Are Average Women RUINED by being Sidepieces to Ballers, Players or just Men with Better Options ?

[CarmelBarbie]

Yeah. I’ve said it before but I had a friend who ain’t cute. But she used to fukk with Brehs that looked good as hell, they never claimed her though. Anyway she was sad because she does online dating and no one ever really was clicking on her profile. We went out she never got approached. She never been in a relationship… but she had high standards for Brehs because of the men she was fukking. But she couldn’t pull those Brehs, let alone average Brehs. We had to talk some sense into her. She ended up with a balding Breh that has toothpick legs and a pillsbury dough boy stomach.

My other girl is on the higher end of average, she got huge ass and is thick. Her face is okay. She dresses like a slut. But she’s never had a man claim her. She just goes from endless fwbs and situationships. She too don’t understand why she’s never had a real relationship, but part of it is how she carries herself (half naked all the time) and that she has high standards for Brehs too. But she does at least try to come up off these Brehs and get their credit cards and have them fly her out places. She just never had a man love her or been in love.

What’s sad is that both are in their thirties and have kids…but never had a real relationship.

I tell women not to do the fwbs/situationships. There’s no benefit for women. If you never do those and only get in relationships, you understand where you stand a bit more. I do think the hook up culture has had a negative effect.

 

[Diondon]

Women are ruined because they can't comprehend nikkas will fukk em but not wife em until its too late.

 

[#1 pick]

Yeah. I’ve said it before but I had a friend who ain’t cute. But she used to fukk with Brehs that looked good as hell, they never claimed her though. Anyway she was sad because she does online dating and no one ever really was clicking on her profile. We went out she never got approached. She never been in a relationship… but she had high standards for Brehs because of the men she was fukking. But she couldn’t pull those Brehs, let alone average Brehs. We had to talk some sense into her. She ended up with a balding Breh that has toothpick legs and a pillsbury dough boy stomach.

My other girl is on the higher end of average, she got huge ass and is thick. Her face is okay. She dresses like a slut. But she’s never had a man claim her. She just goes from endless fwbs and situationships. She too don’t understand why she’s never had a real relationship, but part of it is how she carries herself (half naked all the time) and that she has high standards for Brehs too. But she does at least try to come up off these Brehs and get their credit cards and have them fly her out places. She just never had a man love her or been in love.

What’s sad is that both are in their thirties and have kids…but never had a real relationship.

I tell women not to do the fwbs/situationships. There’s no benefit for women. If you never do those and only get in relationships, you understand where you stand a bit more. I do think the hook up culture has had a negative effect.

Some women just think most men are losers and would rather have the handsome gangs babies and be a cum dispenser than be a proud man's wife. I blame social media.

 

[Bossino]

It's been said that women can't go backwards in lifestyle. So if she's chilling with a high caliber man, but never getting wifed. Will she able to go back to a normal guy?

Im a womanizer. I keep a roster. I consider myself a 7/8, bcuz I date mostly 6s and 7s., but I only wife up 8s and 9s. But I will put 5 on the bench with the quickness. Some of these 5s are very cool. I take them out and chill, they have great times, but I couldn't wife them right now.


I guess what i'm asking, if I'm a 7, smashing a 5. Will this 5 ever be able to be with a 5. Or will she always chase 7s.?

You're tainting her perspective without question, as my last thread suggests women are elephants when it comes to men and which men ranked where with what. If the woman has couth and isn't oblivious she could later be with man who's lesser in whatever category/criteria constraint, but that man has to outweigh the previous men in something else or it won't work as she'll always desire, be open to what she had that was better.

That's why I had to bush ol girl. When a woman speaks with a tone of admiration about a past man.Go ahead and take note of the red flag she 's voluntarily sharing

 

[Bossino]

Yes, she will settle for a 5 instead of being alone.

However, if the high value man she is kicking it with is THAT nikka she won’t be able to because being with him once in a while is more exciting than being some boring loser’s full time lady. Who signs up for that job?

