Are you able to make a friend?

[Shadow King]

I'm a recluse with no superficial offerings/attributes, so no.

 

[SPACE IS FAKE]

 

[DaylitoJames]

 

[SheWantTheD]

I’m scared to make friends because I don’t give my number to nikkas trying to holla in the mall?


Get that dumbass shyt the fukk outta here. I got too many friends as it is. I don’t need “new” ones. If you don’t already have my number, you gotta be talking about business to get it. This ain’t middle school.

Weird behavior.. can't meet a dude who has similar interests and y'all exchange contact info to chop it up, do nikka shyt together.

What's weird about that? How's it any different than brehs you meet at school or work, except there's no social setting where y'all are forced to be at the same place at the same time

 

[SheWantTheD]

if it is planned ahead of time and i know them.
but if some rando runs up on me....yo, let me tell you something.
my girl and i would occasionally go to a spa. it was all unisex except
for one part. after we were done with the main part we would go off to
the section that is women/men only. this is where you go nude and just
mac out. i personally love being nude in public. i've been to nude beaches
and spas before so this really wasn't a thing for me.

or so i thought.

it's a good sized room with 4 hot tubs of varying temps that could easily fit 15 people in each.
no reason for another man to come within my vicinity considering that at no time was i ever in
a hot tub with anymore than 1 or 2 other men at a time. if i had i big ass joint to myself i would rock
that shyt for as long as i wanted. if another man entered i would suck my teeth and crack
my neck. if another another man entered i would bop out to the next empty one.

so after 20 minutes or so i move to the open shower section in the corner of the space.
i'm showering the same way i would at the YMCA after swimming and thought nothing of it.

i'm washing soap outta my eyes when i feel someone tap my back.
keep in mind i'm ass naked with soap in my face.
i turn around and there is a short, old, fat, eastern euro or mediterranean dude. he's ass naked like
everyone else. he says "Where are you from?"

it took .0001 seconds for me to see what my man was all about.
i turned off my shower, grabbed my towel and booked to my locker.

had a good laugh with my girl afterwards.

I ain't talking about a breh randomly walking up to you out of nowhere.. but if the conversation naturally came about.

Y'all are just like these girls when nikkas say they don't have social media.. they get mad paranoid and think you hiding shyt.

"This nikka gotta prove his social clout before I can trust him" head ass

 

[Noriega]

All my friends are from work. You working 24, 48 hour shifts with dudes so naturally you get tight. Not to mention watching each others backs in dangerous situations.

 

[RTF]

In my late 20's and early 30's I've made friends through friends.

A solid breh might bring another breh through to watch a game - he's cool. Good banter, similar stage in life, doing interesting things. The next time we hit the bar - "yo so-and-so is cool, ask him to roll through". Before you know it, breh is in ya circle.

That's how I've been making new friends later in life. Good solid brehs, introducing me to other good solid brehs.

I'm not befriending people otherwise. I don't make genuine friends at work. Don't go church enough to have pals. I got gym buddies but I ain't got a drink with one of em. Because I'm a bit stand-offish with strangers, I don't let my guard down with brehs unless someone I trust lets their guard down for you too (pause). So there's a bunch of people I'm cool with from different places but actually friends are made via friends.

 

[Pseudonym]

I can make friends with almost anyone.
I’m one of the ones who will have a whole conversation in the line at the grocery with complete strangers.
I have good “people memory” so if someone tells me something about themselves I commit it to memory and bring it up the next time.
I know almost all the dog names in my neighborhood, sorry catset.

I wasnt always like this. I have had generalized anxiety since a young adult and finally got it straightened out.

 

[PharaohAtem]

Made plenty of friends through tournaments