry. Located in the heart of Silicon Valley, and sporting a modern office complex in the flourishing city of Sunnyvale, ESL provided its employees with a comfortable working environment and a camaraderie unique to the "high tech" firms which populated the area south of San Francisco known as "the Peninsula." It was, by any standard, an exciting place to work, in an area of California known for its singular blend of relaxed living, unparalleled business innovations and modern management style.
It was at this time, and into this place, Richard Wade Farley would arrive as a software technician in search of the consummate career. There would have been every reason for Farley to look forward to the future with unrestrained optimism when he joined the company after leaving the military. This was, after all, a nearly ideal turn of circumstances for a man with a much-demanded skill and a high security clearance gained from a ten-year stint with the Navy. Still, Richard Farley reported to work that first day with something dark and unseen secreted within his psyche. Perhaps he sensed his own uneasiness; or maybe he dismissed it as the expected initial jitters of beginning a new and challenging career. Perhaps he never felt anything at all. Whatever he may have known or expected, in less than four years Richard Farley would leave this company and its employees forever changed; permanently scarred by the unrecognized but developing psychosis he brought to ESL that day. His legacy would be one of unforgettable mayhem—that of one of California’s most vicious workplace murderers.
From the moment Farley was introduced to Laura Black, an electrical engineer who had worked at the company for less than a year, he was obsessed with her. The dark-haired, petite and athletic 22-year-old spoke easily to him during that first meeting, unaware that Richard Farley had already decided he would have her, one way or other. Later recalling their first meeting during court testimony, Farley said, "I think I fell instantly in love with her. It was just one of those things, I guess." Laura Black, at first, had no inkling of Richard Farley’s obsession with her.
During the three and a half years following that meeting, Farley would write some 200 letters to Laura, constantly follow her to and from work, leave gifts on her desk, and rifle through confidential personnel files to learn more about her personal life. At one point, learning that Laura Black was to visit her parents in Virginia in December, 1984, Farley broke into her desk at the office, obtained the address of her parents, and wrote letters to her in Virginia. Throughout 1984 and 1985 his letters were not overtly threatening; but that was to change as Laura continued to thwart his advances.
Farley would frequently drive past her home at night, telephone her at any hour, and, at one point, even join her aerobics class to remain as close as possible to Laura, day and night. Although Richard Farley dated another woman, and eventually lived with her in his San Jose bungalow, he twice attempted to move into the same apartment building where Laura lived. When at work or approaching her on the street, Farley would often ask for a date but would inevitably be turned aside by the polite and naturally-gentle Laura. These rejections would inevitably bring on recurring protestations and endless restatements of his limitless love for her. She would do what she could to avoid him and deter his advances; he would respond by redoubling his efforts with more telephone calls, more harassment, more gifts and incessant car trips past her home. Laura Black would be forced to move twice during these years as Farley’s harassment continued unabated at work, at her apartment complex and even on shopping trips.
Eventually, Richard Farley could no longer take "no" for an answer and his tactics became aggressive and cruel. He would make derogatory statements about Laura and rifle through her locked desk in search of even more information about her personal life and activities away from work. It seemed that every effort Laura Black made to avoid Farley was answered with further encounters with him, each contact becoming more offensive than the previous. Richard Farley was a man who had obviously succumbed to an obsession which was quickly approaching a violent finale. Laura Black was running out of options; her life had become hell thanks to Richard Farley.
By the Fall of 1985, Richard Farley had pursued Laura Black so vehemently that she turned to the Human Resources department at ESL for help. Farley was told he must attend psychological counseling sessions and stop harassing Laura if he wanted to keep his job. Although Farley attended the required counseling sessions on a regular schedule, the harassment did not diminish—it escalated. During the period he was attending counseling, Farley made a duplicate copy of Laura Black’s house key which she had inadvertently left on her desk. Rather than using the key to gain entry to her apartment, Farley displayed the key and a handwritten note on the dashboard of his car so that Laura, and others, would know he could get to her at any time. His driving excursions past her home and his telephone calls to her late at night increased. The letters he wrote to Laura became more threatening, sometimes referring to his large gun collection.
