are y'all really out here walking up to random woman?

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That's never been one of my strengths. Not even in clubs and bars. There is a somewhat super shy side of me.

I can think of random women that have stepped up to me in the streets, tho. One i can think of right now was this short little Haitian freak i met at a Caribbean Carnival years ago.
It was fun while it lasted :manny:
But meeting women online or through other friends have always worked out better for me. It helps to have a safe space to break the ice without putting yourself out there like that. Once they are within reach like that and we're both in a comfortable place i can wiggle my way in the coochie somehow.
 
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I'll be honest, i've always been too shy i guess for the flat out cold approach. They have to at least acknowledge my presence first. Like say hello, or how are you? Luckily, i get that alot. :manny:

handsome gang means a woman will strike up a convo wit you if you're waiting in line somewhere.

Her: looks at me, "god i hating going to dmv, the wait is forever."
Me: yeah it sucks, i'm glad i only got to do this once a year.
Her: ...so what do you do?
Me: :sas1: :shaq::pachaha:
 

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If you are honestly trying to tell me every woman on the planet is always on their phone and unapproachable there is nothing left for us to discuss :manny:

I aint saying every woman but i see it alot. And for the typical dude in this social media era might find it better to approach through online measures rather than in person
 

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I had the same issue but I solved it: in order to calmly talk to a woman you like, destroy any value you see in her. Don't project yourself with her, don't see how she's beautiful, don't think about the fact she's exactly your type, etc. Talk to her like that girl you don't care about. This is how you maximize your chance. You'll be able to assert confidence and eventually dominance.
That right there is good advice.... but it's too next level...
How u gonna just have that ability to reduce a bytch u percieve to be a "bad bytch" down to regular bytch... u can try to fake it but energy is everything, shes gonna sense the energy.
I say be ok with feeling like shes a bad bytch, or outta ur league..maybe until u realize there is no such thing....
U still approach her but just get comfortable with that pressure of talking to a female that uve put on a pedestal...
I'll give u an example...
Let's say u meet Beyonce or whoever ur favorite celebrity chik is....
Could u really destroy any value u see in her. Could u convince urself shes a regular chik... and talk to her like a female u wouldnt care about?
 

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I feel you but i personally wouldn't cold approach. I think the situation should be there for an excuse to try and get the woman. I'll be damned if i stop a random woman thats minding her own business
:mjlol:

That doesn't make sense because when a chick finds a man attractive she'll trip over herself to try to get his attention..shyt I've had
broads sitting near me, talking loud on fake phone calls,
broads bumping into the back of me in line, hover around me at work

they don't give a fukk and go for theirs so why shouldnt men? :gucci:

And most women fantasize about an attractive guy stepping to them while they're out and about...don't let the bullshyt twitter talk fool you.
 

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I live in the same world u guys live in...
I've bagged chix at red lights... gas stations pumping gas... the mall shopping. Any place people go to do things they need to do..
1 thing I've noticed about ppl in general is yes they are on their phones...
But no one is oblivious to is around them in there surroundings... especially of the opposite sex.
Ull walk in a store and a female will make sure she gets a look at u... it's just human nature

Ok now if a woman notices you, i get you approaching cuz there was a green light. The thing i don't agree with is walking up to a random woman who didnt notice you and spitting
 

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I have no problem approaching any woman at any time. I actually prefer doing that then DMing a chick

Some nikkas have game, some nikkas don't. It's really not hard to learn the game though. You just have to be confident and be ready for rejection if it happens. Doesn't happen that often with me though :wow:
 
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I had the same issue but I solved it: in order to calmly talk to a woman you like, destroy any value you see in her. Don't project yourself with her, don't see how she's beautiful, don't think about the fact she's exactly your type, etc. Talk to her like that girl you don't care about. This is how you maximize your chance. You'll be able to assert confidence and eventually dominance.
But don't go too extreme with this. Women who like men who don't treat them well tend to be the crazy ones that text you 14 times in a row, and show up unannounced
 

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I'll make small talk with a lot of random women, and if I can tell they interested take they number/ social media

shyt works out well for me
This is how I got good at my mouthpiece

Would sit in the park..read or play my guitar..

A chick would sit next to me..I'd say hello and go from there.

It helped me realize

1. I can hold a great conversation
2.alot of people fukk with me and see something good in me
3.women actually find me attractive.
 
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