Well, they're already dating. Would you be okay with going on dates that dont cost any $$$ (park walks, star gazing,etc)?
Bae Is Becoming Cheap. Help A Bruhette Out?
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Indiglow Meta (R$G)
Ultra.
Sounds like somebody got in her head and she saw things her friend get from dudes and now she wants those same things from him...she already got him used her her being the "cool chick" but she wants to upgrade to keep up with the Joneses...and he ain't havin it. GOOD.
OP wants that option. i don't even feel like she cares about the money that much. she just feels like she lost that power. like she put herself in a position to where if she doesn't pay, it will be awkward. she would be just fine paying as much as she does now if dude wasn't so sure she would pay. she lost that control and is frustrated about that. i honestly have no advice. i just think we (meaning people) are funny as fukk 
your boyfriend is carrying a L...U cute or whateva
OP wants that option. i don't even feel like she cares about the money that much. she just feels like she lost that power. like she put herself in a position to where if she doesn't pay, it will be awkward. she would be just fine paying as much as she does now if dude wasn't so sure she would pay. she lost that control and is frustrated about that. i honestly have no advice. i just think we (meaning people) are funny as fukk
Now she knows how men feel
Indiglow Meta (R$G)
Ultra.
I know.
FukyourFort
All Star
smh and she says he is a great guy. she acknowledges that he is saving up to fix his car and his daughter has prom
.....i hope homeboy senses the poison and bounces 
BaldingSoHard
Banned
Forgive me, but why wouldn't he expect it if you've established a pattern of behavior?
That is... if he plays basketball with a crew on Wednesdays and has done so for the last year, wouldn't you expect him to continue to play basketball on Wednesdays?
Of course he's gotten comfortable, that's what happens in relationships.
It sounds like you want him to still make that surprised face when you chip in, but that ship has sailed. You've established that you're able and willing to pull some weight. Don't take his lack of
as taking you for granted, rather it's a more quiet appreciation and muted sense of respect, I'm sure.And seriously, if this is the biggest issue in your relationship, consider yourself lucky.
You need to communicate this to him brehette. It looks like he is taking advantage of you.
nikka...what?
This fairy tale land yall females enjoy living in hilarious to me. "I don't want to always have to"...so he should be paying for the majority of the time yall go out.....WHY? Are yall not in a relationship, aren't yall partners? so why should you be exempt from doing your part? You contributing shouldn't be a "gesture" or a "suprise" to him, you;re both adults in a relationship....where you both have to do your part to make it work...get this "the men should provide, wine and dine me" bullshyt mentality out ya head....do your part.
I can understand if dude is becoming stingy with his bread and it worries you, but if he has been going half on dates and fell off that wagon..cool you have a point, but to say that you don't want to always have to do your part in the relationship is pure fukkery. You don't always have to put up money, there will be times where one of you will want to treat the other to a dinner or something, but if it ain't like that you should have no problem on splitting the check with him...that is your boyfriend, correct?
Now for the other issue...him starting to settle for you taking care of the check....just talk to him, its that simple, find out what is going on with him. It may not mean he is being cheap, maybe he is saving money or is having money issues, you don't need to run to the coli and belittle him by calling dude "cheap" if you don't understand the circumstance for him not spending money, that's corny. Also, you claim to not want someone to provide for you, but then you contradict that by saying he is not spending enough money on you...make up your mind.
stop slandering ya man to a bunch of anonymous people, log off and go talk to him...this shyt ain't rocket science
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BrehMan
Old Avi from :hamster:
Maybe he's saving the money/being cheap to buy a ring for you.
