being introverted can be a gift and a curse.

[CrimsonTider]

You're assuming introverts don't go out and make memories. I think a lot of people are confusing introversion with being a loner or having social anxiety. I'm an introvert in a great relationship and I have a tight knit of friends. I like to travel, kayak, do karaoke, and yes, hang out with my friends. However, I have a time limit on how long I can do these things because being around people drain me. That doesn't mean I don't go out and make memories, it just means, I need down time after I do.

I'm accusing introverts of being arrogant POS that think everyone chatting it up and enjoying each other company is doing mindless worthless things.

While Staying a recluse in their own mind is some kind of worthwhile enlightening stated.

What I'm saying is being proven up and down this thread

 

[Slystallion]

just learn to keep what you say short and entertaining...like the way Robert Downey Jr talks in Iron Man...wit and brevity is the key to social success...and once your able to grab someone's attention you just let them talk about themselves and interject when you have something to add or the conversation steers towards something your interested in

 

[MacNCheese]

Being an introvert is good in a lot of ways. I think it's the main reason I haven't had any major brushes with the law in my 21 years on earth. It's also helped me be a pretty good writer. Good enough to get paid for it anyway. At the same time I'm kinda worried about what my social life is gonna look like be after I graduate college. I have no idea how I'm gonna pull girls once I'm done with school. Either I'm gonna have take a huge jump out my comfort zone or I'm not getting any.

 

[NobodyReally]

I'm accusing introverts of being arrogant POS that think everyone chatting it up and enjoying each other company is doing mindless worthless things.

While Staying a recluse in their own mind is some kind of worthwhile enlightening stated.

What I'm saying is being proven up and down this thread

What I said about extroverts being more self-centered is based on MY experience of them. It doesn't mean they are narcissists, but many of them have trouble reading non-verbals that perhaps their conversation is not welcomed or has worn out its welcome. They also often have trouble listening because they talk a lot. Generally, people who talk a lot have no honed the art of listening well. Many extroverts will freely admit to having these problems. Introverts have their own set of problems, many of which have been discussed in this thread. I don't see any arrogance in this thread, just a discussion about how introverts struggle with the pressure to be extroverted and deal with some of the downsides of introversion.

 

[CrimsonTider]

What I said about extroverts being more self-centered is based on MY experience of them. It doesn't mean they are narcissists, but many of them have trouble reading non-verbals that perhaps their conversation is not welcomed or has worn out its welcome. They also often have trouble listening because they talk a lot. Generally, people who talk a lot have no honed the art of listening well. Many extroverts will freely admit to having these problems. Introverts have their own set of problems, many of which have been discussed in this thread. I don't see any arrogance in this thread, just a discussion about how introverts struggle with the pressure to be extroverted and deal with some of the downsides of introversion.

"Wise men listen and laugh, while fools talk"

This is not arrogance to you? And this sentiment is felt throughout this thread.

 

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

What I said about extroverts being more self-centered is based on MY experience of them. It doesn't mean they are narcissists, but many of them have trouble reading non-verbals that perhaps their conversation is not welcomed or has worn out its welcome. They also often have trouble listening because they talk a lot. Generally, people who talk a lot have no honed the art of listening well. Many extroverts will freely admit to having these problems. Introverts have their own set of problems, many of which have been discussed in this thread. I don't see any arrogance in this thread, just a discussion about how introverts struggle with the pressure to be extroverted and deal with some of the downsides of introversion.

what's crazy to me, is that i've been accused of everything. my last girlfriend dumped me because i talked too much, but all through highschool and up to a couple of years ago, i was always accused of being ' too quiet'. this is why i say that you shouldn't label yourself. i actually don't know what i am anymore.

 

[Matt504]

I'm accusing introverts of being arrogant POS that think everyone chatting it up and enjoying each other company is doing mindless worthless things.

While Staying a recluse in their own mind is some kind of worthwhile enlightening stated.

