DemureNatural
Pro
We really need to start a group!
Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.
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We really need to start a group!
Same. Because im 29, a good looking man with a great career, good credit, homeowner, people often wonder why im not married or have kids. I personally don't believe in kids before 30, and I think we as a people need to stop playing with sex.
How often does parenthood come from planning? Most of my friends with kids will admit they didn't plan on having kids it just happened. A Mother is a child's first teacher. You dont want just anyone imparting knowledge to your children.
Furthermore, make sure you are ready. People haven't lived your life so they can't tell you when you need produce offspring. Its enough children out here struggling and in broken homes because their parents didn't plan.
Women go harder than nikkas these days. Don't let anyone trap you. Dont fold due to pressure from family and friends. Most of these people dont know shyt anyway.
How often does parenthood come from planning? Most of my friends with kids will admit they didn't plan on having kids it just happened. A Mother is a child's first teacher. You dont want just anyone imparting knowledge to your children.
Furthermore, make sure you are ready. People haven't lived your life so they can't tell you when you need produce offspring. Its enough children out here struggling and in broken homes because their parents didn't plan.
Women go harder than nikkas these days. Don't let anyone trap you. Dont fold due to pressure from family and friends. Most of these people dont know shyt anyway.
Can't trust no mentally ill single mother with your child breh....Its no such thing as hassle free
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I think it's no problem to not want kids, and to be single in your 30s and living how you want. I can see how it would get lonely though.
What I found interesting about this thread is the men who are in their early to mid thirties who are focused on the single life, but admit they want a significant other at some point but not in their own age range. I have a genuine question: Where do you all expect to find quality 20-something year olds when you're pushing 40?
Edit: added "question" after "genuine"
What I found interesting about this thread is the men who are in their early to mid thirties who are focused on the single life, but admit they want a significant other at some point but not in their own age range. I have a genuine question: Where do you all expect to find quality 20-something year olds when you're pushing 40?
Edit: added "question" after "genuine"
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Mister_DoItNice
Leading The Regime
Just turned 31 last month. No children. I’m enjoying life, traveling around the world. My sister hit me up while I was in the gym last week and straight up said I need to find a girl so she can have some nieces and nephews. According to her, it’s time to expand the family. All I could do was laugh. I don’t operate on anyone else’s time but my own.
This nikka got triggered then a mf
what are you talking about
Came in this thread specifically made about people of a certain age group to shyt on that group of people for being content with their life.
You're projecting my guy, but I'll let you cook
TheBigBopper
Banned
No one wants to say it but.....It makes you selfish usually.
Like you get to a point where you are only use to providing and doing what you want for you when you want to do it.
Now that might not be the case totally if you have love ones to look over or kind of handle and take care of, but if you legit on your own and doing your own thing without worrying about how something is going to make someone else feel, if you such and such needs anything, who needs money for what....yeah you become self center low key, a lot of times in way's you don't notice.
And is there anything wrong with this?
Came in this thread specifically made about people of a certain age group to shyt on that group of people for being content with their life.
You're projecting my guy, but I'll let you cook
All I said was, positives and negatives for both single and married, social life is best in the 20s, one side effect from being single in the 30s can be depression as others have mentioned, obviously many don't deal with depression but some do. No lies were told.
International Playa
Playa with a Passport
Just turned 31, people putting pressure on me to get married & have kids. Sorry but I havnt met that special lady to settle down with, so for now Im gonna enjoy dating different types of women & travelling till I find her.
Another thing Im a late bloomer, didnt really start dating till my mid 20s & only moved in to my own place till I was 28. I was already behind people who were dating in their teens so most likely I wont get married until later on. Everyones race in life is different, run your own race at your own pace, dont let people rush you.
Another thing Im a late bloomer, didnt really start dating till my mid 20s & only moved in to my own place till I was 28. I was already behind people who were dating in their teens so most likely I wont get married until later on. Everyones race in life is different, run your own race at your own pace, dont let people rush you.
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We get it bruh. You don't need to reassure us you made the right choice
Brehs,
If you have a decent education, you need to set your focus on Africa. Nairobi, Johannesburg, Addis, Lagos. Do a year out there in your field. The knowledge transfer back to the motherland is great for future development, the experience you get working with limited resources is great for future job prospects, and the rest is a no-brainer. Cost of living is cheap. You can get a crib, full time driver with car, plus a maid who comes in every day to cook and clean for you for less than the cost of your rent/mortgage in any major american city. As far as females go, what's understood doesn't need to be explained. The creme de la creme is at your disposal plus the educated ones are interesting as hell, fun, and most believe in traditional gender roles, etc.
If you have a decent education, you need to set your focus on Africa. Nairobi, Johannesburg, Addis, Lagos. Do a year out there in your field. The knowledge transfer back to the motherland is great for future development, the experience you get working with limited resources is great for future job prospects, and the rest is a no-brainer. Cost of living is cheap. You can get a crib, full time driver with car, plus a maid who comes in every day to cook and clean for you for less than the cost of your rent/mortgage in any major american city. As far as females go, what's understood doesn't need to be explained. The creme de la creme is at your disposal plus the educated ones are interesting as hell, fun, and most believe in traditional gender roles, etc.
To each his own but I wouldn't trade my kids for any of that frivolous shyt yall talking bout (extra "me" time, blowing money on material items, being ultra promiscuous)
It ain't for everybody but I love being a father, it has shown me another side of myself I would have never found on my own. To be the protector AND the provider for the little people I brought into this world has made me a better person....almost akin to opening a 3rd eye.
Alot of u guys with no kids underestimate the awakening that having kids can give u. U won't realize how selfish u currently are until u have another life depending on u.
Do it when its right for you, when u find the right woman to raise your chaps with....and while you still have some of your YOUTH and PATIENCE. Yea that shyt seem fun now floating in the wind but you don't wanna be that 45 year old with a kid in kindergarten
Nah breh. Your kids are here to stay. It’s not like you have any other choice but to accept and love them