Finally, in 1986, Farley could no longer control his growing anger at Laura’s continuing rejections. He publicly and vehemently threatened her life if she would not relinquish to his desire to have her for himself. Farley also began threatening other employees at the company, including a manger, who he warned about his gun collection, his expertise with guns, and the fact that he "could take people with [him]" if provoked. ESL management, by now very concerned about Richard Farley’s bizarre behavioral patterns, terminated him in May, 1986. They were clearly concerned about Laura Black’s safety, as well as others in organization. Even as Farley was being fired from his job, an ESL manager warned Laura once more about his uncontrollable obsession and the company’s concern for her safety. Still, even the termination from his $36,000-a-year-position could not dissuade Farley. In fact, in a letter he penned to Laura just before he was fired from his job, Farley wrote, "Once I’m fired, you won’t be able to control me ever again. Pretty soon, I’ll crack under the pressure and run amok and destroy everything in my path." His words proved prophetic in the extreme.
For the next year and a half Richard Farley continued to harass Laura Black. He was experiencing economic hardships, lost two houses and found himself in trouble with the IRS for back taxes. But none of this seemed to matter to Richard Farley. He thought constantly about Laura Black and increased his efforts to gain her affection. The fact that he could no longer see her at work did nothing to check his pursuit of Laura. The telephone calls continued, as did his habit of following her whenever he could. By November 1987, his letters to Laura were voluminous and overtly threatening. In that month he wrote, "You cost me a job, forty thousand dollars in equity taxes I can’t pay, and a foreclosure. Yet I still like you. Why do you want to find out how far I’ll go?" Closing his letter, Farley threatened Black again: "I absolutely will not be pushed around, and I’m beginning to get tired of being nice."
Laura Black, in fear for her life and completely victimized by the ever-present Farley, eventually sought, and was granted, a temporary restraining order against him. The TRO forbade him from approaching within 300 yards of Ms. Black and ordered him not to contact her in any manner. The order was served against Richard Farley on February 8, 1988, with a hearing scheduled for the matter on February 17, 1988. For Farley, this temporary restraining order was an act of ultimate abandonment on Laura’s part. He now knew, without question, that Laura Black would never submit to his advances. All that was left for Richard Farley was revenge—and he already had much of what he needed to take that course. Still, on February 9, 1988, Richard Farley purchased a new, 12-gauge semiautomatic shotgun and ammunition for his arsenal of personal weapons. He spent $2,000 that day, despite his financial problems, just to be sure he had everything he needed.
When Farley returned to the offices of his former employer on Tuesday, February 16, 1988, two days after Valentine’s Day, he was clearly prepared for maximum violence. It was just after 3:00 PM as he drove his motor home into the ESL parking lot, armed with his new shotgun, a rifle, two handguns, bandoleers of ammunition strapped across his chest, and a container of gasoline. In all, Richard Farley carried nearly 100 pounds of firearms and ammunition which he transferred from the motor home to his body in preparation for his assault on ESL.
Walking across the parking lot to the office building, Farley shot and killed his first victim, a 46-year-old data processing specialist who he knew. He then approached the building entrance and blasted his way through the locked glass doors, heading directly for Laura Black’s office. Making his way to Laura’s location, Farley fired indiscriminately at anyone in his path. Before reaching Laura Black, Farley shot six employees, killing four instantly with powerful blasts from his semiautomatic shotgun. Hearing the chaos outside of her office, Laura Black slammed and locked the door, hoping to find some refuge.
It was to no avail. Farley leveled his shotgun at the office door and blew it off the hinges. Jumping past the shattered door and moving swiftly towards Laura Black’s desk he raised the shotgun again and fired twice. The first shot missed, but the second critically wounded Laura Black, severing arteries, tearing muscles and destroying bone in her shoulder. Although losing a great deal of blood, and in unimaginable pain, Laura was able to avoid Farley by hiding in an adjoining office and then making a run for the parking lot where, by that time, waiting ambulances and a SWAT team had arrived. During his rampage Farley killed 7 employees and wounded another 4, including Laura. At the end of his murderous siege, which lasted for five hours, Farley surrendered to a police SWAT team.
Throughout the standoff, law enforcement personnel later recounted that Richard Farley expressed no remorse for what he had done and, in fact, appeared to delight in the mayhem and chaos surrounding his actions. The once pristine ESL offices had become a chaotic killing zone of the dead and wounded. Videos and photographs of the events that day clearly depict the heroic efforts of law enforcement officials helping those employees fortunate enough to escape Farley’s revenge as they scurried for any cover they could find. The injured, including a critically-wounded Laura Black, were rushed away for treatment as members of the SWAT team eventually ushered Richard Farley from ESL for the final time.
