real talk, it could go the other way too.
You get enough Martha Stewart or Oprah type women out here and men would be flocking too.
Don't think it couldn't happen.
Are These Good Reasons For Polygamy?
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You get enough Martha Stewart or Oprah type women out here and men would be flocking too.
Don't think it couldn't happen.
If our culture(Western world) wasn't so PC and there were backwards rules like in African/Middle East then you better bet that I would have a large harem of more than 21 concubines like those Arab and African Islamic leaders of the past.
My mind is son messed up.
Black people are poor with no infrastructure lol.
Folks refuse to acknowledge the cats who got to take part in polygamy had wealth and resources.
The avg dude wasnt walking around with 10 wives.
My grandfather had a ton of wives but also had his own town.
And avg dude in the west aint reay for that emotional stress. My mom till this day was like she dont eat just anyones food because of jealous wives trying to poison the children of the wives the husband favored more.
In the modern western world, many women are playing tons of dudes. Its not a one way street.
And I didn't say dating was the same as marriage. Theres a possibility many of them could be in open relationships...and? When it comes to marriage, theres still that "hard wall" of commitment that casual dating can't achieve, especially when it comes to legal rights and benefits.
I don't have the religious view of marriage. I see it as a business contract...so i'm not trying to think about how it affects spirituality or anything else.
Fact is, more people will die single. More people will lash out in ways to seek mates. And those who wash-out of the system, will engage in behaviors and activities that are a function of their inability to get a mate.
You think drug usage is high now?
You think criminal behavior is high now?
you think shiftlessness is high now?
wait till these dudes can't get laid even casually...
This is false. In some cultures maybe but not all.
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You have to factor in human behavior. I talked with individuals that been in polygamist families, and it was "let says" it was not always ideal, especially if the wives don't live far apart from each other. You had unnecessary competition between the wives and children, and it was hard for the father to provide emotionally for each members of the two sets of his families. You also have to deal with a issue of the husband loving one wife better than the others, which brings on jealousy and resentment from the other wife. Also add to that the consistent bickering, rivalry and fighting between the sets of family can be unbearable. Which can be a consistent headache for everyone involved in those kinds of relationships.
However most people i know personally don't come from families such as that. In the villages a possibility but among the educated in the city, No.
More people need to die single. You act like people arent shiftless due to the fact they can get sex casually. If anything if people couldnt just have sex like mindless animals they would have some motivation to do somethig in life. We live jn a society where men are rewarded with sex because of their hair cut or sneakers.In the modern western world, many women are playing tons of dudes. Its not a one way street.
And I didn't say dating was the same as marriage. Theres a possibility many of them could be in open relationships...and? When it comes to marriage, theres still that "hard wall" of commitment that casual dating can't achieve, especially when it comes to legal rights and benefits.
I don't have the religious view of marriage. I see it as a business contract...so i'm not trying to think about how it affects spirituality or anything else.
Fact is, more people will die single. More people will lash out in ways to seek mates. And those who wash-out of the system, will engage in behaviors and activities that are a function of their inability to get a mate.
You think drug usage is high now?
You think criminal behavior is high now?
you think shiftlessness is high now?
wait till these dudes can't get laid even casually...
you can't make laws and policy based on what the individual always wants.
You have to think how that affects everyone else.
For every person removed from the dating pool, you remove someone else' #1st pick or even #Nth pick...it has extreme down-stream effects
Bruh...stop it.
Motivations in life often comes through their mates. Especially when they think they can get mates. People can lie about their motivations but there are still core principles underlying a lot of those internal drives.
you act like you are your girl's FIRST option.
Some of ya'll don't wanna have that convo. You think if she had the chance she wouldn't replace you? With someone that could support her AND others? How would you REALLY know? 
Just cause she says so doesn't mean she's not lying to you. The arrogance some of ya'll have on this issue just neglects to include the situations where you're not in the position you think you should be.
i'm cool with consenting to you having as many sex partners as you want...not entering legal contracts.
And gay marriage goes the same way with respect to polygamy.