What I'm saying is being proven up and down this thread

other people talking to each other doesn't bother me at all, I don't dismiss their exchanges as meaningless, the problem is when those same people try to talk to me and I don't want to be talked to. I'm not a rude person and am extremely considerate of other peoples emotions so I often find myself having conversations I don't really want to have because I can't just yell "STOP TALKING TO ME"

being in my own mind is a worthwhile state, especially in contrast to taking to people who are never in their minds and completely oblivious to things I'm acutely aware of such as non-verbal cues.

 

[ahomeplateslugger]

it gets made once every 4 months

dont like small talk

likes to go out but not for a long time

hates talking on the phone

being around a lot of people is physically draining

wish i could turn on a switch to be extrovert

wouldn't change being introvert for the world

what kills me is that some of these introvert posters will run into other threads claiming to living the lifestyle and pulling bad chicks

 

[Matt504]

what's crazy to me, is that i've been accused of everything. my last girlfriend dumped me because i talked too much, but all through highschool and up to a couple of years ago, i was always accused of being ' too quiet'. this is why i say that you shouldn't label yourself. i actually don't know what i am anymore.

one (uno) girl claims you talk too much, meanwhile you were told all the time from high school up until a couple of years ago that you're too quiet...

somebody lying and I don't think it's all the people claiming you're too quiet.

 

[Matt504]

what kills me is that some of these introvert posters will run into other threads claiming to living the lifestyle and pulling bad chicks

you should call them out by name and quote some of the posts here.

 

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

one (uno) girl claims you talk too much, meanwhile you were told all the time from high school up until a couple of years ago that you're too quiet...

somebody lying and I don't think it's all the people claiming you're too quiet.

You actually made a good point bro. it could be that she just doesn't know me well enough. in fact i told her, that i'm not always chipper. my pretensious, arrogant side comes out more often when i'm with her because of some mild insecurity.

 

[Sonny Bonds]

I mean no disrespect whatsoever.
It really, really sounds like a couple of you may have social anxiety.
My closest friend is an INTJ and back in high school, while I had to beg son to come to certain parties with us, he could still function.
I would definitely notice a decrease in his energy level after a couple of hours, but breh could make small talk and play my wing man when the situation called for it.
If you're getting choked up over casual meet and greet conversation, or you're the type to be going for milk and see someone you recognize in the dairy aisle, so you walk down the canned goods section instead and pretend to be looking for something else until the coast is clear, you may have an underlying issue that goes deeper than simple extroversion & introversion.

I realize this is from hella earlier in thread, but... let's be real: Black kids are the least likely to get the help they need with an issue like this. I say this; as a man who is pretty damn sure he has social anxiety.

 

[Lo-Co]

honestly im slightly more introverted. im still on the fence at times. and honestly. i dont think extroverts are mindless idiots that talk alot. i mean theres intelligence in every element. i honestly dont get alot of females my way. i dont talk too much. and honestly both sides have arrogance in them.

 

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

I'm not a rude person and am extremely considerate of other peoples emotions so I often find myself having conversations I don't really want to have because I can't just yell "STOP TALKING TO ME"

I see where you're coming from, but this is overall a shytty attitude to have. a lot of ppl are just themselves, it's not like they're 'talking' to you out of malice. you're not going to ever like everyone you meet. what you have to do is learn to appreciate ppl for whatever qualities they have. you will be a much happier individual that way.

my brother is like that too. he loves talking about esoteric, random shyt that only he's interested in, but i've learned to appreciate the conversations we have rather than always screaming 'leave me alone, leave me alone' in my head.

it's okay to not want to talk all the time. if you don't want to talk, then just moss at home and avoid social settings. but if you're in a social setting you have to understand that you 'keeping to yourself' can be misconstrued as you being aloof. i mean, i'm a quiet dude too myself so i understand it when someone doesn't want to talk and i'll respect their space. however, i'll be honest in that these ppl tend to zap the energy and good vibes out of a room. all things being equal i'd rather interact with ppl who don't make me feel awkward than ppl who do.

 

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

honestly im slightly more introverted. im still on the fence at times. and honestly. i dont think extroverts are mindless idiots that talk alot. i mean theres intelligence in every element. i honestly dont get alot of females my way. i dont talk too much. and honestly both sides have arrogance in them.

this is low-key one of the better posts in this thread. this shyt is sig quote worthy. i'm totally with you with this one bro.