this describes my friend i grew up with who i had to cut off entirely. the only people who like him are people who dont spend all of time with him at allcause he can put on the character on and appear confident charismatic but anybody whos known him for a while all need to cut him off. his own mother brother and friends all had to stop dealing with him. but in his head its everybody else is at fault and nobody is loyal like him.
They think she retarded
The ones that know keep their distance
I’m mad late, but what was your perception of the world before?In all honesty I think it’s purely genetics. If you think about it, narcissism is a dominant trait. My mom isn’t a narcissist so the chances of me getting the “gene” for narcissism was 25% I’m the fourth and youngest child so I have a lot of characteristics and genes that they don’t. For instance, I’m the only one in my family that’s over 6 feet tall, the only one with a widows peak, only one that needed glasses etc. I had the polar opposite personality as a child and I always perceived the world from everyone else’s perspective even disregarding my own at times.
The fact that I had this perception of the world from a reality other than my own is how I came to understand narcissism. I would always question why my family would do things and when I understood narcissism as a teen it all clicked. Once I became an adult and moved out I never spoke to them again and I’ve been happy ever since.
Like another poster said some people are just energy vampires. One day my dad sent me an email questioning why I haven’t spoken to my family in years. I had hope that he changed until the read the rest of the email where he basically bragged about all of his accomplishments over the last couple of years that we haven’t spoke. Not once did he ask about my well being. It was like a coli humble brag thread. Reminded me that I made the right decision
This is a good pointIm willing to bet genx/genz has been programmed to think everyone is a narcisist but them
That word is so overused because practically everyone is a "narcissist" in some capacity because people value different things differently.
Also someone can APPEAR to be a narcissist simply because they have a big heart and care too much. There is a difference in someone being a narcissist,and someone simply lacking self awareness
Most people just fall into the lacking self awareness column. And based on how many people are in here advocating ghosting friends and family,rather than checking them and making them aware. Its no wonder people lack awareness.
You can’t try to be a narcissist. These people have no sense of remorse or ability to be accountable for their actions
None taken, ignorance can be blissful so I wish that were true - read what I’ve said in this thread and compare it to your posts, it seems you still have things to figure out - which is okay because we are all at different steps in our journey
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I don't mind Russell Westbrook as a person but trying to create a happy home with a narc and thrive in life is like trying to win an NBA championship with Russ as your second option and primary decision maker while having to go through teams with a prime Lebron with pieces around him and Steph's Warriors. It's mission impossible.
its embarrassing and heartbreaking. They cant see that theyre fukked up where they need help.
