Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.

[1thouwow]

face it young blood..the older you get,the more likely that will become you're reality..embrace it breh

women who don't have kids over 30 either can't, or don't want them..the ladder of the two 9 times out of 10 is usually a cold hearted independent chick thats wack in bed

I’m messing with a 25 yo with no kids, I might just hold onto her and put one in her

 

[FreddyCalhoun]

Move to a big city instead of dusty ass Louisiana. It's normal to be a single childless 30something professional in a big city.

Normal is strong,...but it is definitely alot easier than being in a small city.

 

[poundedyam]

Waiting>>>>>Rushing

 

[GoldenGlove]

Why do so many people sit here and act like it's somehow better to have kids at 25 than 35? Like y'all not improving yourselves and can't look yourselves in the mirror and say I'm a much better person at all facets of life than I was 10 years ago or sumn.

I mean, when you're 35 with your first child... you'll be 40 when they start Kindergarden, you'll be 50+ when they're in HS


I'm just saying, if you're content at 25 with who you're having a kid with, why not? What's wrong with being a younger responsible parent?

I had my first at 31 and I think about this shyt all the time.

 

[YouMadd?]

Who said anything about getting married?


The search and thirst for contradictions and exposals on this site is so stupid.

Yeah it is an embarrassingly annoying trend that happens on here ...

Folks cant separate, the coli as a website with thousands of members from one man's thread on the coli....

 

[semtex]

I got coworkers in their early 30s who have gotten married within the past 3 years. They can’t do shyt now they used to come our drinkin now we never see them

 

[semtex]

I mean, when you're 35 with your first child... you'll be 40 when they start Kindergarden, you'll be 50+ when they're in HS


I'm just saying, if you're content at 25 with who you're having a kid with, why not? What's wrong with being a younger responsible parent?

I had my first at 31 and I think about this shyt all the time.

So don’t be

I can only see this being an issue if you’re a woman

 

[GoldenGlove]

This is not made up at all and when they find out they basically start asking the same question you just did

Women get it the worse! During my 20s I was always told "Don't worry about marriage and kids, you have your whole life for that. Just enjoy yourself and have fun." Now that I'm over 30 everyone is applying pressure. Literally every time I go to the GYN they're asking "Have you started thinking about kids yet? You might need a little help (medication) after 35. I can deliver you a baby up until your around 43".

If you take all that BS into your spirit you'll end up depressed and making bad decisions (settling). That's why I block all that out and stay focused on my goals. WTF I look like letting someone else tell me what I should be doing or making me feel bad about MY life. I feel like in your 20s you should be learning yourself as a person and building your career then enjoying the benefits in your 30s.

I mean, with women... it's going to always be like that. Because it's a fact that the older you get the harder it is to have kids.

Now for women that don't want to have kids, it's not an issue. But there are plenty of women who haven't found that guy yet who start feeling that pressure about starting a family. I have a close friend who expressed that to me. She's 31, and it's a real conversation she has with herself. She told me, it's kind of rough seeing most of her friends who are the same age as her start their families and having children/getting married. But she also knows that you just don't go and do that for the sake of doing it. So it's a tough spot to be in.

A lot of times, women end up settling for guys or trying to force things because they feel like they're on the clock, I understand it, and it's gotta suck because it's a lot of nikkas out here that love being that old nikka in the club bragging about no kids, no marriage, but in a lot of cases they are alone and fronting like they living it up.

Be strong my sister!

 

[GoldenGlove]

So don’t be

I can only see this being an issue if you’re a woman

It's not an issue, it's reality breh.

Whether you're a women or a man.

 

[MJ Truth]

Not saying it's a bad thing, but I don't it's spoken on so much.

Especially if you have a decent career and your money is straight. You will find it hard to find like minded people that have money and free time that can just up and take a trip somewhere Most people in their 20s are too broke to do much of anything. And most people in their 30s are broke and all of their time is tied up. I guess this is cool if you're introvert and loner, but if you're very sociable, it can be bothersome.

If you balling that hard breh you might as well trick the money off for companionship.

 

[TRFG]

Kids in your late 20s I’ll just assume you’re poor or make bad choices or just both

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

I'm 32, my own place (no roomates), making good money, and I enjoy the freedom I have, and I'm not looking to lose that freedom anytime soon

 

[Easy-E]

No one wants to say it but.....It makes you selfish usually.


Like you get to a point where you are only use to providing and doing what you want for you when you want to do it.



Now that might not be the case totally if you have love ones to look over or kind of handle and take care of, but if you legit on your own and doing your own thing without worrying about how something is going to make someone else feel, if you such and such needs anything, who needs money for what....yeah you become self center low key, a lot of times in way's you don't notice.

This is why i know #GMB isn't just a phase for me.

I don't think I'll be able 2 hit the switch and have a woman attached on some fo life tip.

 

[Vandelay]

I actually like it. I probably won't be having a kid until I'm close to 40.

 

[Spatial Paradox]

I mean, when you're 35 with your first child... you'll be 40 when they start Kindergarden, you'll be 50+ when they're in HS


I'm just saying, if you're content at 25 with who you're having a kid with, why not? What's wrong with being a younger responsible parent?

I had my first at 31 and I think about this shyt all the time.

I think about the same thing a lot since I'll be 30 this year. Whenever the topic comes off, people usually brush it off since I'm a man, so the usual response is "oh, you can have kids anytime", but they don't seem to get that I'm thinking about how old I'll be as my kids are growing up and hitting certain milestones. I'd rather not be that dude having his first child at about 40. Yeah, I'm in the gym on a regular basis and plan to be for as long as my body allows me to be, but Father Time is undefeated.

I'm not rushing to have kids, but since I know I do want to have a family of my own in the future, it is something I think about