Been with my girl for two years and she wants to live together

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It was scary. Just make sure u choose wisely and make sure she really has ur best interest and cares about finances.
So did you intentionally choose a sorry ass chick to be your fiancé? I can't imagine you saw these types of signs before you pooped the question. Did she just do a complete 180 once you guys moved in together?
 

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Do it. You never really know someone until you live with them. My ex was great before we lived together. After he moved in I learn he was dirty and lazy. So glad I found that out and gave him the boot.
 

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Go for it...

If you're serious about a chick I suggest living together to see how well you guys get along.

Like how well you guys work with money, sharing personal space, paying bills, sex frequency, and all that other shyt before marriage
 

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Take it from me...U will learn more about a person and women period living with them.

But please don't make the mistakes I made. DO NOT BUY unless it's only ur name as owner. My name was only as owner but remember if it doesn't work out...it's a process getting her out. My ex fiance lied and said I beat her up and she stole a lot of the shyt out the house because she filed a protective order against me. It was because I called off the engagement because she used me for over a year, quit her job and lied saying she will pay 30-40% of cost but didn't help me with anything except one lil bill. She fuked up my credit and now I'm paying for it. I have to sell home and go back to parents crib to live for a year to rebuild credit and finances. I was vulnerable, inexperienced and she took my weak points and ran with it. She hated my mom and talked about me, my mom and dad to everyone in my family and caused more turmoil. My family already feels some type of way about my parents and she knew this and caused more drama. She was ungrateful, inconsiderate and disrespectful and she never loved me.

She didn't want to stay in a starter home or apartment and was very spoiled. I had to get a big home and she didn't tell me before buying home that she wanted me to pay for everything and that her family believes a man should pay for everything. I have no qualms being a provider but I believe we have to stay within our means and have money left for unplanned circumstances. She didn't care about that.

Just advising u to make sure u can be comfortable with paying for everything on your own even if she says she will help. I don't want nobody else to mess up like me. My health was also a concern and I didn't have enough money to extract a tooth and get an implant because of an abscess from a bad root canal done years back. I really wanted to die after all she put me thru. Please make sure u able to pay for everything on ur own, put lease in ur name and be cognizant that if she gets crazy and y'all not work out...that evicting her is a process and can take months depending on where u stay. U just can't put her out especially if she not willing to leave.
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Two years... :comeon:


Come on son, now a days you lucky she ain't talking bout marraige. :martin:


:ufdup:if you plan on building a life with her, make it happen
 

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Been with my gf for almost 4 yrs and im 23 giing on 24 and she turn 23 this year both college grads. No talk of moving in together at all:ufdup:. She said she rather be alone and I'd rather just live alone too until im ready make sure this chick is wofe material.
 

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I agree have her move in with you. The less power you let your girl get the smoother it will be.

Yup. Next time you get in a argument, she'll be like "get your shyt and get out" :birdman:

You gonna be looking at her with the :to: "you sure?" :lupe:

She's gonna be like, "nikka you heard me" :ufdup:

Now you packing your bags while she playing TLC's "No scrubs" hella loud and you looking :shaq2::damn::to::sadbron::leostare::beli::mjcry::sadcam:

....all while she is on the phone texting her new nikka setting up a dikk appointment like :lolbron: and then looking at you with the :yeshrug: and then she says "you got 5 minutes breh and you gotta get :camby:"
 

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Yup. Next time you get in a argument, she'll be like "get your shyt and get out" :birdman:

You gonna be looking at her with the :to: "you sure?" :lupe:

She's gonna be like, "nikka you heard me" :ufdup:

Now you packing your bags while she playing TLC's "No scrubs" hella loud and you looking :shaq2::damn::to::sadbron::leostare::beli::mjcry::sadcam:

....all while she is on the phone texting her new nikka setting up a dikk appointment like :lolbron: and then looking at you with the :yeshrug: and then she says "you got 5 minutes breh and you gotta get :camby:"

Had an ex girlfriend kick me out of her apartment while I was staying with her because the lease for my new apartment didn't start yet

She kicked me out while away on vacation had a friend come get the key from me for her. :leostare:
 

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Great questions. My current girl is disorganized as hell so not even entertaining the idea of moving in together Unless I see a drastic improvement in behavior cause I know it'll be nothing but conflict

If u want that to change you just have 2 tell her and then follow it up by leading by example. A woman is going to naturally follow your judgement
 

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If you really like each other fukk it , make sure you plan everything out


And she's probbaly gonna annoy the fukk outta you
 
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