Black folks hate sharing why someone died.

[The_Sheff]

Whenever I see posts about a relative of a white friend die they always “ My dad died of heat stroke, please make sure you stay hydrated or if you are elderly stay indoors”, “my sister was killed by a drunk driver on intersection 80 and First Street, please don’t drink and drive”, or “my aunt lost her battle with breast cancer, it was caught late, people remember to go get screenings early so that you or your lover ones may have a better chance fighting it”

Black folks though, our shyt gonna say “stop asking what happened mind your damn business”, “please keep my family in your prayers during this time and don’t ask what’s going on”, “if you gonna say anything other than my condolences keep it to yourself”.

Like damn, nikkas ain’t trying to bring awareness to anything.

 

[Matt504]

I've seen some of this up close and I think one of the goals is to minimize "I told you so" when people are trying to process a fresh death and begin the grieving process.

People will find out that unc died from a stroke and then waste no time berating everyone in the family for feeding him fried foods multiple times a week. That's a response coming from a place of hurt but it's the kind of response that can escalate to family infighting. Best to just avoid it until so later point in time. It's not conversation for social media.

 

[Max Power]

I've definitely noticed this.

 

[SunnyD]

No lie I had a co worker who’s dog died. A damn dog. He let us know he wouldn’t be in for a week and then proceeded to ask for privacy. I couldn’t wrap my head around it because … dog. Moral of that story is pet folks are crazy … except me I’m sane. As for black folks I get it. White folks naturally just over share so it’s in them. Privacy is taught and drilled from an early age in our community though.

 

[jay83]

I was in a Facebook group and a active member passed away. She was like 33. I send my condolences and asked what happened? The moderator just ignored the question and asked for donations like she was Dr Umar or something.

I was like “ I’ll donate to the funeral, but what happened?”. Once again straight up ignored my question. I was thinking” this is some shady shyt”.

If a person died from like suicide or something shameful to the family you can still say they died of complications or something. But when you actively not answer to why someone fairly young dies I think shady shyt happened.

 

[Still Benefited]

Really? Only times black people are private about death is if the family member had aids or committed suicide. Other than that black people stay telling how people died. Will even make up our own reasons as to why we think they died


"Yeah,his baby mother was keeping his daughter away,thats why he had that heart attack"


Telling business on top of business after somebody passes

 

[BrothaZay]

Black people are obsessed with keeping up appearances

 

[get these nets]

OP

I thought that this was just a Haitian thing.

Call up your family and they'll tell you that a relative back home died, tell you how many kids he had, how many jobs he had, etc

"How did he die?"

What? He died.

 

[Hollywood Co]

Black folks are for sure private when it comes to loss.

I know it felt weird to me telling my co-workers my grandma passed the morning I found out. I didn't want to bring them down or to feel sorry for me although I know I owed it to them to tell them because they knew she wasn't doing well. Felt like I was explaining it over and over which did get tiring. I didn't really get an opportunity to truly grieve her till two days after her funeral.

 

[LadyJ2]

AIDS, obesity-related death and suicide are usually why black folks don’t divulge what happened to their loved ones.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

I promise you that you don't care because of awareness just for gossip sake. Nosey shyt.

I'd be cremated and in the wind with no explanations happily.

 

[old pig]

Really? Only times black people are private about death is if the family member had aids or committed suicide. Other than that black people stay telling how people died. Will even make up our own reasons as to why we think they died


"Yeah,his baby mother was keeping his daughter away,thats why he had that heart attack"


Telling business on top of business after somebody passes

yep just another weird attempt to “vilify” black ppl and deify whites…OP must’ve known a lot of dead folks to come to such a definitive conclusion lol…some ppl are just simply private when it comes to those matters…didn’t know it was based on race tho lmao

 

[thenatural]

Idk, I've seen a lot of white people do the same thing. It's usually a lot of "give us our privacy and please keep our family in your prayers during this difficult time". I think it's a natural reaction to figure out how this person passed, but some families don't want to divulge that information for whatever reason.

 

[Still Benefited]

yep just another weird attempt to “vilify” black ppl and deify whites…OP must’ve known a lot of dead folks to come to such a definitive conclusion lol…some ppl are just simply private when it comes to those matters…didn’t know it was based on race tho lmao

Plus I will say its a difference in not sharing,and not liking to be asked lol. We might share on facebook 5 minutes ago. But still be upset somebody is asking us. I think it might be something alot of us view as improper to ask unless told. Or maybe alot of us dont ask how people died who we didnt know. So when somebody does ask ,it just seems unusual,nosey and out of bounds. I honestly never ask that question unless I knew the person. Why ask how a stranger died? Just say sorry to hear that and keep it moving.

 

[PortCityProphet]

Aint nobody business how they died.
IYKYK type situations with us.
Dead or alive we don't need everybody up in our business with they nosey asses