Be honest brehs & brehettes...how many of y'all just don't see yourself getting married?

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Raises hand.

I'll up this 2 years from now and see where I'm at...but right now...I'd rather just feel things out and see where it goes.

most of you are too young to even be worried about marriage...wait until your mid 30s and see how you feel

 

[Scott Larock]

thats another thing why do you have to be to "stable" in terms of life to get married, the women of today don't want to build with you. I remmeber my mom telling me when she married my dad, all my dad had was a roach infested apartment and was taken the bus making min wage, mom was in school for nursing, but they built together went through the GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.

The nubmer 1 reason for divorce is finances, if you've never been with someone when they had a little or when they weren't unemployed or struggling with debt etc. how are you going to react when they get laid off, or the house foreclosed have to downsize?

My dad wasn't even a citizen when he married my mom, my mom took care of him, me and my boy used to joke about how older black men had it easier than we have it now with women, women took them having nothing.

And I agree, most women want build with you. I'm still working in myself, who do you think ill take seriously?

Many women can't handle that lifestyle as chris rock would say.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Ill never marry as there is no benefit to it, i dont do things that dont benefit

it just seems like too much stress to me.

First you got to go through the dating process, then you have to meet her family...get them to approve of ya...that shyt seems like too much work to me. No thanks.

Then if you get divorced? Then you daamn near lose everything as a man...if you're not signing a pre-nup...then you're sleeping in racecar shaped bed.

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

I can't really imagine it, and if it hasn't happened by now it probably won't for a VERY long time (like 5-10 years).



I don't consider my life stable at the moment and haven't been involved with anyone long enough to consider it. Plus, a woman is going to have to "want" to actually be with me and not marry because she's getting older, wants to settle with anyone, has kids and needs help with them, etc.

And I definitely don't see that happening where I'm at right now

I feel ya bruh.

I'm still trying to live my life and (dare I say it) get it all out of my system...try to meet different women, get my mack on, I ain't tryna be tied down. Especially considering I was stuck in college chasing a degree that seems meaningless that took up a decade of my life (transferred from 3 schools to get one degree) and the better part of my life was like being at a lunch table all by myself in a crowded cafeteria.

The more I go through this thread, the more I see myself being single. Marriage is for the birds.

 

[Couth]

I want kids. And imo you need a two parent household to raise healthy children. So i do see myself getting married, but as more of a business arrangement. Find a girl i get along with, agree to raise kids together, and probably have open relationship (at least open for me lmao)

But i don't think humans were really made to settle down with just one person. I love all women and i can make an emotional connection with anyone of them. So why settle for one when i can have variety?

 

[O.T.I.S.]

thats another thing why do you have to be to "stable" in terms of life to get married, the women of today don't want to build with you. I remmeber my mom telling me when she married my dad, all my dad had was a roach infested apartment and was taken the bus making min wage, mom was in school for nursing, but they built together went through the GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.

The nubmer 1 reason for divorce is finances, if you've never been with someone when they had a little or when they weren't unemployed or struggling with debt etc. how are you going to react when they get laid off, or the house foreclosed have to downsize?

Many women can't handle that lifestyle as chris rock would say.

Well stable to me doesn't just mean job/career. I'm in the process of ending my career in the military now. Stable to me means where I move/ end up next. I've actually relocated for a woman I wanted to be with once (I was young, and there were other benefits involved for my life/career besides the relationship at the time) but I don't think I could do it again and I can't see/imagine anyone in my love life right now that's willing to do the same if it came down to it.


I don't think there's a woman in my life that loves me like that to do so


Plus, I'm trying to develop new plans and strategies, some that might require me to go overseas and in War Zones/Hostile territories for a few years... I don't think any woman I'm romantically involved with currently is ride or die enough to be with ME during that phase (if it develops)

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

most of you are too young to even be worried about marriage...wait until your mid 30s and see how you feel

Bunch of 23 yr old's talking about But But, she got 6 bodies on her.....She can't be my wife. LOL. To be honest when we were 21 - 24 I don't think we ever talked about marriage in any capacity. Good or bad. Maybe this due to the MGTOW crowd getting out to the younger cats.

 

[Colicat]

Damn...I've been thinking about this thread.The older i get the less I see myself actually getting married.

This shyt ain't for brothas like me who are used to being alone and doing their own thing. It's for dudes that can't see themselves NOT in a relationship.

Since I've never been in many or any meaningful relationships...my stance stands. It's not worth it. I'm such a renegade and a loose cannon anyways...

What do you mean by this?

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

What do you mean by this?

