Anybody imagine themselves never getting married?

[shutterguy]

:thinkfdup: I'm late thirties.

I'm in my mid thirties.

I got you both beat by a few years, and I am still called a baby at 40 (I look early thirties).

Seems to me like a lot of women are raised and pushed by their mothers to have a child regardless of if its a good situation for the woman. As in, the mother wants her daughter to have a child and it doesnt matter what happens, the mother knows she will take care of the child even if the daughter a) cant, b) is not ready.

IMO its very selfish and scary and leads to these girls finding the best guy they can (has a job, a vehicle, and works hard) then having a baby (oops the condom broke, bs), then they have the kid then realize they are not ready to be tied down - and the guy is like what the fk just happened. Hes taken advantage of.

Maybe im pessimistic but seems to happen a lot... its sad. Strap up boys dont let it happen to you.. and always get a paternity test.

The bolded is the fukking truth, I have seen many a couples with kids, STRUGGLING, all because of the idea is pushed to have kids, get a house, live the american dream and go into debt. To answer the OP, yes, I definitely see myself getting married, now finding the right woman in this current climate/society is the challenge. I don't mind being alone, however I don't want to spend the rest of my life that way. It sucks though because my grandparents are 89/90 and unfortunately forced apart due my grandfather with dementia and Alzheimer's, grandmother is back at the house they bought all by herself...........

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Naahi like sleeping alone

 

[Poitier]

I'm an only child amongst other things. I became comfortable with being by myself a long time ago. If no one comes into my life it'll be unfortunate but not the end of my life. Tbh social media got me fukked up, plus I have a couple attractive women in my life who I consider to be my "big sisters" (both 30) and they give me the 110% about women. They're very successful but are very sex positive living in NY. Based on what they've said me being a poindexter with a future makes me food . Some poster made a thread last week talking about taking risks..I get that but I'd amend it to state that a nikka needs to take measured risks in life. Everything is a gamble but the playing field is not amicable for marriage. @Poitier said how everyone in the West prioritizes self. Women want money and careers and men want to do nothing yet be considered the patriarch that everyone follows, (and the they're jealous of the attention women get).

Yes I can imagine never getting married because it's more a reality than marriage .

Well said.

IMO If you are getting married in our society, your partner needs to have just as much to lose as you. Being equally yoked is even more true now than back in the day. The business aspect of it has to be just as important as love.

 

[iBrowse]

triple

 

[iBrowse]

Double

 

[Poitier]

Ye. But the problem with that is that women who are doing as well as me if not better usually aren't checking for me .

I would like to have a woman who thinks like @Rawtid when it comes to finances.

its a dirty game outchea

 

[Malta]

I'm an only child amongst other things. I became comfortable with being by myself a long time ago. If no one comes into my life it'll be unfortunate but not the end of my life. Tbh social media got me fukked up, plus I have a couple attractive women in my life who I consider to be my "big sisters" (both 30) and they give me the 110% about women. They're very successful but are very sex positive living in NY. Based on what they've said me being a poindexter with a future makes me food . Some poster made a thread last week talking about taking risks..I get that but I'd amend it to state that a nikka needs to take measured risks in life. Everything is a gamble but the playing field is not amicable for marriage. @Poitier said how everyone in the West prioritizes self. Women want money and careers and men want to do nothing yet be considered the patriarch that everyone follows, (and the they're jealous of the attention women get).

Yes I can imagine never getting married because it's more of a reality than of actual marriage .

Are the women where you live as cut throat as NY women?

 

[Rawtid]

Well said.

IMO If you are getting married in our society, your partner needs to have just as much to lose as you. Being equally yoked is even more true now than back in the day. The business aspect of it has to be just as important as love.

I think you need someone that's willing to build and is ambitious more than you need someone with something to lose. Even if you meet someone who is early in their career or education, if they have a plan and goals, there is no reason 6+ years down the line they shouldn't have anything. In fact, I think it's stupid and backwards to WAIT before you have something. Love should be last on the list of requirements because the more time you spend with someone, the more your love grows for them. Basing it on love first will get you fukked up because you may begin to let some negative qualities slide.

 

[iBrowse]

Are the women where you live as cut throat as NY women?

Exponentially so. The VI is relatively insulated from the world. The few people who are doing well have their heads up their asses. Men and women. The majority who check for me are women in not attracted to physically or professionally. There was one woman but she just went ghost on flaky on me overnight. I didn't bother finding out why.

Maybe it's "simply" a matter of relocating...easier said than done.

 

[Poitier]

I think you need someone that's willing to build and is ambitious more than you need someone with something to lose. Even if you meet someone who is early in their career or education, if they have a plan and goals, there is no reason 6+ years down the line they shouldn't have anything.

Day ones get used, abused, and left all the time. People are inherently selfish and so betting on someone doesn't assure you will be sitting at the table with them when things come to fruition. Wish it were different but this is the society we created.

 

[iBrowse]

I think you need someone that's willing to build and is ambitious more than you need someone with something to lose. Even if you meet someone who is early in their career or education, if they have a plan and goals, there is no reason 6+ years down the line they shouldn't have anything. In fact, I think it's stupid and backwards to WAIT before you have something. Love should be last on the list of requirements because the more time you spend with someone, the more your love grows for them. Basing it on love first will get you fukked up because you may begin to let some negative qualities slide.

 

[Elle Driver]

If that's your option you have to stay there with them in their own country, don't bring them over, this society can corrupt people.

#teamforeign

 

[iBrowse]

Day ones get used, abused, and left all the time. People are inherently selfish and so betting on someone doesn't assure you will be sitting at the table with them when things come to fruition. Wish it were different but this is the society we created.

Those big sisters I was talking about we're giving each other their scorned day 1 stories about nikkas they've been with..true story b.

 

[Malta]

Exponentially so. The VI is relatively insulated from the world. The few people who are doing well have their heads up their asses. Men and women. The majority who check for me are women in not attracted to physically or professionally. There was one woman but she just went ghost on flaky on me overnight. I didn't bother finding out why.

Maybe it's "simply" a matter of relocating...easier said than done.

So the women you'd want on a similar level from an education/job standpoint, want someone well above their own level, because it's such a small place and the qualified women can have unrealistic demands because there's so few of them that are attractive while also being educated and employed. That shyt is rough

Relocating would require you going to like NY, Atlanta or Houston, places with a lot of educated black women where there's a finite number of men so they can't be as completely unrealistic in their approach.

 

[Poitier]

Those big sisters I was talking about we're giving each other their scorned day 1 stories about nikkas they've been with..true story b.

its just not worth the risk