Any of yall got narcissistic family members?

[that guy]

Its a really huge topic and one many don't wish to recognize or realize but the truth is if one or both of your parents are narcissistic then it was over before it began unless you make that change and disconnect from their presence.

Its so mean and wicked really but then this world is created by the type and thus they thrive which is exactly what MJ meant when he said They Don't Really Care About Us as its all a facade, an image to assist in draining your energetics. That is who is in charge of this realm and why its no measure of mental health to be well adjusted to socially sanctioned sickness.

Those who are Bright Souls and shine inside are often taken for a ride until they wise up and read between the lines as its such a crazy thing thats so hard to speak due to continual gaslighting on as the Dark Souls are pros at image building/seeming perfect in anothers eyes. Social media on the whole is just a digital presentation of this pathology.

I'll say it again, if you've got these kind of people in your life - Walk away. Don't say a thing, don't reason or explain because they'll never change as they are incapable of introspection on a fundamental level as there is nothing but a vacuum within that justifies its existence by feeding.

This is on point

 

[MMS]

Validation.

That and the Coli wants to keep up with the trends and become the main connect when it comes to that dopamine fix.

Its wild when you think we're getting pimped by over stimulation which fabricates human connection, as I said elsewhen:

The internet or how we can all be lonely together now

Sometimes it trips me out when I think about the fact that I'm sitting here tapping keys and you're sitting there reading words on a screen. Disconnected yet connecting, ain't that some paradoxical ish? Its like the net breeds a special kind of isolation under the guise of community when in...

www.thecoli.com

real talk, its subtle but ive noticed it

in fact the biggest change were daps. I still rememeber when plat thread and star rating still the only measurables. I will say this, that feeling like reality is eating away at you, avoid that feeling as best you can. It leads to weird places...

fundamentally this is why many people believe in that God. Many routes go in strange places especially when contemplating causality. Its like if things fall apart, why are their attractive forces?

 

[85 East]

My mom. We stay away from eachother. No one in her family likes her except my siblings. Her siblings despise her.

 

[Complexion]

In a narcissist’s mind, the world is like a video game or movie where they are the main character/actor and everyone around them is just a background character.

Could... I... Be... A... Narcissist?

Interesting perspective but I think its the opposite as they are devoid of an inner realm and thus try their best to convince everyone else they are the main character hence image building that is so important to them and they hate anyone who speaks the truth or goes against them as its quite literally the performance of a lifetime aka a lifetime performance.

The Prestige, in full effect.

in fact the biggest change were daps.

I'd be willing to bet a lot of people edit their intent for daps or (and worse) don't say something in case they get the choo choo effect. Rep is like social credit in that sense but even without it you know who is on the level and who isn't like back when it was BBSs. And I'm talking about dialup, not the rims.

Peoples posts spoke for themselves.

It is what it is really, nothing more nothing less, because donkeys live a long time. Doesn't mean they have the intellect to match the experience and this is just like that except its all about the daps. The old aliases and how wild it was back then attests to that quite well as its far tamer now in comparison and not as entertaining.

Alias wars were the ish! So creative and free spirited as it was posting without limits but plenty of gimmicks like the dyslexic Cosby kid.

 

[Still Benefited]

I'd be willing to bet most of our parents, if they were boomers have narcissistic traits or may be full blown narcissist.

Im willing to bet genx/genz has been programmed to think everyone is a narcisist but them


That word is so overused because practically everyone is a "narcissist" in some capacity because people value different things differently.


Also someone can APPEAR to be a narcissist simply because they have a big heart and care too much. There is a difference in someone being a narcissist,and someone simply lacking self awareness


Most people just fall into the lacking self awareness column. And based on how many people are in here advocating ghosting friends and family,rather than checking them and making them aware. Its no wonder people lack awareness.

 

[that guy]

Have you picked up any Narcissistic traits? If not what was it that allowed you to not be a narcissist like the rest of your family?

In all honesty I think it’s purely genetics. If you think about it, narcissism is a dominant trait. My mom isn’t a narcissist so the chances of me getting the “gene” for narcissism was 25% I’m the fourth and youngest child so I have a lot of characteristics and genes that they don’t. For instance, I’m the only one in my family that’s over 6 feet tall, the only one with a widows peak, only one that needed glasses etc. I had the polar opposite personality as a child and I always perceived the world from everyone else’s perspective even disregarding my own at times.

The fact that I had this perception of the world from a reality other than my own is how I came to understand narcissism. I would always question why my family would do things and when I understood narcissism as a teen it all clicked. Once I became an adult and moved out I never spoke to them again and I’ve been happy ever since.

Like another poster said some people are just energy vampires. One day my dad sent me an email questioning why I haven’t spoken to my family in years. I had hope that he changed until the read the rest of the email where he basically bragged about all of his accomplishments over the last couple of years that we haven’t spoke. Not once did he ask about my well being. It was like a coli humble brag thread. Reminded me that I made the right decision

 

[ba'al]

Im willing to bet genx/genz has been programmed to think everyone is a narcisist but them

 

[buzzkill]

Im willing to bet genx/genz has been programmed to think everyone is a narcisist but them


That word is so overused because practically everyone is a "narcissist" in some capacity because people value different things differently.


