At what age should parents kick their kids out the house?

[Atsym Sknyfs]

Are we talking kicking out or encouraging to leave

 

[bigdaddy88]

I’m not kicking my kids out I would prefer them to stay with me till they are financially stable, save some money and have good credit I feel like too many black parents kick their kids out of the house too soon that’s how we end up in debt

this is probably the ideal honestly, telling a kid that just finished H.S and most likely still has a high schooler mentality to get out, get a place , a job and paying bills can be a bit overwhelming.

Best thing is too teach your kid basic financial literature , and street smarts. U will be saving your kid a lot unnecessary headaches.


Too many black families be doing this and indirectly making their kids path a bit harder..

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Told me kids they can’t leave until they are done with college, working in their careers, and have enough for the downpayment on a house.

Don’t want them going into the world in debt and fukking up their credit.

I believe this is how I’ll ultimately do it.

I am not about that sink or swim method, at all. My ole lady is, though, so I know there could potentially be an argument in the future if I do have a kid staying home. It’s all good, that’s my battle and for me to deal with. As long as my kids need me, I’m gone be there. My pop was like that with me, so I’ll do the same. My home is their home, and they’ll always have a spot at my place.

 

[Commish]

if you haven’t done all of that by the time they are 18 or 21 you have every right to toss them out of your household especially if they have younger siblings.

I have a standing rule I will try if you are over 18 and not in college or some trade/tech school you are out of here...If you are too old to follow the rules of the house you are out of here.

I didn’t even make it to 18 with my parents and I don’t blame them.

I hear ya, but I doubt most people will have trifling ass kids like that, especially these days. If a parent raise their kids properly, then their kid will either be in school or get a job or join the military.

But, what I don’t agree is putting out a kid who doesn’t have the life skills to take care of him/herself, even if they are trifling..

But, to each one’s own....

 

[NatiboyB]

I hear ya, but I doubt most people will have trifling ass kids like that, especially these days. If a parent raise their kids properly, then their kid will either be in school or get a job or join the military.

But, what I don’t agree is putting out a kid who doesn’t have the life skills to take care of him/herself, even if they are trifling..

But, to each one’s own....

Some people are just going to be trifling...we all know dirtbags who had good parents...When you have other children you are raising you have to get rid of bad influences...It is some legitimate bad ass kids out here for one reason or another...But if they haven’t developed life skills that you as a parent tried to instill at a certain point you have to cut bait and hope they grow once they are forced to stand on their own.

best thing to ever happen to me besides leaving my home city was my parents kicking me out.

 

[you're NOT "n!ggas"]

This. Said the same in one of my threads. Matta fact, Imma plug it
https://www.thecoli.com/threads/thi...-to-do-differently-with-your-children.727676/

1. Staying home as long as you need. We not doing that "You 18, you gotta go " shyt over here. If you're not getting married, moving for work in a different city, or have enough for a down payment on your own home, then it's really no need to leave. Keep the money in the family and find some real estate to invest in for yourself.
2. Teaching them to be entrepreneurs, and partners with one another. Using their talents/skillsets to complement one another. For example if junior is good with numbers, then run the accounting side and if Elroy has the gift of gab, then be the salesman.
3. I wanna keep a journal from day one of important lessons I've learned raising them, struggles I had, revisiting moments of pride and disappointment with them, etc. I'll pass that on to them once they have a child of their own or upon my own death

The way I see it 18 is the time to seriously let them in on what kinda bills you have, what the mortgage looks like, etc. Opening their eyes a bit and primimg them for when these kinda things will be their own responsibility.

Starting their career is when they can start contributing and/or saving, investing etc in their own properties and homes.

 

[tuckgod]

I believe this is how I’ll ultimately do it.

I am not about that sink or swim method, at all. My ole lady is, though, so I know there could potentially be an argument in the future if I do have a kid staying home. It’s all good, that’s my battle and for me to deal with. As long as my kids need me, I’m gone be there. My pop was like that with me, so I’ll do the same. My home is their home, and they’ll always have a spot at my place.

I look at it like this, man..

That's the whole purpose of you building your finances up... to own a home, so your kids don't have to go out in the world doing dumb shyt (throwing money away renting apartments, using credit cards to subsidize their lifestyle) before they're ready.

If I had the paper, I'd build a fukkin compound, on some Don Corleone/Bishop Greenleaf shyt, and just let them live and stack their paper up/build A1 credit, so they can keep the family going strong when I'm no longer here.

But I've worked to own a very nice sized crib, and Lord willing, by the time they're going off to college, I'll have something even bigger.

But the shyt I got now is decent, all my kids have their own bedrooms, there's plenty of space, so there's no need for them to leave the nest until they're really ready.

All that sink or swim is some bullshyt we've passed down through our generations, because a lot of our folks really didn't have the space and money to pull off letting their grown children live in the crib comfortably.