You know I didn't like you at first but you're an honest look into a woman's mind. I wish more women irl were this transparent it'd save men time and heartbreak. But of course women would never because even regular men wouldn't want them for anything serious if they knew without a shred of doubt they were being settled for.

 

[GilSho]

When are we going to move on from these simpleton conversations?

Crazy thing is OP is in his 40s.

 

[Manolo]

If she's been with men who have certain qualities she's never experienced, it could be money, wisdom, very good taste, sex, etc. she's never satisfied with any man who has less than that. I have several exes who are pushing 30 or older and refuse to get married or settle down because they're still holding it for my equal. They're always tweeting about refusing to settle and listing their requirements which all happen to describe me. Like @LadyJ2 said, they'd rather be with that nikka once in a while than be taken off the market by a man they deem as below them.

 

[Bossino]

This is honestly what we do as men. We get a baddie, we raise our level up a notch. I know I did.

shyt, for me. I was always handsome and cute and when they did the rating game, I got rated as well as my white homie Jason. We both got 8s. Jonathan Taylor Thomas punk ass got 10s in elementary and I always had girls.

Got to middle school. Hoes were NOT feeling me. I got told I was ugly as hell and why would anyone want to marry me from a girl I was crushing on who looked like Geri from Spice Girls. I had to hang with the lames. nikkas wasnt fukking with me neither. No one wanted to sign my yearbook.

Got to 8th grade. Growth spurt. 6'3 from 5'4. I had hoes on my dikk again. Girls wanting me to come over. Yearbook had nasty notes from hoes and I got grounded from my mom and I didn't even do shyt

Going into 9th grade. I baddie who looked like my Mya wanted me at Christian camp. Grabbing my ass and my dikk like constantly.

Weeks later, a baddie who I been crushing since 3rd grade made it her mission, she wanted to fukk me. Sista looked like prime Jada. You nikkas know.

I was a menace after that. nikkas with girlfriends who I found desirable knew I was a damn predator and their girl was the prey which wasn't too many around my area but outside of it, hell yeah. Girls were very aggressive with me. Especially white girls and Latinas too. I always got what I wanted no matter where I went or was going. If a nikka was getting a lot of D1 looks and I wasn't, I was like, your girl think I'm D1 and a nikka would get scared. A lion hunting for your bytch is literally a lion hunting for your bytch. Seducing is easy as 1, 2, 3. nikkas were cool with me even if it was fake love and they weren't real nikkas.

So yeah, we as men do raise our value based on what we can get. When I was in middle school, I was like, no female wants me till around 8th grade and even then, it surprise me when it happened. I wasn't expecting change. Then the same ones that would make fun of me, are driving me where ever I want to go on their dime.

Payback was a bytch for them birds who hated on the Kang.

But women will fight to convince men it's not just looks that matter. Average men play a losing game doing any serious long term dating. Which is why GMB prospers and marriage continues to stagnate/decrease

 

[Bossino]

Handsome nikkas especially young will always used a 5 or 6 for practice runs in the bedroom and check out her mental state and then when it’s all said and done it’s back to the baddies to settle with

Leaving the 5s and 6s now trying to get with average brothers who usually know what they trying to do and end up treating that chick like the handsome nikkas did

shyt I'm 24 and I'm here whenever a 8+ chooses up I know she's looking to retire from being a hoe if she'll come talk to a 6,7 on a good day breh like me. You already know off rip it ain't you. It's your circumstance, potential, and living situation.

 

[#1 pick]

You know I didn't like you at first but you're an honest look into a woman's mind. I wish more women irl were this transparent it'd save men time and heartbreak. But of course women would never because even regular men wouldn't want them for anything serious if they knew without a shred of doubt they were being settled for.

