As much as I love my wife....

Uncle Trill

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yep. got tired of always being the one to initiate. fukk, i like to get a surprise dikk suck in the middle of the night every once in a while. come out of the room wearing some lacy shyt. seduce a nikka sometimes. she does NOTHING. zilch. nada. get in the bed....go the fukk to sleep. no kisses. no laying on my lap while watching tv. no hugging. no i love yous. i got tired of doing all the shyt by myself. so fukk it. i checked out too. but because i checked out, i have been checking out skirts lately, and i don't want to even start down that road. if i'm gonna be married, i'm going to be all in, or all out. can't fukk around on my wife.

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Your a good man breh :beli:

What are you doing conversing here with us negative ass nikkas
 

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§ansprix™;201074 said:
Most of these dudes do not ever need to get married. No one wants to put in the work when it gets rough. OP, I commend you for giving it a last shot. I honestly don't think she's cheating, although that's always something to consider. I agree with Bamba. It sounds like there's no excitement between you two. Things have gotten too predictable, comfortable, and routine.

I think you need to COMMUNICATE to HER what you're feeling. Figure out how you can change it before it's too late. If she doesn't feel like there is a problem, after you've talked about it or does nothing to change.....then you have to decide what to do next. You really need communication tho, maybe even counseling. Don't give up until you've really tried all your options. Everyone is quick to just give up when it gets too hard. You owe it to yourself to not give up so easily.

i agree with everything you said, except counseling....fukk that.

when i talked to her this morning, i told her what i was feeling, and she said that she has been feeling like that too. so i'm like :wtf: if you have been feeling that way, why didn't you say something then?! she said because she didn't want to argue with me. :wtf: since when does a woman not speak her mind because she doesn't want to argue? that seems like more of a reason to nag a nikka about it. so they CAN argue and pour out their feelings. makes no sense to me....:beli:
 

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i agree with everything you said, except counseling....fukk that.

when i talked to her this morning, i told her what i was feeling, and she said that she has been feeling like that too. so i'm like :wtf: if you have been feeling that way, why didn't you say something then?! she said because she didn't want to argue with me. :wtf: since when does a woman not speak her mind because she doesn't want to argue? that seems like more of a reason to nag a nikka about it. so they CAN argue and pour out their feelings. makes no sense to me....:beli:

so what came out of the convo nikka? :leostare:
 

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I don't see any signs of cheating..I see signs of a boring marriage. You guys need to reconnect with the feelings that brought you together in the first place. Instead, you've allowed yourselves to get too comfortable and lazy. Get a babysitter for your kid, and start dating again. Go to the movies, dinners, the park...buy her flowers for no reason. Try these things out before you do anything drastic. If she still acts cold and distant - THEN you have to start considering the possibility that she is just not that into you anymore.

Divorce is common, but that doesn't make it a desirable option - so you need to know that you really tried to save the marriage before going that way.

Best of luck.

I agree. Work on the spark. How long is "awhile"? No where in here did you mention you two communicating about this issue?? 13 years is a long time. You two both owe it to yourselves to at least address the issue, and try to work on things. AND THEN if things don't work out, so be it. Ignoring the issue, and y'all doing your own thing is just compounding the issue. No marriage is easy all the time, sometimes you have to work at it. The fact that you haven't left tells me that there is still love and a desire for things to work out. So at least try.

Best Wishes
 

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so what came out of the convo nikka? :leostare:

she said we need to travel more. i was like :rudy: what about all of the other days, weeks, and months that we are not travelling? what do we do then? ANYONE can have fun on a trip to Fiji together. can you have fun at home with no money in your pocket, a pizza, and the remote control? But i couldn't really get into a lot this morning. i was on my way to work. but this evening....:smugdraper:
 

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We're overly negative? :pacspit:

fukk y'all. This is the death of a relationship we're looking at here. It has cancer. The woman has emotionally checked out. Do you fools know what that entails? A woman will be emotionally attached to someone who beats the living piss out of her if she feels that's all she has. But when there's an emotional spark elsewhere.....

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Women can't survive without attention and affection for very long. The fact that she's okay with the distance says she's getting it elsewhere, whether sex is involved or not. Sometimes there's no need to prolong the inevitable. Chemo can slow down cancer, but it can't cure it. He has his quality of life to think about here. Not impressing people on the Coli who think he needs to "make it work" because it's a marriage. They've been through hell and back for 13 years, you don't think THAT is making it work?
 
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