The Crime
By the 1980s, ESL (Electromagnetic Systems Labs) Incorporated could be justifiably proud of its reputation as a premier defense contractor and a respected landmark in the burgeoning electronics industry. Located in the heart of Silicon Valley, and sporting a modern office complex in the flourishing city of Sunnyvale, ESL provided its employees with a comfortable working environment and a camaraderie unique to the "high tech" firms which populated the area south of San Francisco known as "the Peninsula." It was, by any standard, an exciting place to work, in an area of California known for its singular blend of relaxed living, unparalleled business innovations and modern management style.
It was at this time, and into this place, Richard Wade Farley would arrive as a software technician in search of the consummate career. There would have been every reason for Farley to look forward to the future with unrestrained optimism when he joined the company after leaving the military. This was, after all, a nearly ideal turn of circumstances for a man with a much-demanded skill and a high security clearance gained from a ten-year stint with the Navy. Still, Richard Farley reported to work that first day with something dark and unseen secreted within his psyche. Perhaps he sensed his own uneasiness; or maybe he dismissed it as the expected initial jitters of beginning a new and challenging career. Perhaps he never felt anything at all. Whatever he may have known or expected, in less than four years Richard Farley would leave this company and its employees forever changed; permanently scarred by the unrecognized but developing psychosis he brought to ESL that day. His legacy would be one of unforgettable mayhem—that of one of California’s most vicious workplace murderers.
From the moment Farley was introduced to Laura Black, an electrical engineer who had worked at the company for less than a year, he was obsessed with her. The dark-haired, petite and athletic 22-year-old spoke easily to him during that first meeting, unaware that Richard Farley had already decided he would have her, one way or other. Later recalling their first meeting during court testimony, Farley said, "I think I fell instantly in love with her. It was just one of those things, I guess." Laura Black, at first, had no inkling of Richard Farley’s obsession with her.
During the three and a half years following that meeting, Farley would write some 200 letters to Laura, constantly follow her to and from work, leave gifts on her desk, and rifle through confidential personnel files to learn more about her personal life. At one point, learning that Laura Black was to visit her parents in Virginia in December, 1984, Farley broke into her desk at the office, obtained the address of her parents, and wrote letters to her in Virginia. Throughout 1984 and 1985 his letters were not overtly threatening; but that was to change as Laura continued to thwart his advances.
Farley would frequently drive past her home at night, telephone her at any hour, and, at one point, even join her aerobics class to remain as close as possible to Laura, day and night. Although Richard Farley dated another woman, and eventually lived with her in his San Jose bungalow, he twice attempted to move into the same apartment building where Laura lived. When at work or approaching her on the street, Farley would often ask for a date but would inevitably be turned aside by the polite and naturally-gentle Laura. These rejections would inevitably bring on recurring protestations and endless restatements of his limitless love for her. She would do what she could to avoid him and deter his advances; he would respond by redoubling his efforts with more telephone calls, more harassment, more gifts and incessant car trips past her home. Laura Black would be forced to move twice during these years as Farley’s harassment continued unabated at work, at her apartment complex and even on shopping trips.
Eventually, Richard Farley could no longer take "no" for an answer and his tactics became aggressive and cruel. He would make derogatory statements about Laura and rifle through her locked desk in search of even more information about her personal life and activities away from work. It seemed that every effort Laura Black made to avoid Farley was answered with further encounters with him, each contact becoming more offensive than the previous. Richard Farley was a man who had obviously succumbed to an obsession which was quickly approaching a violent finale. Laura Black was running out of options; her life had become hell thanks to Richard Farley.
By the Fall of 1985, Richard Farley had pursued Laura Black so vehemently that she turned to the Human Resources department at ESL for help. Farley was told he must attend psychological counseling sessions and stop harassing Laura if he wanted to keep his job. Although Farley attended the required counseling sessions on a regular schedule, the harassment did not diminish—it escalated. During the period he was attending counseling, Farley made a duplicate copy of Laura Black’s house key which she had inadvertently left on her desk. Rather than using the key to gain entry to her apartment, Farley displayed the key and a handwritten note on the dashboard of his car so that Laura, and others, would know he could get to her at any time. His driving excursions past her home and his telephone calls to her late at night increased. The letters he wrote to Laura became more threatening, sometimes referring to his large gun collection.
