Anybody ever let "The One" go?

[PimpHandStrong]

Yea....we dated from 13-21 on and off. Always thought we'd miracously get back together We were still in each other's lives until about 25, that was when I cut off all contact. She was still trying to be in my life despite leaving me, marrying another dude and having his kid We had the sort of thing where we couldn't be in a room alone with each other for long because our fake friendship would turn physical. But I guess it didn't mean much because she left me I used to think no girl would ever compare to her and that Id always feel unsatisfied because no girl could live up to her then I met the one I'm with now and she made me feel things I haven't felt in a while She made me completely forget the first one. To the point that I feel nothing for Her. I just wanna do right this time. You really do only get 3 great loves in your life. I'm on number two.

When's the last time you talked to 1st chick?

And I've heard that saying of three loves. My girl now is definitely my 1st.

 

[H@LLOW]

I wouldn't dare ask her to do that. If that's what she wants to do then so be it. Plus she has way too much self worth to do that. I'm not even saying I want to run through and smash a bunch of girls anyway.

But would you be hurt if you find out a Latino from Harlem rocking some old Tims and a durag is hitting it from the back and drinking energy drink while at it? How would you feel though ?

 

[little4209]

Nope, but he did

 

[PimpHandStrong]

Time apart or counselling.

Time apart being single dating new people maybe you reconnect. Or maybe you don't and you both find people your more compatible with, or maybe you find out you made a big mistake and some next dide is like thanks breh

Or you go to couples counselling and lay out every issue and try and work it out.

All I'm saying is the odds of finding s grounded chick no social media, loyal, loves you was with you through thick and thin chicks like these if your lucky you may only get once in your life.

Whatever decision you make, you have to think what do you want.

No man can serve two masters.

I've been on the other side of the coin a girl I loved and thought she was the one after vetting and learning from my firsg ex only to get played like a violin and it wasn't a nice feeling

You're right finding any person who doesn't mess up social media like that is damn near impossible. Hell she don't even use any app on her iPhone. She's in med school right now to be a doctor. Smart as shyt too, cot damn I've been blessed and I'm contemplating fukking up my life.

Its like part of me knows she's the girl for me but I STILL want to make sure. I'm so confused.

 

[PimpHandStrong]

But would you be hurt if you find out a Latino from Harlem rocking some old Tims and a durag is hitting it from the back and drinking energy drink while at it? How would you feel though ?

Im not going to lie, I might get in my feelings a bit. But I also realize I would have no basis for those feelings.

 

[Timeis$]

Don't marry her. You not ready for that committment.

Tell her you need a break. Which yeah she might get mad leave you and never talk to you again but hey you clearly want to explore some more.

You may meet someone else, she may meet someone else, or maybe you end up back together

 

[MikelArteta]

@DaPresident

 

[PimpHandStrong]

Don't marry her. You not ready for that committment.

Tell her you need a break. Which yeah she might get mad leave you and never talk to you again but hey you clearly want to explore some more.

You may meet someone else, she may meet someone else, or maybe you end up back together

Check this.... She was like I think you need a break. She's actually brought up the question to me in the past, if I had ever consider I might want to date other girls.

Thats how level headed she is bruh. Sometimes it amazes me how level headed and sensible she is.

 

[MikelArteta]

You're right finding any person who doesn't mess up social media like that is damn near impossible. Hell she don't even use any app on her iPhone. She's in med school right now to be a doctor. Smart as shyt too, cot damn I've been blessed and I'm contemplating fukking up my life.

Its like part of me knows she's the girl for me but I STILL want to make sure. I'm so confused.

so everything you want ala the qualities you want in a wife or mother of your child she has, but still something feels missing. Thing is I bet if you dated thots, or ratchet chicks and were played in your twenties and met her now you wouldn't have this feeling. Basically all you had was loyalty, a good woman, the rare gem all your life, and whether its the feeling of not sowing your oats, or thinking something "special" is missing.

Sometimes you gotta leave cleveland to go to miami to get that ring so to speak but in teh end your heart belongs where your heart belongs. I'll say it again the odds of ever finding a SINGLE woman like this with no baggage (kids, emotional baggage) with these qualities is slim, type of women men are praying every night on their hands and knees for, type of women jacob toiled 7 years to get

 

[Max B]

Nah breh i dont swing that way sorry

 

[KingMalik]

When's the last time you talked to 1st chick?

And I've heard that saying of three loves. My girl now is definitely my 1st.

I'm 27 now. So roughly two years. The fall of my senior year of college (I fukked around and went back to school late).

It's definitely real. I've had multiple ltrs but, with the other chicks they failed to live up to my first love. She's the first one to, she's better. Like the end of 500 Days of Summer. I made mistakes with the first one, so it ain't all on her, that's partially the reason why we broke up. The main lesson she taught me was whenever I found the next one to hold on to her and know what I had.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Is okay for her to get her back blown by a few guys while you go out on your playa phase or she should be on standby just waiting for you?

no don't make it real for him!!

 

[At30wecashout]

Was gonna type something long and drawn out, but fuuuuuuuuuck you @PimpHandStrong love her or leave her. Don't damage this chick for the next guy who played it straight. Mothafukkas always ruining people.

 

[1thouwow]

That's what I just did. My girl 21 just graduated college and starting her career 4 hrs away. I told her I love her but I need you to be free while you start this new life. I don't want nothing holding you back and I want you to experience everything unconditionally. If u need me ima always be there.

I'm 24, I do love her but I know that I'm not ready to settle down and honestly I know I'm not over my "player phase". If it's meant to be it'll work itself out

 

[Stir Fry]

Nobody here can really tell you how to proceed. I would be totally transparent with her and see where it goes. She sounds like a very understanding person, much like my wife. Both of us have found that putting everything out on the table really keeps our relationship fresh and guilt free.

My take is that if you still feel like you need to sow your oats, then that is something you're going to need to do. However, I would suggest letting your girl know this as well as how you feel about her to balance it out. Just know that times flies and before you know it you'll be . My wife still encourages me to get out with my friends as much as possible and has even given me a hall pass which I have never used. I treat her well and she just wants me to be happy and have no regrets and it sounds as though your relationship is the same way.