Anybody else feel resentment towards their parents?

[Zero]

thats not what op is talking about though.
op is a teenage girl in college in america and shes from canada
so her parents raised her well enough that she has the oppourtunity to continue her education
shes got internet access to complain on the coli
shes got a cellphone to talk to her parents
she goes out and enjoys a social life

op is worked up for having to take out student loans or not having as much money as some of her crew to
run the streets all day every day.

entitled bullshyt.,

Well damn girl

 

[wickedsm]

Well damn girl

if im wrong im wrong
i dont have any problem with op, that wasnt a dig at her
shes young, her mind will [should] change as she gets older.
but seems like first world problems to me.

oddly enough the kids i know that had the most fukked up childhoods/ parents seem to be the least resentful.
and those are with issues much more serious than "well they didnt really set me up for success as an adult with college or savings funds"

 

[Neuromancer]

if im wrong im wrong
i dont have any problem with op, that wasnt a dig at her
shes young, her mind will [should] change as she gets older.
but seems like first world problems to me.

oddly enough the kids i know that had the most fukked up childhoods/ parents seem to be the least resentful.
and those are with issues much more serious than "well they didnt really set me up for success as an adult with college or savings funds"

Facts aunty

 

[MrWestGrand]

Never really knew my pops, and he pasted away when I was in college. My mother did a ok job raising me, but we can't have a relationship because she's very narssistic, rude, and disrespectful to people. You can love your parents, but get to a point in realizing their demons shouldn't be fought by you or use against you. I love my mother to death, use to do anything I could when she asked I.e time, money, staying loyal in family disputes when she's been way outta line with others, just genuinely tring to show her how much I care, but she's been in these streets a long time, so that's all she knows. I thank her for @ least giving me a chance to be normal, but wish things between us were different.

 

[TheArchitect]

I don't, but that's because I choose not to hold a grudge.

See, my parent s were good PROVIDERS. Thing is, they cared more about my grades than they did my well-being....

Mother was very domineering, verbally/emotionally abusive. She was the type that would harass and push me to the point where when I finally lashed out at her, she'd want to act like her feelings were hurt and try and play the victim....COMPLETELY ignorant of how the world turns, gave HORRIBLE advice.

Stepfather, to me, was "second-in command". Basically he was just roll along with my mother's dumbass shyt. Wasn't a bad guy though, just weak as fukk. I think he was just trying to survive the marriage, and really didn't wanna be there. Didn't help at all.....

 

[EndDomination]

if im wrong im wrong
i dont have any problem with op, that wasnt a dig at her
shes young, her mind will [should] change as she gets older.
but seems like first world problems to me.

oddly enough the kids i know that had the most fukked up childhoods/ parents seem to be the least resentful.
and those are with issues much more serious than "well they didnt really set me up for success as an adult with college or savings funds"

Kids who grow up around other kids whose parents are actually good realize just how far they've been left behind.
Coming from my working class neighborhood, I hadn't realized that my parents did far more for me than my peers' parents did for them until we actually talked about it.

 

[wickedsm]

Kids who grow up around other kids whose parents are actually good realize just how far they've been left behind.
Coming from my working class neighborhood, I hadn't realized that my parents did far more for me than my peers' parents did for them until we actually talked about it.

and it seems that you are very greatful for what they have done for you and realize how very blessed that you are.

at the end of the day if you [generic poster you, not specifically you] want to feel resentment towards your parents because of a perceived slight based upon someone elses parents-
dont do anything but harm themselves.

your parents didnt have you as prepared as insert random persons parents here? okay
acknowlege it
determine how you are going to ensure that your children are in a much better position at your age than you are now.

or continue to wallow with those of like minds on the internet and in your real life.

 

[International Playa]

How you know?

I saw the list of guys she slept with in her phone diary, I was third.When I got with her ,her sex game was of someone who lacked experience

 

[Sccit]

Don't speak about your parents online folks

 

[Scott Larock]

I seen a commercial about a father and son law firm on TV a minute again, no disrespect but slot of us do shyt on our own. Honestly not all of us have the vision to grind on our own, not making excuses for failures but it's easier when your parents put you on a right track.

As a older breh over 35 still going to school I'd say from first hand experience your parents mean alot, I love my mom she sides a good guy never spent a day in jail, good heated brother but honestly the real world don't care about none of that shyt.

I'm from the bottom, my mom tried her best but she couldn't motivate me now ask yourself I'm not a lazy person I try hard but it's the direction that's not easy. Most my friends never went to school, Lotta low income old ass nikkas living with no money, no homes, no careers, none of these dudes are bad guys but the real world don't give a fukk about none of that nice guy shyt, it's what's you can do.

These nikkas can't do shyt and get passed over.

I work at a major University I see young white guys come in there 18 and jumping straight to medical school or law school. Their fathers are lawyers or doctors.

Really the only ones who lack the directions are a lot of black men braised under low income single mother household's, women will advance before men since shyt come to them but froe men with nothing and n one not only seeking companions but seeking education, this is why nikkas be shooting girls in the face, it's not anything but insecure dudes with no outlet for the pain. I completely agree with op. I got stories for days. I got homes over 40 so depressed try St the bar drinking every night.

A man Without strong father figure is completely isolated from the real world. Some nikkas do good but those guys imo have the mindset to run countries cuz that's the mentality it takes to succeed on your own.

I use to envy whiten folks but now I don't cuz in realize they got a leg up on life. Asians and Indians have the same thing.

 

[Raiders]

I aint made at em moms from the projects in chicago and pops from the dirt roads in Mississippi. They came from nothing, just like there parents before them. They did what they could

 

[lespaulultra3]

I knew by the way I grew up that my mom wouldn't have anything waiting for me when I graduated. I remember the days when we shopped at the goodwill for school clothes and the days when we went to the park looking for pop bottles to cash in for money. Those experiences alone were more valuable than any amount of money she could have given me because it taught me to appreciate things in life and not rely on anyone else for a handout. I bought my first car at 17 for $100, bought my first house at 24, and started my business at 26. I did this all alone and didn't even think about asking anybody else for help. There's no way I can resent my mom because she did her best and I'm only here today because of her.

 

[lespaulultra3]

And all yall saying yall parents did what they could are probably tweaking. If you can afford a place in the hood, then you can afford a place in the burns or somewhere at least safer. Black people get caught up with caring what everyone else is thinking about them too much instead of building and being different etc.

What burb are you talking about? I stay in Texas and taxes in the burbs can be as high as 7 grand a year. Much more expensive than staying in the hood.

 

[calixprynce]

only thing I "resent" was my mother's blatant favoritism towards the oldest and ma pops allowing it....

yall in here cryin on some entitled suburb kid type shyt

but what yall doing to change that?????

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

Thing is, there's always somebody who is a lot worse off than you. So if you're unhappy with the job your parents did, you need to have some perspective. Also, do better than them. If you can be critical of them, you should be able to do a better job.

But you also have to understand shyt happens.

I say abort any baby you aren't mentally or financially ready for

It's better than being a struggle parent.