Finally, in 1986, Farley could no longer control his growing anger at Laura’s continuing rejections. He publicly and vehemently threatened her life if she would not relinquish to his desire to have her for himself. Farley also began threatening other employees at the company, including a manger, who he warned about his gun collection, his expertise with guns, and the fact that he "could take people with [him]" if provoked. ESL management, by now very concerned about Richard Farley’s bizarre behavioral patterns, terminated him in May, 1986. They were clearly concerned about Laura Black’s safety, as well as others in organization. Even as Farley was being fired from his job, an ESL manager warned Laura once more about his uncontrollable obsession and the company’s concern for her safety. Still, even the termination from his $36,000-a-year-position could not dissuade Farley. In fact, in a letter he penned to Laura just before he was fired from his job, Farley wrote, "Once I’m fired, you won’t be able to control me ever again. Pretty soon, I’ll crack under the pressure and run amok and destroy everything in my path." His words proved prophetic in the extreme.
For the next year and a half Richard Farley continued to harass Laura Black. He was experiencing economic hardships, lost two houses and found himself in trouble with the IRS for back taxes. But none of this seemed to matter to Richard Farley. He thought constantly about Laura Black and increased his efforts to gain her affection. The fact that he could no longer see her at work did nothing to check his pursuit of Laura. The telephone calls continued, as did his habit of following her whenever he could. By November 1987, his letters to Laura were voluminous and overtly threatening. In that month he wrote, "You cost me a job, forty thousand dollars in equity taxes I can’t pay, and a foreclosure. Yet I still like you. Why do you want to find out how far I’ll go?" Closing his letter, Farley threatened Black again: "I absolutely will not be pushed around, and I’m beginning to get tired of being nice."
Laura Black, in fear for her life and completely victimized by the ever-present Farley, eventually sought, and was granted, a temporary restraining order against him. The TRO forbade him from approaching within 300 yards of Ms. Black and ordered him not to contact her in any manner. The order was served against Richard Farley on February 8, 1988, with a hearing scheduled for the matter on February 17, 1988. For Farley, this temporary restraining order was an act of ultimate abandonment on Laura’s part. He now knew, without question, that Laura Black would never submit to his advances. All that was left for Richard Farley was revenge—and he already had much of what he needed to take that course. Still, on February 9, 1988, Richard Farley purchased a new, 12-gauge semiautomatic shotgun and ammunition for his arsenal of personal weapons. He spent $2,000 that day, despite his financial problems, just to be sure he had everything he needed.
When Farley returned to the offices of his former employer on Tuesday, February 16, 1988, two days after Valentine’s Day, he was clearly prepared for maximum violence. It was just after 3:00 PM as he drove his motor home into the ESL parking lot, armed with his new shotgun, a rifle, two handguns, bandoleers of ammunition strapped across his chest, and a container of gasoline. In all, Richard Farley carried nearly 100 pounds of firearms and ammunition which he transferred from the motor home to his body in preparation for his assault on ESL.
Walking across the parking lot to the office building, Farley shot and killed his first victim, a 46-year-old data processing specialist who he knew. He then approached the building entrance and blasted his way through the locked glass doors, heading directly for Laura Black’s office. Making his way to Laura’s location, Farley fired indiscriminately at anyone in his path. Before reaching Laura Black, Farley shot six employees, killing four instantly with powerful blasts from his semiautomatic shotgun. Hearing the chaos outside of her office, Laura Black slammed and locked the door, hoping to find some refuge.
It was to no avail. Farley leveled his shotgun at the office door and blew it off the hinges. Jumping past the shattered door and moving swiftly towards Laura Black’s desk he raised the shotgun again and fired twice. The first shot missed, but the second critically wounded Laura Black, severing arteries, tearing muscles and destroying bone in her shoulder. Although losing a great deal of blood, and in unimaginable pain, Laura was able to avoid Farley by hiding in an adjoining office and then making a run for the parking lot where, by that time, waiting ambulances and a SWAT team had arrived. During his rampage Farley killed 7 employees and wounded another 4, including Laura. At the end of his murderous siege, which lasted for five hours, Farley surrendered to a police SWAT team.
Throughout the standoff, law enforcement personnel later recounted that Richard Farley expressed no remorse for what he had done and, in fact, appeared to delight in the mayhem and chaos surrounding his actions. The once pristine ESL offices had become a chaotic killing zone of the dead and wounded. Videos and photographs of the events that day clearly depict the heroic efforts of law enforcement officials helping those employees fortunate enough to escape Farley’s revenge as they scurried for any cover they could find. The injured, including a critically-wounded Laura Black, were rushed away for treatment as members of the SWAT team eventually ushered Richard Farley from ESL for the final time.
Law enforcement takes too long to get involved
