Anyone else kinda meh about dating these days?

[Bossino]

I was dating someone recently. Had a bunch of great dates, sex was great. She was all over me. I made a joke about her being the hardest working lazy person I've ever met because she didn't set the automatic seat adjustment on her car but was complaining about her uncle not fixing her seat and I guess it triggered her insecurities and she bushed me. Literally the whole energy changed over night. She ghosted me. Can't even have a conversation with her.

I took time to plan out thoughtful dates and just like that it was over.

Had another girl I invested like 8 months in and things didn't work out. The investment of money, time, emotions, it's just becoming way too much and it's just an extreme letdown when it ends. I'm just kinda at the point where I'd rather fukk women with no attachment because relationships are way too difficult. I'm jaded honestly because I really liked both....honestly I loved the one girl who I spent 8 months talking to.

Had a similar ending to a fling I had with a chick a few years ago, but I was far more blunt. I texted her saying that some of her negative attitudes towards men in general probably have roots in her father dying when she was young/not able to be around. To be fair I asked her if I could be honest with her prior, which I've come to realize is a rhetorical with women. I also previously told her that if I'm blatantly honest with you it's a compliment and shows I care because I don't want to waste your time beating around the bush and want to give you the information necessary to help deal in reality. She just texted back block. She was a feminist and very much liberal, and frankly on top of that the dad thing already was too many red flags.

To this day only intelligent/learned black woman I've met that I got along with, that was also attractive. If I get high enough and she crosses my mind I think what if, but then reason/logic kick in and I realize it more likely than not wasn't feasible. She didn't want to be kept, she was exploring her options.

The bolded is a bummer especially if you enjoy genuine romance, it'll definitely make you set time and price limits on women if you choose to deal with them

 

[The ADD]

I was dating someone recently. Had a bunch of great dates, sex was great. She was all over me. I made a joke about her being the hardest working lazy person I've ever met because she didn't set the automatic seat adjustment on her car but was complaining about her uncle not fixing her seat and I guess it triggered her insecurities and she bushed me. Literally the whole energy changed over night. She ghosted me. Can't even have a conversation with her.

I took time to plan out thoughtful dates and just like that it was over.

Had another girl I invested like 8 months in and things didn't work out. The investment of money, time, emotions, it's just becoming way too much and it's just an extreme letdown when it ends. I'm just kinda at the point where I'd rather fukk women with no attachment because relationships are way too difficult. I'm jaded honestly because I really liked both....honestly I loved the one girl who I spent 8 months talking to.

How many dates with the first chick

 

[Reno89]

I took the advice of the OGs above me and just decided on getting myself right, and building up my empire. When I’m ready, I’ll get back in to try and find a wife.

Honestly, I’m more than likely going to try to work things out with my BM. She’s made some changes, and since I got a kid with her, I’m like I might need to make it work with her. As long as she keeps improving, I think i want her back. There was a reason I chose her to begin with. She was there from the start when we were both grinding it out as 21/22 year olds.

Everything else you said was dope, but this part right here

I hear a lot of guys talk like this, and that's part of the reason why even the most average women wait it out. The greatest test of a good woman is how she holds you down while you're on your way up. These days, a lot of women want to stand at the finish line and pick the winners. Or share the winners, rather

 

[MoveForward]

Dating is beautiful, women aren’t as hard to understand or wicked as some dudes make them out to be. My roster was getting out of hand, so I stopped taking new apps and I think I found one I’m really ready to settle down with again but I have to give her a couple of more sh*t test.

 

[Reno89]

The Dating Game these days is not worth putting much time nor energy into. It's like going to a used car lot with $15,000 cash, and the best they got in your price range is a 2006 Toyota 4Runner with 220,000 miles.

There are a lot of guys out there working hard and striving to do better, but a lot of women out here are putting little to no effort into being even moderately desirable for the average guy.

The ones that are moderately desirable get attention from so many guys, they figure that they might as well hold out for a 6-foot, six-figure dude.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

How many dates with the first chick

About 5-6.

We hung out all day. She was face timing me from work. Whole 9.

After that misunderstanding, she was like I wore this dress to give you some ass tonight but I'm not giving you anything now. It was never the same again. It was so strange.

 

[BaggerofTea]

I took the advice of the OGs above me and just decided on getting myself right, and building up my empire. When I’m ready, I’ll get back in to try and find a wife.

Honestly, I’m more than likely going to try to work things out with my BM. She’s made some changes, and since I got a kid with her, I’m like I might need to make it work with her. As long as she keeps improving, I think i want her back. There was a reason I chose her to begin with. She was there from the start when we were both grinding it out as 21/22 year olds.

Gotta bless this post, this is the right thinking

 

[BaggerofTea]

It’s nothing but white bytches in Portland….

Run through them hoes but don't even think about seeding them

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

I just let it come to.me nowadays
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been my bag for years

women always say "my ex worked harder to get me or men really have to try to be with me" after they realize that I stole the p*ssy like a casual bandit without much effort. it can lead to some resentment in hindsight. it did in my last relationship.

i told a female friend of a friend I don't really try hard in dating and she got offended n tried to flip it on me and say that it was actually try hard shyt to say that ...she went off started getting sarcastic and I was just laughing cuz in my head I was like bytch you must be going thru it right now in the dating world

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Went through a lot of shyt to find my gem. Tons of dating sites, apps, and dates but I found the one right before the pandemic hit too.

It sucks but you just gotta keep pushing till you find the one. In the mean time don’t take any of dating shyt too serious, don’t spend any bread until she proves herself, don’t be thirsty, and make sure you always lead.

women want a man who will lead and take charge and this is why the shyts all fukked up becsuse women are more grown than men these days. Mean while women mostly want to be submissive and take your lead but they can’t unless they deem you worthy.

I would also say you should set your age range to women a few years younger than you.

 

[Bledswole]

Dating is trash,the main thing you run into after talking to plenty of women is none of them feel like they have any issues and none take accountability lol I guarantee if you talk to ten women that just got out of a relationship ALL 10 will swear they did nothing wrong shyt is mind boggling

Also every woman think they are a dime literally you got 5&6’s out here curving nikkas and feeling themselves too much.

Different era shyt ain’t the same my advice just have casual sex and if you bump into a good one cuff her if you think she worth it

 

[Taadow]

I’ve been done.

 

[buzzkill]

I still date but idk if women are getting worse and more fickle by the year or if at 28 I'm getting tired of this shyt

Sometimes I feel like the juice ain't worth the squeeze

I really don't feel like trying to game a woman into liking me any more and only want to deal with women who have high interest from the jump

 

[Jahbarri]

The busier I get the more I want 2 things

1. A legit wifey type

2. No strings attached p*ssy

Anything in the middle is a complete waste of time for me. If you're not the wifey mother of my kids type, or you don't want easy sex, its automatic bushes. Those "middle of the road" women are invisible to me. It's weird, but it's true

What if the wifey type wants easy sex would u wife her

 

[Neuromancer]

A lot of men are. Sign of the times.