fair enough. ive met arrogant introverted people and extroverted arrogant people. im not the smartest guy nor will run around bragging about being introverted and smart and brag about guaranteeing that ill be successful because of that. its like the people that find the famous people that smoked weed or did some type of drug and them assuming that theyll be successful. im honestly lazy and sometimes i bullshyt myself into staying lazy. i had to force myself to go to college when i wanted to slouch around.
being introverted can be a gift and a curse.
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the thing is we need people of both introverted and extroverted personalities. one side cant do it all. ill be real id like to go to a party every now and then. and be able to make my own circle of comrades. its like when im around my friends its like stanley empkiss putting on the mask.
I don't think anyone is out it intentionally annoy me, except my cousins, I've learned to appreciate these convos as well but most of the time I'd rather just say a few nice words and keep it moving.
OCCAMS_RAZOR
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It doesn't necessarily have to go 'deeper' than extroversion and introversion. I used to be the same way: avoiding ppl i knew, avoiding their gaze, etc. i wouldn't even label it as social anxiety per se, it's more like you have a screwed up way of looking at the world.
tbh, i used to shy away from ppl because i assumed implicitly that they didn't like me. so i used to pre-emptively shoo them away because that was my way of saving face.
"oh, she's a 9 out of 10. hot girls tend to not like me, i'll treat her like crap": CORE-BELIEF: i don't deserve to talk to attractive women.
"oh he's a cool popular guy. him and his friends propbably laugh at me oon the low. i\ll tell him to buzz off" CORE-BELIEF: i'm ugly and alone and don't deserve to be with friends.
that's why i was never a popular guy growing up. i was insecure and projected my insecurites onto others, and this made me seem unfriendly. next time you see someone you know, take a risk and talk to them. 7 times out of 10 on my word, you'll end up having a pleasant conversation with them, that will leave you feeling good. not always, but most of the time. you should attack those negative core-beliefs that are adding an ominous tint to your view of the world.
that's why i don't advocate labels like introversion, etc because a lot of cats are just sick, and are looking for a way out, and the label and the arrogrance that comes with it is just a misguided way of them shoring up their insecurities.
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& they should respect that you need your own space. that's what i would do, i wouldn't take it personally or hold it against you. ppl from both camps need to understand this. this is why i said that a crucial element to being good with ppl is letting go of your own ego. You, @Matt504 don't owe me a stimulating conversation. You might just be a quiet dude who needs time alone to himself. why should i take it personally if you don't want to talk to me, right this instance??
Roman Brady
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chicks will come eventually just off what they presume to be "mysterious" you'll be caught off guard by how easy she offers her snatch with very little game from your end. But then when she realizes you are still an aloof robot and you realize u ain't even attracted to her but entertain her company because u think she is the one that finally understands this behaviour and will stick with it, it all goes downhillbagging a bytch when you have no social circle is one hell of a task will a woman ever look past it and see the goodness in me?
OCCAMS_RAZOR
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that's fair. if you're not someone that likes talking then that's completely cool. people should be able to respect your privacy and space. however, like i've said time and time again, you have to realize that your quietness will be misconstrued as 'aloofness', 'arrogance' or 'rudeness' by most people. not everyone but most. it's not right or fair, but it is what it is. if you want to successfully navigate a social environment then you always have to keep this in mind.
i personally love having good conversations with (certain) people. it's like when you are watching a tarantino movie. most of the time, the conversations in the movie are rarely anything of substance, but they are usually funny and add personality and warmth to a dreary situation.
philmonroe
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It don't have to be no "stop talking to me" you coul just excuse yourself and majority of people aren't going to care. I agree with most of what @CrimsonTider is saying but people aren't going to agree in this thread understandably.
fair enough. both sides have pompous arrogant people. hell i wasnt trying to come off as arrogant. in my OP. i had said it can be good as well as incredibly shytty. lately id rather be out honestly. i only made this to find others to relate to because of my loner, hermit like tendencies. i dont even want to take a side honestly. but still its great things and shytty things on either side.
That's a quote and a direct response to posters coming in here shytting on introverts
But fukk it, yeah, a lot of extroverts need to talk less. They are infatuated with their voices.
What do you really have against introverts though? We just want to be left alone sometimes. Why does everybody have to be extroverted?
Extroverts already have it easy in life, but now they wanna shyt on introverts even more and make it even harder for them.
philmonroe
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Like you said its a case by case thing not a whole group thing. Its just when people say certain things no matter who say it they sound insecure, delusional, and all types of other things and that's regardless of being extroverted/introverted whatever period.
That's a quote and a direct response to posters coming in here shytting on introverts
But fukk it, yeah, a lot of extroverts need to talk less. They are infatuated with their voices.
What do you really have against introverts though? We just want to be left alone sometimes. Why does everybody have to be extroverted?
Extroverts already have it easy in life, but now they wanna shyt on introverts even more and make it even harder for them.
throughout life its like most reserved people in schools came off as weirdos or losers. the extroverted people i envied at times becaue they were able to grab life by the throat. while i had to take the slow strategic approach. i was more reserved, and i agree with some outer people do like to hear their own voice echo throughout the room and there are some arrogant inner people that get too wrapped up in themselves. i feel like im 60/40 introverted because i can talk if someone else comes up to me. but i want to be able to initiate the conversation. you know? make my own oppurtunity.
philmonroe
Superstar
Bold is nowhere near the rule unless somebody is famous. Nobody truthfully cares if you're introverted or not. I think that's where some of the arrogance accusations comes from. Think about it how many people (strangers) do you see on a daily basis that you care about their life? They don't care that's just real and if somebody told me they didn't want to talk to me ok I'm out. I truly think that's most people too but some people just to cowardly to just excuse theirselves and that's on them.That's a quote and a direct response to posters coming in here shytting on introverts
But fukk it, yeah, a lot of extroverts need to talk less. They are infatuated with their voices.
What do you really have against introverts though? We just want to be left alone sometimes. Why does everybody have to be extroverted?
Extroverts already have it easy in life, but now they wanna shyt on introverts even more and make it even harder for them.
Extroverts do care. I ran into this problem at my job. Just let me do my fukking work, why do I have to do small chitchat with you that will just delay my work and make me work later?
New people care too. You go to a party and aren't as talkative and people are like "what's wrong with that guy?." Can't I just chill and listen to the music and people watch? I'll talk when I'm comfortable.
Extroverts left and right make assumptions about introverts and more likely than not, they are negative.