Anyone ever date a girl who was raped?

[4North1Side2]

yes...i married her....

another sign that i ignored with this woman

sex was never great and to be honest she probably doesnt really like it and just does it to please whatever man shes with

emotional issues out of this world....

How do you figure?


My ex and I had that crazy out of this world sex as many described in this thread.

I always felt she was using me sexually to get rid of her suppressed demons.

1.5 years the sex really started changing. No more crazy sex, got really vanilla to the point where missionary was our only position we fukked in.

The only time she would want to fukk me was when I was mad or ignoring her.

I had a real conversation with her pointing out the changes in her and determined that she doesn't like sex really at all and I've come to terms with it.

 

[CashmereThoughts]

damaged goods. id never. having someone forcefully take the p*ssy? she gonna be fukked up

 

[Voice of Reason]

THATS HER GO TO LINE




Nah....she ain't cheating on me for nobody she don't even like nikkas....I forgot to add she been with girls since even all her friends were shocked how I got her to not only date guys but a black guy

That's what u think

 

[Gold]

I"m always surprised at how many women I know that have been raped.

Always surprises me.

 

[Voice of Reason]

Have any of you guys met or saw the person who sexually abused the woman you were in a relationship with?

I dated a woman who was sexually abused by her uncle from 13 or 14 to 18. I'm a very understanding dude but their are some things I just don't get.

He looked like this

Spoiler

http://www.xvideos.com/video1177646/queer_old_man_gets_sucked_and_licks_young_pink_p*ssy

I know she was young and he was a authoritan figure being afraid of him. I know its her past and has nothing to do with me but I always held it against her.

He was such a disgusting bummy looking tiny dude. She said he never threatened her and it happened nearly everyday. how the fukk can you open your legs for someone who looks like that!? It got me so heated!!!

I couldn't look at her the same. Every time we had sex I saw her disgusting uncle all over her. I felt like the biggest loser in the world.

You've got self esteem issues breh.Youre looking for a woman to reaffirm yourself

 

[Samori Toure]

they put an imprint on you breh, probably why you got into several long term relationships with women who were raped, molested, sexually abused etc.

What no one in this thread seems to be saying is that many mothers, grandmothers and women going all the way back through slavery were raped. Those women never got counseling because none was ever available, but they may have passed on a lot of dysfunction to their children which some have come to see as normal behavior.

 

[Loose]

I knew this one girl who was a straight up dime ( didn't date her) , we started talking then she came out and told me she got raped as a teenager. She told me dude who raped her gave her herpes

 

[The D-List Vet]

Yeah plenty even though some didn't consider it rape.

I had one that was raped by an older dude she met on the train going to school. She was 14 and he told her he was 18 but she suspects he was 20ish. She wanted to be fast and cut school to meet him and he took her to an empty apt and raped her. She never told her family out of shame but did go to counseling. She was emotionally unstable though.

Another that bothered me was a girl I wanted to marry. She was friends with one of those groupie types out in Hou. They went out to a concert and dinner with some NFL dudes. Her friend talks homegirl into going back to the room to drink and smoke. She disappears with the one guy leaving this chick alone with a dude she didn't know and he ends up grabbing her and forcing her pants off and raping her. She told me she didn't consider it rape cause they had hung out all night....she just didn't want to fukk at that moment and place.

Also knew another chick that managed to get raped at least once every 5-6 months like clockwork for the 2 years I knew her. She either would pass out somewhere from drinking or drugs and wake up with wild stories. She got kidnapped once and gang raped in a van after leaving a roller rink. Never called the police once. I was like bytch you need to just sell that p*ssy then cause you ain't taking care of it at all.

What the fukk

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

How do you figure?


My ex and I had that crazy out of this world sex as many described in this thread.

I always felt she was using me sexually to get rid of her suppressed demons.

1.5 years the sex really started changing. No more crazy sex, got really vanilla to the point where missionary was our only position we fukked in.

The only time she would want to fukk me was when I was mad or ignoring her.