 

[Strapped]

Never if you raised them right

 

[Unknown Poster]

I’m not kicking my kids out I would prefer them to stay with me till they are financially stable, save some money and have good credit I feel like too many black parents kick their kids out of the house too soon that’s how we end up in debt

 

[tuckgod]

I’m not kicking my kids out I would prefer them to stay with me till they are financially stable, save some money and have good credit I feel like too many black parents kick their kids out of the house too soon that’s how we end up in debt

Imagine kicking out your child and making them homeless

Now it's REALLY going to be hard, people who thinks that's the wave shouldn't have children anyway

Meanwhile Hispanics will have uncle's, grandparents and cousins under the same roof.

LeColi brehs

No point in kicking them out, if you have to loan them money all the time. Unless you saying you would let your kids be homeless and starving.
Let them stay until they make enough to move out on their own.

When they're ready to leave.

I would never kick my baby girl out the house, as she can stay in my house as long as she needs or wants.

This. x 1000


I was dealt a horrible hand, and I would never want my siblings or kids to have to go through that.

never would kick my kids out.

but if they stay they have to contribute monetarily or helping around house.

I'm not a fan of kicking ur kids out.

I just always feel I brought them in this world they somewhat my responsibility.

so my kids can stay

this is probably the ideal honestly, telling a kid that just finished H.S and most likely still has a high schooler mentality to get out, get a place , a job and paying bills can be a bit overwhelming.

Best thing is too teach your kid basic financial literature , and street smarts. U will be saving your kid a lot unnecessary headaches.


Too many black families be doing this and indirectly making their kids path a bit harder..

I believe this is how I’ll ultimately do it.

I am not about that sink or swim method, at all. My ole lady is, though, so I know there could potentially be an argument in the future if I do have a kid staying home. It’s all good, that’s my battle and for me to deal with. As long as my kids need me, I’m gone be there. My pop was like that with me, so I’ll do the same. My home is their home, and they’ll always have a spot at my place.

I LOVE to see Black men talking like this.

Salute to all you brothers.

I got 3 beautiful, smart, spiritual, family oriented daughters that I'm going to be looking to marry off and join forces with other like minded families in about 10 - 15 years.

If y'all got sons that are about their business and building up the Black community, holla at me around that time.

 

[Mastamimd]

I LOVE to see Black men talking like this.

Salute to all you brothers.

I got 3 beautiful, smart, spiritual, family oriented daughters that I'm going to be looking to marry off and join forces with other like minded families in about 10 - 15 years.

If y'all got sons that are about their business and building up the Black community, holla at me around that time.

Rep and dap. I'm Liberian American and my folk never ever wanted me to leave ever. Even when ready. If I ever have kids they staying til I want them to go damn it

 

[Jean Jacket]

21 is my limit.

 

[Commish]

Some people are just going to be trifling...we all know dirtbags who had good parents...When you have other children you are raising you have to get rid of bad influences...It is some legitimate bad ass kids out here for one reason or another...But if they haven’t developed life skills that you as a parent tried to instill at a certain point you have to cut bait and hope they grow once they are forced to stand on their own.

best thing to ever happen to me besides leaving my home city was my parents kicking me out.

I agree that in certain situations, you may have to put your kid out, especially if said kid is being reckless, disrespectful and isn't trying to do anything productive.

However, in this present climate, how is an 18 yr old kid, bad or not, going to survive when many adults are barely making ends meet which includes those with work experience?

But, what I can say to you is this..

You raise your kid as you see fit. Perhaps you feel that since you were able to make it at that age, then so can your kid. However, everyone is different. I also think that you would parent in a way were your kid will know not to cross boundaries and will obey the rules of your house, so in that case, your kid will probably want to go to school or a trade school or get a job so he or she can be on his or her own.

I just would not tell a kid of mine that he or she need to bounce at 18 w/o knowing if he/she will make it. I would not be able to live with myself knowing I put my kid out there in the elements and something bad may happen to him/her.

In all, I don't tell folks how to raise their kids. That is their business. Just know whatever you do has consequences..

 

[tuckgod]

Rep and dap. I'm Liberian American and my folk never ever wanted me to leave ever. Even when ready. If I ever have kids they staying til I want them to go damn it

Salute to you and your folks, breh.

That's how it should be.

 

[GUWOPPERS]

I LOVE to see Black men talking like this.

Salute to all you brothers.

I got 3 beautiful, smart, spiritual, family oriented daughters that I'm going to be looking to marry off and join forces with other like minded families in about 10 - 15 years.

If y'all got sons that are about their business and building up the Black community, holla at me around that time.

It’s weird cause like, I agree with trying to find the right spouses for your people, but not force it ya know. But us in America really shoulda been on that heavy for the past 150 years