Imagine some Liberace type dude just scooping up like 4 other mates. It. Could. Happen.
Then you remove 3-4 other people out of that dating pool who would have settled with others.
Resentment would build up exponentially.
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I couldn't see why you would want to do the women like that because there not a piece of meat there peopleSeven reasons men in Senegal give for taking another wife
By Kissi Kono on September 19, 2016 — Kissi Kono explores the most common reasons Senegalese men give for entering into polygamous marriages.
According to a recent survey, the rate of polygamy in Senegal declined marginally in 2015 in comparison to previous years. But the results of another study, which outlines the reasons why more Western-educated men in Senegal are entering into polygamous marriages, is set to get people talking. The overwhelming majority of the men interviewed gave similar responses and the study outlines the seven most popular reasons men gave for taking a second, third or fourth wife.
The first was that the additional wife was “a decision by my mother” since the first, second or third wife was taken without her consent. In Senegal, there is a privileged relationship between Senegalese mothers and their sons, especially in the case of the eldest and the last son, known as ‘thiaat’. Added to that is the strong notion that the mother is the stabilising factor in the family and hence can introduce that quality by selecting a wife for her sons.
The second is that the decision was “a sacred one made by my marabout”. The majority of Senegalese are Muslim (95%) and nearly every Muslim individual or family has a marabout, who is basically a spiritual guide and has an influential role in family matters. In many instances, the women chosen by these ‘holy and wise men’ are selected from the samedaaras or religious school or area as their husband.
The third reason given for taking another wife is to lighten the workload. As one respondent said, “I wanted to make her (the first wife) work much lighter and easier.” In the national vernacular, this reason is better articulated by the expression ‘dama la outalrak’. The literal translation is: “I decided to choose a younger sister for her.”
The fourth reason is: “My wife cannot have children and I need at least one.” In such cases, it is often, but not always, the first wife who suggests to the husband that he takes a second wife.
The fifth reason given, which is tied to family obligation, is: “The woman is my uncle’s daughter and I cannot refuse.” In this case, it is the uncle who will oblige his nephew to take his daughter into wedlock. Refusals very often lead to family disputes or discord.
The sixth reason is “it is my father who selected and paid the bride price for me”. When this reason is proffered to the first wife, she is expected to put herself in her husband’s position and be easily convinced.
Finally, the humanitarian reason damakoyeureum is given. The translation from Wolof would be: “She was in a difficult situation and I only meant to help her out but eventually it turned into a marriage.”
The power in marital relations may rest overwhelmingly with men but according to a recent study conducted by the Institute for Research and Development, 80% of divorce cases are initiated by women. In Dakar alone, 10 205 couples divorced in 2015 and 893 since the beginning of 2016. This at least demonstrates a shift in the possibility of more equal marriages, however subtle it may be.
Seven reasons men in Senegal give for taking another wife - This Is Africa
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Marriage as an institution is already broken
making Polygamy legal would change nothing
How many people have ALREADY settled marrying with people that weren't their first choice?
If a person wants the option to have more than one wife, then let them
Who is being harmed?
People that are losing out on potential mates?
Newsflash that's already happening, alls fair in love and war. If a nikka can convince 3 women to marry him and some poor schmuck can't convince 1 then
Family loyalty and marrying cousins or not direct relatives is a big thing in a lot of other cultures. It used to be big in western culture too until the 20th Century.really nikka
Heres the thing though, women have that choice to do that now, and those who want to do it will do it. The only thing that differs is the legal aspects in which these aditional mates cant be part of the tax situation of the man, cant get things like health benfits, etc.Bruh...stop it.
Motivations in life often comes through their mates. Especially when they think they can get mates. People can lie about their motivations but there are still core principles underlying a lot of those internal drives.
you act like you are your girl's FIRST option.
The arrogance some of ya'll have on this issue just neglects to include the situations where you're not in the position you think you should be.
If a man gets multiple women pregnant he is legally obligated to care for the children which in turn is caring for the mother, so your point is still null.