If you average or you gained weight and you average now, take your ass overseas if you got bread and single. Dennis Spurling and plenty of six and seven figure cats doing it, you should too

 

[LadyJ2]

You know I didn't like you at first but you're an honest look into a woman's mind. I wish more women irl were this transparent it'd save men time and heartbreak. But of course women would never because even regular men wouldn't want them for anything serious if they knew without a shred of doubt they were being settled for.

I appreciate that.

I’m just trying to save both genders from heartache.

The problem is that society tells us women are the romantics and men are the practical, logical sex. It’s actually the opposite. Men are HUGE romantics and fall in love and think that’s where their story ends. But marriage is honestly the start of the race and a lot of men lose because they didn’t realize they had to keep running.

 

[the bossman]

Yeah. I’ve said it before but I had a friend who ain’t cute. But she used to fukk with Brehs that looked good as hell, they never claimed her though. Anyway she was sad because she does online dating and no one ever really was clicking on her profile. We went out she never got approached. She never been in a relationship… but she had high standards for Brehs because of the men she was fukking. But she couldn’t pull those Brehs, let alone average Brehs. We had to talk some sense into her. She ended up with a balding Breh that has toothpick legs and a pillsbury dough boy stomach.

My other girl is on the higher end of average, she got huge ass and is thick. Her face is okay. She dresses like a slut. But she’s never had a man claim her. She just goes from endless fwbs and situationships. She too don’t understand why she’s never had a real relationship, but part of it is how she carries herself (half naked all the time) and that she has high standards for Brehs too. But she does at least try to come up off these Brehs and get their credit cards and have them fly her out places. She just never had a man love her or been in love.

What’s sad is that both are in their thirties and have kids…but never had a real relationship.

I tell women not to do the fwbs/situationships. There’s no benefit for women. If you never do those and only get in relationships, you understand where you stand a bit more. I do think the hook up culture has had a negative effect.

Real honest perspective

 

[#1 pick]

But women will fight to convince men it's not just looks that matter. Average men play a losing game doing any serious long term dating. Which is why GMB prospers and marriage continues to stagnate/decrease

I can't tell you how terrible just two years of average life was. I got no bytches. I got clowned for getting no bytches. A bytch would tell me about her "man" (12 yo boy) with no intentions of getting with me, my momma wasn't even telling me I'm handsome anymore and people don't want to be around you like that if you not really good at anything at that time and you just meh to look at.

For nikkas that gotta do this for their entire life. I get why you hang with me. Women want to be around me. You want to be around women. You gotta be a top tier guy. I get to be an a$$hole and a dikkhead who shows no care for anyone and I get what I want. Even if you hate me, you can't hate what's around me and that puts you in place to market yourself to her and sell her on your long term viability.

I really had to think back to that to have appreciation for brehs who just don't got it like that. With cacs, at least they can go to other races where the standards are lower. The only way a Black man can go to another race and benefit is if he's packing. And yes, women talk and they know.

Packing don't mean much for BW. A lot of brehs packing, they want more than just that. White women sometimes want just that.

 

[#1 pick]

I appreciate that.

I’m just trying to save both genders from heartache.

The problem is that society tells us women are the romantics and men are the practical, logical sex. It’s actually the opposite. Men are HUGE romantics and fall in love and think that’s where their story ends. But marriage is honestly the start of the race and a lot of men lose because they didn’t realize they had to keep running.

Most men don't want marriage. Few dudes are like me. Most want consistent sex, relationships and marriage are the main gateways to those Arenas.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

I appreciate that.

I’m just trying to save both genders from heartache.

The problem is that society tells us women are the romantics and men are the practical, logical sex. It’s actually the opposite. Men are HUGE romantics and fall in love and think that’s where their story ends. But marriage is honestly the start of the race and a lot of men lose because they didn’t realize they had to keep running.

I agree but I don’t think women are necessarily more logical when it comes to relationships. I think things are just more conditional with us. We definitely aren’t the romantics society says we are though.