Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.

[DonRe]

That stigma is fading quick. This generation is on the yolo shyt and doesn’t try hard to get tied down by kids And marriage.

Live your life as you see fit. Get money, travel, fukk and don’t shy away from happiness. It’s good for the soul

 

[Rocket Scientist]

They'll tell you it's diff
But it ain't
my friend has a fam with 2 kids. His vacations every year are legoland and Disneyland. And his wife has to approve things he buys. Like a PS4. Or a new bike.

It's the same with every married dude at work. One guy said his wife won't "let" him watch Star Wars until it's on DVD
Another one had to ask for permission to stay out for some work happy hour

bbbbbbbut it's the most amazing thing you can ever do.

Bruh married cats stay in denial and secretly hate on us single dudes.All that happy wife happy life stuff.Their wives be like P.O officers. at the Star Wars comment.

 

[EndDomination]

It can

I'm kinda in a similar situation now. I'm in a new city and it's lowkey hard to find friends or even people to associate with. I'm 27 no kids. I really don't want to hang with the college kids even though I'm only a few years removed, and I don't have the daycare/school/summer camp angle with the kids to be forced to find people to be friends with.

What's yall advice for finding new people besides tinder?

Do shyt, mane.
I know it sounds a little ridiculous, but you literally meet people by doing a lot of things and having a base-line friendliness.
Join a gym, go to local concerts, try hole-in-the-wall bars, clubs, venues, and restaurants.
Hit up a local basketball court, ultimate frisbee spot, go to talks at the local college, volunteer, etc.
I know people from all over just because I'd get a "little" involved in an activity, and just was nice.
Into programming computers? Go to a hack-a-thon.
Dance/music? There are always cyphers and the like around.
Anime/comics? Cosplays and conventions.
Art? Showcases.

 

[sfgiants]

Bruh married cats stay in denial and secretly hate on us single dudes.All that happy wife happy life stuff.Their wives be like P.O officers. at the Star Wars comment.

Think about that term
"Happy wife happy life"

The source of happiness in ones life will come from making a wife happy? FOH.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Think about that term
"Happy wife happy life"

The source of happiness in ones life will come from making a wife happy? FOH.

We men suppose to lead women.These cats letting their wife bully them. A woman is never 100% happy hell some of them aren't happy with themselves let alone a lifelong commitment

 

[he_is_I]

The cognitive dissonance

What I was tryna say was anybody can make it on their own and support themselves if they work hard. Don't let other people's lives scare you away from creating your own family you just have to make the right choices.

 

[Lamar Givens]

Yeah I'll bet most people who have kids in their early 20s are the kind of people that don't mature much past age 25

 

[Eastside Get The Money]

Do shyt, mane.
I know it sounds a little ridiculous, but you literally meet people by doing a lot of things and having a base-line friendliness.
Join a gym, go to local concerts, try hole-in-the-wall bars, clubs, venues, and restaurants.
Hit up a local basketball court, ultimate frisbee spot, go to talks at the local college, volunteer, etc.
I know people from all over just because I'd get a "little" involved in an activity, and just was nice.
Into programming computers? Go to a hack-a-thon.
Dance/music? There are always cyphers and the like around.
Anime/comics? Cosplays and conventions.
Art? Showcases.

Thanks for the response bro bro. The problem with me is I’m in Seattle and these cats out here have 0 interest and reaching out to people

But I like what you said. I actually got cool with a few people at the weed spot, I might stop by near closing and see what they’re getting into after wards. Thanks again breh

 

[Loop Ba$eCrawler]

As long as you stay in shape into your 30's you're good. I'm feeling great at 37 with no kids, no wife and the bank account growing as well as my music equipment. Got a good girl currently so that makes it all better...If things don't work out here, I'm in shape so I got those options.

Also, in the last year I've found out that women without kids hate dealing with men with kids...They're always relieved when they find out you got no kids.

 

[Bumblebreh]

They'll tell you it's diff
But it ain't
my friend has a fam with 2 kids. His vacations every year are legoland and Disneyland. And his wife has to approve things he buys. Like a PS4. Or a new bike.

It's the same with every married dude at work. One guy said his wife won't "let" him watch Star Wars until it's on DVD
Another one had to ask for permission to stay out for some work happy hour

bbbbbbbut it's the most amazing thing you can ever do.

A grown ass man...................see that is what happens when you marry an alpha matriarch

 

[DaddyFresh]

I don’t see how nikkas can be single till they late 30s smashing random females that still shared with multiple other nikkas. Marriage might not be the answer but neither is fukking random whores half your life.
Get a long term girlfriend at least to build with. The quality of women are getting worse by the year. So if you find one with her head on straight cuff.
Plus since you not actively pursuing new women you can use that time and money to do something much more productive.

 

[3rdWorld]

I'm too jaded, untrusting and weary to even bother trying to take shyt to the next level and having a wife etc..
I wouldn't mind a child with a hassle free baby mama, but Ive seen enough in my years to know most these women cant be trusted so why live with them. Birth my heir and leave us alone.

 

[African Peasant]

I don’t see how nikkas can be single till they late 30s smashing random females that still shared with multiple other nikkas. Marriage might not be the answer but neither is fukking random whores half your life.
Get a long term girlfriend at least to build with. The quality of women are getting worse by the year. So if you find one with her head on straight cuff.
Plus since you not actively pursuing new women you can use that time and money to do something much more productive.

Yep.

It's very hard to find a good girl who do not want to settle and have a family.

It's not a sustainable situation, unless you're ready to be lonely. Even friends become rare after a certain age.

If you are a celebrity/rich guy, you can live the party life fukkin whores, even though it's not the ideal.

If you are a regular cat, that shyt will quickly get

Some people think they will live all their live, at leafs until their 50's, like their 20's; it's an illusion.

 

[African Peasant]

I mean, that's a selfish way to look at it.

Problem is, it seems like folks is content with trying to live their 20s forever.

At some point, IMO you're supposed to find a mate, create a stable union and family structure to raise children in, then raise them within the culture, traditions, and value set agreed upon by you and your mate, with the hopes of y'all together nurturing them into responsible, disciplined, stable, productive, family oriented adults, that will carry on your family name with honor, when you and your mate are no longer able to.

As someone that's been married for 13 years, with 5 children, marriage and fatherhood have been far from a walk in the park, but that's not what I got into it for in the first place.

I knew giving up a piece of myself, and dealing with the growing pains of my wife also giving up a piece of herself, for us to jointly create this family would be anything but easy, and I welcomed the challenge head on.

Looking back, I wouldn't change a damn thing.

Being a husband and father gives you a sense of focus and purpose that you will not find as a single man.

You can fool yourself into thinking that your career, toys, and social status are enough, but you will eventually find yourself looking back at all your accomplishments and conquests with an empty feeling, because that's ultimately not what you're here for.

You're here to share your life experiences with a mate, spread your wisdom to your seeds, and raise them with the tools necessary to keep this muthafukka going.

 

[Shorty K]

Bro you said some people don't mature much past the age of 25. I agreed and added I'd wager most these people that don't mature much past the age of 25 are also the kind that would have kids young.