Being A Weekend Dad Is Depressing…

[Ridge Forrester]

Depressing indeed. Yeesh!

 

[Apollo Creed]

Facts people say “the kids will remember” no they grew up with a culture disrespecting you so when they become adults they will be asking for money.

They won’t respect you because they think you “have to” just like the posters saying “just do it” or “fight” so they won’t appreciate it they will just think you should have done more like these coli posters criticizing OP

OP just have your own family

yeah you either gotta legit go to war with the BM legally until she or both of yall crack OR say F them Kids walk away and just pay your CS and start a new life.

All that in the middle stuff is just a slow death.

"fight for your kids" how that sound lmfao, them aint your damn kids in the rules of this society.

 

[Wild self]

Get joint custody.

Having kids without 100% access is setting them up for failure

 

[The Radiant One]

yeah you either gotta legit go to war with the BM legally until she or both of yall crack OR say F them Kids walk away and just pay your CS and start a new life.

All that in the middle stuff is just a slow death.

"fight for your kids" how that sound lmfao, them aint your damn kids in the rules of this society.

Facts a lot of people think because courts give 50/50 custody but then the mom can throw allegations of abuse and disrespect plus while you are fighting you still need to pay child support also if you are behind they can put you in jail

There is no circumstance where the mom would be imprisoned

Also there is no such thing as coparenting the custodial parent parent makes the deflacto decisions like raising them

 

[cheek100]

Can't relate but can just imagine. Takes years to figure out if a chick is worth having children with.

bruh thats the realest shyt ever said

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

How about you go to court and get 50/50 custody so you can see your kids during the week and not be a weekend dad. You can’t effectively parent your kids two days a week. I don’t know you or your ex but I find it funny everybody is jumping to the conclusion that the mom talks bad about the dad. May not even be the case. You an uncle at this point and they treating you like one. I suggest you and your wife switch off every other week or y’all both get two weeks a month. Also kids play games. Even when both parents are in the household. I’m sure when your ex tells them to do something they cry they wanna go to daddy house.

child custody is not about the parents and their desire to be more liked by the kids. it's about the kids and their stability. so unless the parents living arrangement makes it reasonable for the kids to split exactly half here and half there.... the judge is going to go for whatever provides for stability and a good routine for the child.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Facts a lot of people think because courts give 50/50 custody but then the mom can throw allegations of abuse and disrespect plus while you are fighting you still need to pay child support also if you are behind they can put you in jail

There is no circumstance where the mom would be imprisoned

Also there is no such thing as coparenting the custodial parent parent makes the deflacto decisions like raising them

Exactly. If i aint governing my house hold them aint my kids. They better pray sole parties never get the right to financially abort without consent of the other.

 

[Stop_It_5]

People say, “ Bro, they will see shyt for what it is when they become an adult… YOU just make certain that you are doing the right thing.” What a depressing existence….

Depressing but realistic. It's the hand you've been dealt but I promise when that day comes you're gonna feel the vindication and then some.

Saw it play out in real time with one of my cousins kids, their mom went out of her way to be on some fukk shyt while the kids were growing and as tough a pill as it was to swallow he stayed the course and did what he had to do. Now they're grown enough to comprehend all the different things that went down and couldn't be closer to their dad.

 

[maxamusa]

OP; sorry for your loss...the reality is those kids probably gonna be damaged...and by the time they're adults the damage is done and they're gonna be bitter....you should just spoil TF out of them and hope that works out

 

[etrofllenrod504]

What state was this in? How long did it take til you were able to get joint custody?

Its here in New Orleans Louisiana. It took like a good two months. It went pretty smoothly because she was dumb enough to not retain a lawyer. So I basically got everything I wanted with in rights.

 

[etrofllenrod504]

This is the ONLY way. I fought both my bms and got what I wanted. 50/50 cuts all the bs out AND exposes the lil bs games they play. If u only a weekend dad u are paying more child support as well.

Exactly at the bolded. My ex was trying to use my baby girl as a weapon over me. Best decision I ever made!!! Shut all that nonsense down.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

If you are going to be a weekend pops be more constructive. Sit ya kids down teach them about investing,read with them,let them mow lawn rtc do the boring shyt.You playing PS5 and watching movies with them you sound like their big brother .Not saying you cant have fun,make a negative out of a positive. Kids gonna be calling you by their first name the way you going

 

[The Radiant One]

If you are going to be a weekend pops be more constructive. Sit ya kids down teach them about investing,read with them,let them mow lawn rtc do the boring shyt.You playing PS5 and watching movies with them you sound like their big brother .Not saying you cant have fun,make a negative out of a positive. Kids gonna be calling you by their first name the way you going

That’s an uncle not pops

 

[The Radiant One]

Depressing but realistic. It's the hand you've been dealt but I promise when that day comes you're gonna feel the vindication and then some.

Saw it play out in real time with one of my cousins kids, their mom went out of her way to be on some fukk shyt while the kids were growing and as tough a pill as it was to swallow he stayed the course and did what he had to do. Now they're grown enough to comprehend all the different things that went down and couldn't be closer to their dad.

No not always I’ve seen it play out the opposite Dad does everything but they still side with mother especially if the mom always blames the dad and keeps them away from them

They say the same to step dads who pay and show full time support but get no love at graduation

 

[The God Poster]

You literally can never do enough… You pay your child support, sign them up for sports, ALWAYS show up no excuses, take your kids to sporting events, amusement parks, buy the PS5, X Box, Nintendo Switch, Disney cruises, Disney Park vacations, keep them fresh… As soon as they get out of line and you correct them, they will look at you and tell you that they want to go back to their mom’s.

On Monday when they’re back at their mom’s, they calling you telling you more shyt that they want you to buy. On Mother’s Day it was, “ Dad, what are we getting mom for Mother’s Day?” I didn’t hear a peep about Father’s Day yesterday at all. We go to therapy and all of that, I have voluntarily taken parenting classes, and I read shyt on how to be a better father and still… You start to realize that your relationship with your seed is very contingent and conditional.

Just venting… I know y’all live in Wakanda and everything is perfect in your world but when homes are broken, the child that left with the mom, overtime isn’t the same child. They become the mom… You’re the bad guy and whatever happened surely was your fault.

People say, “ Bro, they will see shyt for what it is when they become an adult… YOU just make certain that you are doing the right thing.” What a depressing existence….

Hopefully things get better but the bolded is the problem. Weekend or everyday sounds like you don’t have the correct amount of authority/respect. Either that or you & mom ain’t moving as one. They should already know if one of y’all say something the other will back them

Have you always been in they life?