Also someone can APPEAR to be a narcissist simply because they have a big heart and care too much. There is a difference in someone being a narcissist,and someone simply lacking self awareness


Most people just fall into the lacking self awareness column. And based on how many people are in here advocating ghosting friends and family,rather than checking them and making them aware. Its no wonder people lack awareness.

U can see the narcissism in our generation on social media. I never said we werent.

 

[boriquaking]

My mom.


And myself

 

[silk scarfs]

my best friend growing up was a text book narcissist.

before i thought narcissit was just a buzz word females use to describe they ex or something. but once i looked up the traits it fit this nikka to a T.

everytime he would talk in some way it was about himself. in every story he told he was always the victim. everybody was always out to get him. every person was jealous of him. and nothing was ever his fault. this nikka was extremely insecure al the time and kept thinking people are just hating on him all the time.

it came to a point where it was too hard being his friend. when i cut him out my life everything has been way better.

 

[Kornball The Conqueror]

narcissistic feminist, my mother

 

[ba'al]

For all the people with a Narc family member. How do the other members of your family members respond to that person?
Do they ignore them? Do they have a cult following of flying monkeys? Any Black sheeps or Scapegoats? Do they even notice?

The bold was true for me. I had to basically play the parent. I was the level-headed one. The one who would caution him not trust this person or that. Caution him on not repeating mistakes. Caution him on being careful with his money and not to stunt. Have to deal with the consequences of his tantrums. At one point I was paying for my siblings rents when they were in med school. He only offered to pay for some of their expenses when he found out I was paying for shyt. I recall a time when my younger siblings told him that I was more of a father to them than he was and their only example a good black man was me. Had no effect on him other than having him act out more instead of reflecting. shyt will drain any level-headed person.

Yep, my abusive dad (not God obviously but my actual biological dad). I cut him off for good though and everything been good since.

My mom
I don’t deal with her at all

Yes unfortunately. It damaged me

In all honesty I think it’s purely genetics. If you think about it, narcissism is a dominant trait. My mom isn’t a narcissist so the chances of me getting the “gene” for narcissism was 25% I’m the fourth and youngest child so I have a lot of characteristics and genes that they don’t. For instance, I’m the only one in my family that’s over 6 feet tall, the only one with a widows peak, only one that needed glasses etc. I had the polar opposite personality as a child and I always perceived the world from everyone else’s perspective even disregarding my own at times.

The fact that I had this perception of the world from a reality other than my own is how I came to understand narcissism. I would always question why my family would do things and when I understood narcissism as a teen it all clicked. Once I became an adult and moved out I never spoke to them again and I’ve been happy ever since.

Like another poster said some people are just energy vampires. One day my dad sent me an email questioning why I haven’t spoken to my family in years. I had hope that he changed until the read the rest of the email where he basically bragged about all of his accomplishments over the last couple of years that we haven’t spoke. Not once did he ask about my well being. It was like a coli humble brag thread. Reminded me that I made the right decision

My mom.


And myself

narcissistic feminist, my mother

 

[Child_Of_God]

For all the people with a Narc family member. How do the other members of your family members respond to that person?
Do they ignore them? Do they have a cult following of flying monkeys? Any Black sheeps or Scapegoats? Do they even notice?

My mom side of the family was cool with my father, he was very charismatic, confident and easy going when you first meet him but after awhile he would reveal a glimpse of his dark side like being very verbally abusive and controlling to those who he deemed as ”beneath” him. My family is no longer associated with my father after word got out that he abused me and my mom.

 

[High Art]

For all the people with a Narc family member. How do the other members of your family members respond to that person?
Do they ignore them? Do they have a cult following of flying monkeys? Any Black sheeps or Scapegoats? Do they even notice?

It's a mixed reaction. A lot of that stems from the fact that he has a lot of charisma but eventually he will let his mask slip since it is frustrating for him to keep up the charade since his tendency towards holding grudges and inability to control himself does him in. My mother always made excuses for him until she was the one in his cross-hairs. My siblings don't see him as irredeemable but at the same time they don't go out of their way to interact with him. They see his behavior as a mental illness that he has to fix himself but see it as one that can be fixed. All other extended family members either stay away from him or interact with him in a very limited sense since they have seen some aspects of his personality or are aware of it since he has been like this for the longest time.

 

[boriquaking]

For all the people with a Narc family member. How do the other members of your family members respond to that person?
Do they ignore them? Do they have a cult following of flying monkeys? Any Black sheeps or Scapegoats? Do they even notice?

My dad used to just put up with it, i’m the youngest of 3 boys, i think my siblings just ignore it, i kinda of do the same now but it bothered me for a while