As a man, does hearing that another man cheated on his wife or spouse change your opinion about them

[bl2k8]

If you are having a full blown affair, going to meet the chick at hotels, buying her shyt while you have a whole family, then I’d look at you sideways because that means you’d flip on me in a heartbeat.

A one time thing, Idk. Relationships are hard, nobody knows what’s going on between other people.

 

[VICVALLIN]

I ask cuz my uncle been with his wife for over 20 years and everybody knows he cheats

It's an open secret.

He took care of his kids(They grown now) takes care of his wife,
But he has the occasional side piece
I don't see the problem

I had an uncle who took a vacation with his side chick leaving his wife and kids at home. This nikka spent so much time at her house I thought he lived there and didn't even know she wasn't his wife. Side chick even had the nerve to show to this nikka funeral.

nikkas like him is why I don't respect any individual who lacks integrity in any aspect of their life, whether it personal or professional. When you cheat on someone, you're potentially compromising their physical as well as their emotional health. You can't truly love someone if you're willing to that to satisfy your own selfishness.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

Yes, it should. And I say that as someone who has cheated before. It doesn't mean you have to judge or cast negativity and shame, but you should consider their character as conflicted at the moment. It's a loaded answer, and more detailed than I'd like to offer without expressed interest, but in short it should

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

If only he cheats on his black wife with a mistress ...marries the mistress and cheats on her also

I'll look at that nikka different

Fred

 

[Carlton Banks]

Can't fukk with a nikka that's dumb enough to get married in the first place.

 

[MysticMonroe]

I don't respect men that fukk everything to the point it affects other parts of his life. If your sex life is causing you problems financially, emotionally, legally & with family you should reevaluate your life. Thats one of my worst fears is to get with a dude; marry him and start a family and he loses his job, gets arrested, knocks the chick up or gets blackmailed by some side chick. Now the family has to change our life because my husband fukked some bartender and she is blackmailing him for money or something.

1. Losing money
2. Affecting family
3. Losing job
4. Spreading STDs
5. Multiple kids
6. Getting blackmailed
7. Getting into physical fights
8. Facing jail time or lawsuits

Stephon Marbury cheated on his wife with his personal chef, fired her, she claimed sexual harassment and he paid her almost a million to keep quiet. Kevin Harts dumb ass getting blackmailed. Telling the side chicks your family business. Buying them cars, apartments, hush money. You don't even have to be married but its a turn off for a man to be hoeing so much that it spills over in other parts of his life. There was just a thread on here about a beauty queen and a married college employee making a sex tape & the side chick was taking pics with his wife and kids.

 

[Drip Bayless]

Nah fukk that got to do with me? Unless my homie was abusing his shorty what goes on in they relationship is they business. The relationship between men who are friends and a man and a woman is completely different. Maybe I can't understand cause I'm not married, but I got shyt I could tell my nikkas about, but would never dream of telling a woman in my life

 

[StickStickly]

How can you be an upstandi g good person if you're a liar. And not just a liar, but a liar to someone you say you love dearly? Demonstrates shaky morals.

This. If you can look someone you say you love in the eye and lie to them and not feel any remorse that's some sociopathic shyt. It's possible that your friendships are just as shallow and meaningless. You probably just use your friends as an alibi to cheat.

 

[StickStickly]

A lot of the time it can translate and spill over to whether or not they can keep they word. Like would you trust someone like that with something important to you? It depends.

Yeah I've never met a cheater who was always good for their word. A lot of them always try to play word or mind games with anyone and anything or they're incredibly inconsiderate of your time or abilities. They're always trying to get away with something whether it's speeding or or being dishonest at work. It just seeps into their lives because it becomes a personality trait.

 

[StickStickly]

Double post

 

[Birdie]

No. The type of men I don't trust cucks, simps and betas. Those are dangerous men you have to look out for.

I also would never trust a man who would tell another man wife/girlfriend if he's cheating on her or interacting with other women. That shows he can't be trusted with vital information, he's pretty much on the same level as a woman.

 

[Dorian Breh]

I can't trust a nikka that willingly cheats on a woman he says he's in love with


He might be a good dude, but I'll never know if he'll switch up on me too

It depends for me how he refers to the girl.

If she's the love of his life who completes him blah blah... then if he cheating he look mad suspect to me. However anyone who is on that corny shyt is suspect to me - what's wrong with you you need someone to complete You?

On the other hand if dude more like... Yea that's wifey we take care of eachother.. and sometimes I don't eat at home I could give a shyt less as long as dude isn't messy about it

On some spin shyt though if a dude is always on some "I could never cheat on her I couldn't go through with it" i don't trust him either. Cuz that shyt mean either:

1.) You lying to me cuz if a super model came through and wanted to bust it open youd say yes

2.) You a goofy breh who doesn't have self control or confidence, I'm not saying you gotta cheat but you 'couldn't go through with it' implies a lack of self control and pereonal strength

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

Nope. I could care less about someone else's relationship/marriage.

 

[DPresidential]

Not. At. All.

We are human with flaws, issues and temptations.

It is hard work to stay faithful.

Once you're famous, rich and attractive? It is like playing video games on the hardest difficulty.

I'm a married man, attorney, black and I think look okay... shyt is HARD WORK to stay on the right path.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

You know...... From a biological perspective, it hardly makes sense for a woman to cheat. That doesn't mean that both men and women committing the same adulterous act aren't liars however.

Actually it makes perfect sense. It makes more sense for a woman to cheat than a man.

It's unscrupulous and I don't condone it but whatever makes a wife faithful, it's not because her biology is standing in the way. In fact thanks to hormones, during each cycle a woman is attracted to different things and different types of men.

If we are to simplify people and take them as one dimensional then as per biology women should marry the man who is most able to provide and if he is also the best genetic option then only have his kids but because of her biology she's attracted to two different types of men each month. So stay married to him and mix your genes with him, cheat with the other type (maybe the softer emotions, romantic type) for her other needs.

If it's the reverse and her husband is able to provide financially but not the strongest genetic option then biology would still suggest that she mix her genes with the superior mate so have the side pieces kids but live off of the better off husband.

She is the one who would carry the baby so unlike a cheating man who has to slip a woman the plan B, the cheating wife knows her cycle, has the option to take precaution and remediate any mistakes. A cheating wife who is unscrupulous and careful enough can have her cake (well off husband) and optional extras (side piece(s) to meet unmet biological drivers).

But cheating and sleeping with more than one person are not the same thing. Just because you have sex with other people doesn't mean you have to lie about it aka cheat. But the consequences of being honest about sleeping with other people outside of marriage are potentially more disastrous for the female...An unfaithful woman who wants her children to be provided for will lie so the husband doesn't doubt if they're his aka biology.