Black folks hate sharing why someone died.

[General Mills]

Or this one. A Facebook post saying

PRAYER WARRIORS!! We need you! Please pray for my family!!

Don’t ask just pray for us .


Once I asked. Nah. I need to know what I am praying for? I got blocked

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Or this one. A Facebook post saying

PRAYER WARRIORS!! We need you! Please pray for my family!!

Don’t ask just pray for us .


Once I asked. Nah. I need to know what I am praying for? I got blocked

Saw something similar on Facebook, with the girl who made the post, liking her own post

At that point, I was like, she probably is grieving, but she wants to run them likes up as well.

 

[Ziggiy]

If they don’t want to share how their loved ones passed then who the fukk are you to feel entitled to know? Talking about “bringing awareness” if you want to know the statistics surrounding what leads to black death by age, gender, body type, etc then type it in a Google search and gain your own awareness.


People who feel like they deserve to be in the know regarding other people’s health or mortality are despicable

 

[broller]

No lie I had a co worker who’s dog died. A damn dog. He let us know he wouldn’t be in for a week and then proceeded to ask for privacy. I couldn’t wrap my head around it because … dog. Moral of that story is pet folks are crazy … except me I’m sane. As for black folks I get it. White folks naturally just over share so it’s in them. Privacy is taught and drilled from an early age in our community though.

Frfr. You'll get white women that you've worked with for a day or two telling you that their son is a dope fiend and in rehab

 

[jay83]

If they don’t want to share how their loved ones passed then who the fukk are you to feel entitled to know? Talking about “bringing awareness” if you want to know the statistics surrounding what leads to black death by age, gender, body type, etc then type it in a Google search and gain your own awareness.


People who feel like they deserve to be in the know regarding other people’s health or mortality are despicable

Depends on the relationship.

You want to overshare everything online but then want to talk about privacy but yet asking for donations?

Now if it’s a internal family thing I understand. All I’m saying is don’t run to internet then get mad when people ask. If you really wanted to be private you would’ve kept it private.

 

[TEH]

Whenever I see posts about a relative of a white friend die they always “ My dad died of heat stroke, please make sure you stay hydrated or if you are elderly stay indoors”, “my sister was killed by a drunk driver on intersection 80 and First Street, please don’t drink and drive”, or “my aunt lost her battle with breast cancer, it was caught late, people remember to go get screenings early so that you or your lover ones may have a better chance fighting it”

Black folks though, our shyt gonna say “stop asking what happened mind your damn business”, “please keep my family in your prayers during this time and don’t ask what’s going on”, “if you gonna say anything other than my condolences keep it to yourself”.

Like damn, nikkas ain’t trying to bring awareness to anything.

Because it’s not your business



But if you’re close you’d know the reason

 

[K.O.N.Y]

No lie I had a co worker who’s dog died. A damn dog. He let us know he wouldn’t be in for a week and then proceeded to ask for privacy. I couldn’t wrap my head around it because … dog. Moral of that story is pet folks are crazy … except me I’m sane. As for black folks I get it. White folks naturally just over share so it’s in them. Privacy is taught and drilled from an early age in our community though.

This is completely gone from black people in this social media age

 

[Ziggiy]

Depends on the relationship.

You want to overshare everything online but then want to talk about privacy but yet asking for donations?

Now if it’s a internal family thing I understand. All I’m saying is don’t run to internet then get mad when people ask. If you really wanted to be private you would’ve kept it private.

Asking for donations is one thing. If your asking someone for money then a certain amount of information SHOULD be required.


All the rest of that shyt naw. If someone is asking for prayers then thats exactly what their asking for…PRAYER. They aren’t under any obligation to disclose how their loved one died

 

[Toe Jay Simpson]

Or this one. A Facebook post saying

PRAYER WARRIORS!! We need you! Please pray for my family!!

Don’t ask just pray for us .


Once I asked. Nah. I need to know what I am praying for? I got blocked

Cousin Shawn done ran up in somebody house and killed somebody in a armed robbery now they got half of social media unknowingly praying he catch a break through an error in the paperwork or the witness coming up missing

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Stop being nosy

 

[Black Magisterialness]

I've seen some of this up close and I think one of the goals is to minimize "I told you so" when people are trying to process a fresh death and begin the grieving process.

People will find out that unc died from a stroke and then waste no time berating everyone in the family for feeding him fried foods multiple times a week. That's a response coming from a place of hurt but it's the kind of response that can escalate to family infighting. Best to just avoid it until so later point in time. It's not conversation for social media.

This.
In many cases we tend to support our family's bad habits or at the very least sweep them under the rug. To confront them would be to confront our own shortcomings/culpability in their eventual demise.

The only time we talk about causes of death like that are murder and car accidents.

 

[Paper Boi]

white people overshare imo and it makes them really annoying co-workers.

 

[SunnyD]

This is completely gone from black people in this social media age

Agreed mostly. We aren’t all that way. I don’t have socials for that exact reason. I don’t like sharing anything. If you don’t have my number .. we probably aren’t that cool

 

[BaggerofTea]

People can't mourn in peace?

 

[SunnyD]

Frfr. You'll get white women that you've worked with for a day or two telling you that their son is a dope fiend and in rehab

Or telling you how they were eating ice cream and their cat licked the bowl and then smooched them .. open mouthed . Ok that was made up but not far fetched