aqualung
I wear a crown of curls.
But it did not prevent them from having more kids than they could afford. Therein lies the problem with my family.
"Be fruitful and multiply" does not apply to broke folk!
Anybody else feel resentment towards their parents?
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"Be fruitful and multiply" does not apply to broke folk!
My dad started a business with me in mind of taking it over. I was only 21. I wasn't thinking like that then. I wish I would have taking it from him to the next level. I am always bothered by that.It's taboo to talk about it but damn, my parents ain't plan or nothing.
Everything I do I do without help which is fine but sucks some parents hooked their kids up.
The cold hard truth is if your parents didn't plan for you, you're pretty much fukked if you don't make it yourself.
I love my mom and dad but a lot of the shyt I'm going through now could've been avoided.
easily
But yeah, sometimes you do wish you had the head start which is vital in life. Whites and everyone else but us Black folks get that. That's one of the hardest things about white supremacy, most of us don't get that chance. Some do but most don't.
This negro overcoming shyt praise got to end. This is some retarded shyt to make the white supremacist feel good that they do to athletes. It's this simple, we gotta do what we NEED to do to make our kids have something to pass down like Dame Dash. That should be the only priority.
NoChillJones
Banned
Having kids aint always bout financial security though. Kids happen when you fukk. The type of life they have depends on the type of parent you are. Sure financial security plays an important role but so does actually being there......you got people who grew up without a dime and wouldnt trade thier childhood for a million bucks......
This is a horrible post. There is no such thing as entitlement in the Black community. Even LeBron's family isn't entitled.
It's like we are always 30 years behind the trends and wondering why we getting our asses kicked by cacs, Asians and everyone else. I once used to talk to this Black/Arab mixed type of girl who I wasn't serious with but she dropped game on how they moved. It was always on some owning and making life much better for their kids tip. I heard my favorite poster @Elle Driver talk about well give them a foundation. That foundation shyt works for girls and boys who have abilities. The abilities to go to the Ivies and Black Ivies. But most Black folks ain't cut out like that. In that case is when you create businesses and pass it down for your kids. That's why buying generational wealth is vital. I listen to Gary Vanyerchuk and Blacks are so fascinated by him not realizing he got a major head start on them in how to see, view and envision a business from the ground up from the time he was 8. That's part of all he knew so him being a mid tier student is irrelevant as he build the foundation of business from an early age so if school is not for him, he will find something that is. I am telling ya'll, kids ain't stupid. They will join your business whenever they see it as the best option and they know without a doubt, it can provide a nice six figure lifestyle and they can flip it into a better opportunity.
Honestly, being tall is good for shyt like p*ssy but irrelevant to supporting your family. This value is my looks is something that nikkas and sistas got all the way fukked up and you wonder why sistas getting ass shots and shyt.my parents made me 6'2 and i will never go bald
how could i ever resent them?
Ya'll nikkas beyond backwards, if you can get your kid at least on 1st base by the time their 18, you failed as a parent. That's the thing with this generation dumb failure ass nikkas. You have to create potential doors for your kids, or at least those that stay with you. That means businesses, money to get a start. Look at Asians and cacs, they be sending their kids to professional schools and paying for it so when they graduate from a six figure University. They have NO debt. Zero! Man, that is such a head up. They already got access to money that even our best don't have and they can do that. If your mindset ain't just doing what @Elle Driver is doing, then you are even doing what you need to do at least.
You should have three goals for your kids:
1. Passing down businesses that they would be interested in. sorry but you can't do no handyman shyt and your kids don't get their hands dirty and expect them to come into the family business. Not gonna happen. They weren't raise that way, you must move on how they operate.
2. Foundation of education. This ain't got shyt to do with just school. It's making them realize the value and greatness of learning. Give the visual learning to skills like coding, artistry even if they suck, sports or dance, OBVIOUSLY finance like Boyce Watkins or Noble Woods III. Get them started in stocks at an age like 6 years old just like your Black ass quick to put him in sports thinking he's the next Bo Jackson and shyt.
3. You got or getting your shyt together. This my parents did the best their can talk is for LOSERS! Man, that's how you get fired from jobs. "I did the best I can" Ain't no one trying to heard that nonsense. Get them skills nikkas. Don't put it on the bytch. Get them skills. Get that motivation up. Work your ass off. Get serious nikka! Wake the fukk up! If you ain't got your shyt together or working hard to get the skills needed to get it together, your Black ass is a failure and yes, your parents failed you and themselves.
For me, it is.
I'm a third generation Black college student, and third generation middle class, I have a strong foundation, and there's no reason I should drop the ball when my parents and (maternal) grandparents worked so hard to put me and my brothers/first cousins into such great positions.