I just have a strong tendency to do my own thing and I feel that most people tend to find it..how do I put this...abrasive. Not really in a negative or confrontational way...but more in a "I'm not going to do what everybody else is doing and go with the flow just cause" kind of way. It's like, I like to dress funky (when I'm not in a work-related environment), I skateboard in my spare time, I make music (tried to make a career out of it and just gave up), I like art and photography and nature, I tend to be really independently minded and focus on doing my own thing, and it's been like that for the majority of my life. Being Nigerian and West Indian and growing up in Western PA, I always felt like a loner and at 30 I still do. Especially having a name like mine and being the only person in the COUNTRY with my name...I feel no women want to have that as their last name in marriage. So, I'm just like whatever. I do me...I don't hurt anybody...I'm a nice guy that has his friends and associates but really from living my life for the past 30 years I realize people want to be around others that are just like everyone else.

Maybe it comes off too much in my posts and people just don't know what to think and get the wrong impression of me...but it's probably the most pertinent example of what I'm talking about. Sometimes I express myself the way I do in real life on here and use the sense of humor I do on here and people get turned off cause I'm not joking/conversing/interacting/talking/etc in the way others would and they react to it as if I have a problem when I'm just being myself. It just hurts my feelings sometimes when I'm being me and being genuine and people react to it as if it's offensive.

This is why I just tend to stay a loner...I feel sadly this is why I push people away who are drawn to me cause they just don't know how to handle it.

 

[Poetical Poltergeist]

it just seems like too much stress to me.

First you got to go through the dating process, then you have to meet her family...get them to approve of ya...that shyt seems like too much work to me. No thanks.

Then if you get divorced? Then you daamn near lose everything as a man...if you're not signing a pre-nup...then you're sleeping in racecar shaped bed.

Unless u never want a girlfriend u always gonna have date stress, meet the family stress. and before u know it u might be with the right person. dating and all that shyt comes with the getting p*ssy territory. i mean its coo to fukk no name slores but u gonna want a gf at some point.

 

[Colicat]

I just have a strong tendency to do my own thing and I feel that most people tend to find it..how do I put this...abrasive. Not really in a negative or confrontational way...but more in a "I'm not going to do what everybody else is doing and go with the flow just cause" kind of way. It's like, I like to dress funky (when I'm not in a work-related environment), I skateboard in my spare time, I make music (tried to make a career out of it and just gave up), I like art and photography and nature, I tend to be really independently minded and focus on doing my own thing, and it's been like that for the majority of my life. Being Nigerian and West Indian and growing up in Western PA, I always felt like a loner and at 30 I still do. Especially having a name like mine and being the only person in the COUNTRY with my name...I feel no women want to have that as their last name in marriage. So, I'm just like whatever. I do me...I don't hurt anybody...I'm a nice guy that has his friends and associates but really from living my life for the past 30 years I realize people want to be around others that are just like everyone else.

Maybe it comes off too much in my posts and people just don't know what to think and get the wrong impression of me...but it's probably the most pertinent example of what I'm talking about. Sometimes I express myself the way I do in real life on here and use the sense of humor I do on here and people get turned off cause I'm not joking/conversing/interacting/talking/etc in the way others would and they react to it as if I have a problem when I'm just being myself. It just hurts my feelings sometimes when I'm being me and being genuine and people react to it as if it's offensive.

This is why I just tend to stay a loner...I feel sadly this is why I push people away who are drawn to me cause they just don't know how to handle it.

I think many people can relate to this... I know that I can relate to it... but none of that spells out loose cannon.... it just sounds a bit stubborn...

partnerships and marriage require compromise and flexibility. Many see being inflexible as not relationship material....

I think I still have a lot of learning to do in the flexibility realm.... but many people do...

 

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

Unless u never want a girlfriend u always gonna have date stress, meet the family stress. and before u know it u might be with the right person. dating and all that shyt comes with the getting p*ssy territory. i mean its coo to fukk no name slores but u gonna want a gf at some point.

I honestly don't even care about that.

I'm tryna get my life right first and foremost. Financially, professionally, etc...everything else can wait.

 

[Poetical Poltergeist]

I honestly don't even care about that.

I'm tryna get my life right first and foremost. Financially, professionally, etc...everything else can wait.

Thats all good. just sayin tho. eventually u gonna want the benefits of having a woman. and that changes everything. u dont want to settle..but u also dont wanna let a good thing pass u by. the dating game and that bs is gonna be there no matter what. but yeah dont put your dreams on hold for a chick but also dont runaway from a good woman if u lucky enough to find her.

 

[All Knowledge]

Nope, but I'm in a 'lationship now where that shyt is expected.


Not sure what to do brehs


I kept it macktastic for 5 years straight, but slipped the fukked up.

I love my woman, but marriage...

 

[old_timer]

i'd say 90% chance i'll get remarried within 2 years time