Been with my girl for two years and she wants to live together

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The M.I.C. said:
How does she carry herself with her living situation?

Is her place clean and tidy?
Her bills paid righteously on time?
Does she have habits that would conflict with yours if you were around her more?
Etc, etc..

Some folks just move into together sometimes impulsively without putting each other to a litmus test.
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Great questions. My current girl is disorganized as hell so not even entertaining the idea of moving in together Unless I see a drastic improvement in behavior cause I know it'll be nothing but conflict
 
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MeachTheMonster said:
Yall been together for two years already.

What are you waiting for?:dwillhuh:
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If after 2 yrs of dating u don't want to live with her than why the hell are Yall dating?:what:
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These types of statements always mystify me. Are all extended datin' scenarios supposed to end in marriage / livin' together? Folks can't just enjoy spendin' time together?

In this scenario, sure, one party wants more & is startin' to push. So things need to be thought about and decisions made. But I never understood the time = more stance.
 
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BezO said:
These types of statements always mystify me. Are all extended datin' scenarios supposed to end in marriage / livin' together? Folks can't just enjoy spendin' time together?

In this scenario, sure, one party wants more & is startin' to push. So things need to be thought about and decisions made. But I never understood the time = more stance.
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what the fukk are you in a relationship for?

I could see friends who get together and kick it sometimes.

But if you are in a steady relationship and your goal isn't building a life together, then what the fukk is it?:dwillhuh:
 
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First thing you need to sort out is the bills. Is it gonna be 50/50? Most guys get tricked by their girl to move in together so she dont have to pay bills and the guy ends up working 70 hrs a week to pay all the bills.

Be about your business with this, most girls will use their coochie as a bargaining tool.
 
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MeachTheMonster said:
what the fukk are you in a relationship for?

I could see friends who get together and kick it sometimes.

But if you are in a steady relationship and your goal isn't building a life together, then what the fukk is it?:dwillhuh:
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To enjoy whatever it is 2 people have in the confines of a monogamous relationship.

Some folks don't want/need the state's acknowledgement. Some enjoy the space. Some enjoy the looser committment.

Some folks have already been married, had kids and don't require buildin' a life with someone.

We're all different people with different experiences & expectations. It's OK.
 
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Weaver31 said:
Take it from me...U will learn more about a person and women period living with them.

But please don't make the mistakes I made. DO NOT BUY unless it's only ur name as owner. My name was only as owner but remember if it doesn't work out...it's a process getting her out. My ex fiance lied and said I beat her up and she stole a lot of the shyt out the house because she filed a protective order against me. It was because I called off the engagement because she used me for over a year, quit her job and lied saying she will pay 30-40% of cost but didn't help me with anything except one lil bill. She fuked up my credit and now I'm paying for it. I have to sell home and go back to parents crib to live for a year to rebuild credit and finances. I was vulnerable, inexperienced and she took my weak points and ran with it. She hated my mom and talked about me, my mom and dad to everyone in my family and caused more turmoil. My family already feels some type of way about my parents and she knew this and caused more drama. She was ungrateful, inconsiderate and disrespectful and she never loved me.

She didn't want to stay in a starter home or apartment and was very spoiled. I had to get a big home and she didn't tell me before buying home that she wanted me to pay for everything and that her family believes a man should pay for everything. I have no qualms being a provider but I believe we have to stay within our means and have money left for unplanned circumstances. She didn't care about that.

Just advising u to make sure u can be comfortable with paying for everything on your own even if she says she will help. I don't want nobody else to mess up like me. My health was also a concern and I didn't have enough money to extract a tooth and get an implant because of an abscess from a bad root canal done years back. I really wanted to die after all she put me thru. Please make sure u able to pay for everything on ur own, put lease in ur name and be cognizant that if she gets crazy and y'all not work out...that evicting her is a process and can take months depending on where u stay. U just can't put her out especially if she not willing to leave.
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:merchant: glad I'm not living with a girl right now. That story is scary.
 
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track 1 said:
talked about getting an apartment yesterday :lupe:
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Thats why I split up with my ex..... and the one before that

once you over a certain age when youre dating a woman you roughly have about a two year grace period..... after two years its either marriage, moving in together or kids.... they aint playing
 
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Nemesis said:
Thats why I split up with my ex..... and the one before that

once you over a certain age when youre dating a woman you roughly have about a two year grace period..... after two years its either marriage, moving in together or kids.... they aint playing
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I was just saying the exact same shyt to this young dude last week
 
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