My parents and uncles/aunts are all professionals, and all of my brothers/first cousins are enrolled in college.
I'm not going to raise my kids in poverty and try to give them a "good childhood."
I see what you're saying though.
BlackAchilles
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Not anymore
Doesn't mean I don't still feel that they made some questionable/baffling decisions, but they're only human and they put in a great effort
Doesn't mean I don't still feel that they made some questionable/baffling decisions, but they're only human and they put in a great effort
NoChillJones
Banned
Thats bullshyt. And a personal belief. Which is a good one. But money is not the key to being a good parent. Leaving a business is not a key to being a good parent. Nothing you stated is required. Thats the problem. Yall keep thinking raising kids has to do with setting them up life. When in reality its not about setting them uo its about teaching the tools to survive. You work hard to leave them a buisness but they are emotoinal fukk tards who cant handle adversity. Great job. There is no end all be all. If thats your lane fine..but to make your lane the example....get over yaself breh. Plenty of people have done more with way less. And their are all more stronger for it....
NoChillJones
Banned
Obviously you didnt see what I was saying. To busy being a snob to digest what was actually being said. But do you breh.
Quote, Anyone and I mean anyone that's talking well I have it A LOT Better than others talk is full of it.Hmm, this is tough. I don't "resent" my mother and stepfather. I'm grateful to them because we are in a better position than a lot of people, but they made some poor financial decisions when we were young. When they were separated/going through divorce he made some more while she smartened up eventually. They are DEFINITELY making up for it now.
I wouldn't say my mother and stepfather failed at this, but they didn't exactly spot, encourage, and cultivate our talents either. I mean Joe Jackson is far from a perfect man (and sure their family still developed more than their fair share of problems), but he saw that his kids had talent, groomed it, and used that to get them the fukk outta the hood. My brother was never much of an academic, has always been VERY, VERY gifted salesperson. He could get anyone to give him their moneyThey knew it, but never turned it into positive. I've been accepted into Choirs, basketball camps (some were free), etc and they always said no but had the money for bullshyt
This is my friend's situation. Her mom is a lovely woman, but made absolutely NO PLANS. Worked off the books, didn't learn English, and didn't save for over three decades
THANK YOU. I couldn't agree more breh and fukk anyone who says you can't have it. I'm about to buy my first crib and ppl keep saying "now you're gonna have to stop traveling so much"yeah right just watch me
Azul, do athletes every say, well, I run jump higher than Larry Bird so I must have it better than them or Chris Brown like, I dance better than the coli posters so I must have it better than them. Even when I played Basketball, if you sucked, no one was like we lost but I am better than Johnson so must have it better than him? No, why, because only a loser would say that. Only a loser.
This is my some of the responses are so offensive. It's shyt losers say. Sorry, but Asians and Indians aren't coming to America saying, I have it better than Blacks so I am doing well. Only loser ass cacs do that who have white supremacy which is a system which makes the most powerless Whites more important in treatment than the most powerful of Blacks. They can afford to be losers. No one else of any other race can afford to be loser. nikkas in this thread have said at least 4 to 5 times that I had it better than others. Like if you were playing sports, would you say that? Only in the loser ass Black culture would that even be a thought. This is the shyt that bothers me. The loser mentality is killing the Black community not as much but damn near as much as the system of white supremacy itself.
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Money is key to being a good parent. What the fukk are you talking about? Ole Good Times ass statement. Wondering why J.J. is a c00n, Michael joined a gang, Selma is probably sucking a cac's dikk is because they failed you my nikka. Now money is not going to make you a good parent is 100% true but without it, you sure don't have control and a nikka without control is food.
Leaving a business is key as it's an option. Look that word up my nikka. It might not be one the child takes but it's an option. I think we undervalue the value of OPTIONS in the Black community severely. Indians in the gas stations don't expect their kid to run them but they have the OPTION to if they would like and they can't find something that better suits their skill-set.
Then you failed as a parent, your job isn't to raise and create emotional retards who can't handle adversity and on top of that their Black. That's setting them up to run to the white for procreating and protection. That's failing too. That's like being in school and doing well on test but failing every lab and you wonder why you didn't pass the class.
It's not a lane for yourself, it's a lane for all especially people who are Black where we don't have as many options in society in general due to the system of white supremacy. Any book would list the shyt I wrote. It's not some secret society magic I just told you about. It's simply good parenting.
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Elle Driver
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You gotta keep that going.
Dameon Farrow
Superstar
Yeah I think the word resentment is a little strong. Wishing someone had done some things differently isn't resentment, per say.
at folks calling it entitlement. Wow. Or calling it white people shyt.Generational wealth makes a huge difference. Otherwise every generation goes through the same shyt and reaches the same levels on average. Some of you are clueless.