I had a real conversation with her pointing out the changes in her and determined that she doesn't like sex really at all and I've come to terms with it.

i was with the chick for 7 years...in the beginning sex was cool and often...but the longer we were together the more infrequent it got...to where it was once a month at the end...

anyway...its just the impression i got

 

[Groot]

We are Groot...

 

[getmoney310cpt]

I've met quite a few that I know or suspect have been messed with..most were white girls but a few black girls told me it happened to them as well but they usually got raped as a teen by a BF as with the white girls they got messed with at a young age by they pops or people close to thier family..this is why I think white girls are usually the nastiest sexually and know how to suck dikk so good and love anal do porn sell p*ssy like it's nothing...most been molested like that since a child to the point where they're nyphos once they reach adulthood like its second nature to be someone's slut..why you think white girls love to swallow cum and take it in the butt so much? Cause uncle jimmy been doing it to her since she was 8

 

[Mr. Somebody]

There ain't shyt in the bible to teach people how to deal with rape.
The church is terrible for this kinda thing at all levels.
Its not therapy.

There's a lot friend.

It takes strength. What bible verse prepares you for the pain of losing a loved one early friend.

At any moment tragedy can strike due to unforseen events or the consequences of ours and others actions.

You have to dig deep and realize that you cannot become a demon or a shut in because you were touched by filth. Especially if you are alive to tell the story.

Fear no man but God. Now obviously, Believing this is easier said then done and it's not something a therapist can talk you through. Friends need friends to talk about their pain but there will come a point where individuals start talking in circles with speech like

I'm so depressed

I'm so nothing

I am filth

I don't deserve love

Everyone sees my shame

I can't recover from this tragedy

I'll live the next 5 decades of my life I the house thinking about my pain.

You don't understand, 50 years ago I experienced demonic filth. You can never understand my pain.

This is when friends have to decide if they want to continue an endless cycle of self loathing and despair or say to themselves, that was then and this is now and Im above my past. But again, friend, that's a personal decision and journey. Let's not use our pain to downward spiral or use our pain as a bartering chip for sympathy and passes to act inappropriate

Friend.

 

[42 Monks]

There's a lot friend.

It takes strength. What bible verse prepares you for the pain of losing a loved one early friend.

At any moment tragedy can strike due to unforseen events or the consequences of ours and others actions.

You have to dig deep and realize that you cannot become a demon or a shut in because you were touched by filth. Especially if you are alive to tell the story.

Fear no man but God. Now obviously, Believing this is easier said then done and it's not something a therapist can talk you through. Friends need friends to talk about their pain but there will come a point where individuals have to decide if they want to continue an endless cycle if self loathing and despair ir say to themselves, that was then and this is now and Im above my past. But again, friend, that's a personal decision and journey.

Friend.

That's not therapy, hombre.

If you're ever in the position to provide someone assistance after a sexual assault, and you take them to a church or give them a bible instead of taking them licensed therapist - you're fukking them over.

Losing a loved one and having your body literally invaded, sense of self taken, etc are not comparable.

Don't let your selfish spirituality ever lead to another's lack of legitimate help.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

That's not therapy, hombre.

If you're ever in the position to provide someone assistance after a sexual assault, and you take them to a church or give them a bible instead of taking them licensed therapist - you're fukking them over.

Losing a loved one and having your body literally invaded, sense of self taken, etc are not comparable.

Don't let your selfish spirituality ever lead to another's lack of legitimate help.

A pastor is a better therapist then a therapist friend. More people have turned their lives around through christ then seeing a therapist. Someone who's charging you an arm and a leg and placing you in alchemical states of mind In order to find strength to accept and dismiss your problems. God can do this without becoming a pill popper, with better advice.

Therapy does not have the track record of christ in terms of saving friends.

How many prostitutes, killers, sexual deviants and reprobates have turned their lives aroutd by deciding they want to be good and adhere to the good will found in God's will compared to someone sitting in a chair having a conversation with someone ordained by demons to tell you about you why you should get over your problems.

Friend, you'd be wiser finding a good church home with people that care, a support group of friends then leaning on someone who's only incentive to help you is in your bank account

It's so demonic, friends.

 

[42 Monks]

A pastor is a better therapist then a therapist friend.