Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.

[DatBoiHawk]

Did your pops on the coli brehs

Shut up nikka

 

[sfgiants]

Having angry ass sex on a fri/Saturday night and the girl leaving u alone the rest of the weekend so u can hit the gym/watch football/do whatever you want

Not being nagged

Spending money on optimum nutrition protein instead of baby formula

 

[Rick Fox at UNC]

My dad telling me I should get married and shyt this nikka even said a mans main focus should be finding a woman, not money ....have a simp for a dad brehs

Denigrate your own father for the acceptance of some online strangers brehs.

 

[DatBoiHawk]

Denigrate your own father for the acceptance of some online strangers brehs.

Lol

 

[Spotja]

Quick question. To the brehs that are on that #GMB, #nokidsgang shyt, is it due to you not having a male role model? Or y’all just on that alternative (not entirely hipster) lifestyle? Coz I swear I had an uncle who passed on 2 years ago (age 58) and was on that #GMB lifestyle. Dude was never happy. That life is too lonely. I’m 29 no kids and never married.

 

[666 ReVeNGe 666]

31, in great shape, strong corporate gig, own place, no kids, never married.

Like everything in life, these situations require nuance. It all depends on what you want, and honestly, what we want changes from day to day. Some days I think about being married, having some kids, etc. etc. Other days, I love that when I get home from work, I just get to lay on my couch, eat a steak, and watch sports without caring about anything or anyone else. Whether or not either is better than the other, what I think I love the most is I have that CHOICE.

Let's call a spade a spade. When you're a black man who has his shyt together "on paper" you can wife up a female at almost any time. I know that I could've been marred like 10 times already if I really wanted to. I bushed 2 younger females this year who would've married me at the drop of a hat.

I think it's best to do what you really want to do. I'd be lying to myself if I said I wasn't afraid of all the extra responsibility that comes with marriage and children. I basically feel that if a person really really wants to do something, they'll do it. The fact remains that deep down, I don't really want all that, at least right now. Life is on easy mode right now.

I feel the same way breh.

Although I am married but me and my girl do the same shyt and the freedom is

I can't imagine rushing to daycare then rushing home after work to spend 6 hours with a kid.

 

[southern.girl]

I guess I kind of did not believe that men in their mid to late 30s are getting women in their 20s who want something serious with them, but I think I'm just projecting, because that's not what I would want when I settle down at like 25. I could see myself dating guys who are pushing thirty or even in his early thirties, but not 35+. That's just me though, but I guess I won't know until I get to that point

As a woman, I agree with you. It is rare to find a quality & mature woman in her 20s who will honestly desire a man 15 years her senior. These dudes are gonna have a serious wake up call.

 

[hu3ypdadon]

I’m 29 this year no kids single and consider myself not just happy but blesssed!! I have money in the bank which represents freedom for me. I don’t plan to have kids until I find the right Earth in the universe

 

[shutterguy]

it goes by #GMB on the coli

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

A lot of people (as well as some people in this thread and who are lurking this thread I assume) end up getting married and having kids due to pressure or because they think that's what they are supposed to do. Don't be that person. I'm 24 and I look at how some of the parents I know are living and I'm like nah ah this shyt ain't for me nikka.

 

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

Your dad and brother are keeping it real to their experience

Sounds like they are in bad relationships

Marriage can be tough at times, annoying at others but for me it’s been the best part of my life and my wife has helped me grow personally, career wise and as a parent

Not saying every day is magic, but if you think a marriage is hell, you’re in a bad relationship

Simp

 

[MikelArteta]

Just because a vegetarian hates meat doesn't mean everyone else does.

As a woman, I agree with you. It is rare to find a quality & mature woman in her 20s who will honestly desire a man 15 years her senior. These dudes are gonna have a serious wake up call.

 

[letti cook]

Quick question. To the brehs that are on that #GMB, #nokidsgang shyt, is it due to you not having a male role model? Or y’all just on that alternative (not entirely hipster) lifestyle? Coz I swear I had an uncle who passed on 2 years ago (age 58) and was on that #GMB lifestyle. Dude was never happy. That life is too lonely. I’m 29 no kids and never married.

the bolded is an interesting take....i never thought about it but i grew up without a father figure...or a mother figure for that matter

on top of that, i was the oldest in a foster home and spent my teenage years with a hand in watching/raising kids

seen all my family go through divorces and be at odds with their kids

seen my friends have kids early and fukk their whole life up

i used to feel bad about always being single, not having a fam but the older i got/get, the more i see it as an advantage.

im 31 and i can still work towards building my life cause i have no responsibilities other than looking out for myself...
all my friends look....trapped


but got damn being the only single person in a friend group or family has some TRASH ass, lonely ass moments

 

[Easy-E]

Quick question. To the brehs that are on that #GMB, #nokidsgang shyt, is it due to you not having a male role model? Or y’all just on that alternative (not entirely hipster) lifestyle? Coz I swear I had an uncle who passed on 2 years ago (age 58) and was on that #GMB lifestyle. Dude was never happy. That life is too lonely. I’m 29 no kids and never married.

I'm #GMB

I'd love a kid, but, resent the idea of giving a woman power over me r given by racist, classist (?) laws.

I was raised by a single man in the military. My parents got divorced and comparitively my Mom wasn't bad to my father. She legitimately didn't want to hurt us, so, she didn't take. But, that was the lowest I saw my dad.

I got past that, but, that doesn't change the fact our culture isn't really built for marriage. We've got to compete with women to the point making more than them is a requirement for even "love."

I finally expect any marriage to fail after five years or so. I'm good. Die divorced or never married. It's a chance I'm wiling to take.

 

[Steel]

My best friend got trapped early. He met some pawg in college and knocked her up. Her fam was very catholic and finessed him into marrying her. Breh was 22. Life aint been the same. We drifted apart cuz dude was a family man and i was and still am enjoying youth.

Dude cant do anything spontaneous
Cant chill
Cant travel
Etc

As for me i dont see myself getting married till 28+