Black Girl Lawst....Help!!!

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Idk not looking for anything specific right now but probably both

This is your problem, well, the most glaringly obvious one anyhow.

If you're not clear about your expectations initially, men will take advantage of your indecisiveness and do whatever they want.​

 

[25YOUTHS!!]

This is good advice but I'm PAST that. I've been single for a year, I only recently started coli-in because I was ALREADY spending so much time alone.

I took this time because my LAST relationship ended in an engagement that ended because he cheated. I did what I was supposed to do...was faithful, honest and willing to be the breadwinner.

THAT breakup was a final straw of sorts so I'm not suffering from magical man syndrome I'm suffering from the fukk ITS but everyone is saying at MY AGE if I go bitter now I'll never marry and I'll regret it later

I currently feel like I should probably be single and permanently. ....but that permanenty part is the "damage" I've heard

DAMN! How long were ya'll engaged/date? How old were ya'll?
One year isn't actually that long to be single/not dating, granted you use that time to get your mind right and re-evaluate what you want, and more importantly how realistic it is.

As for the bolded, what was breh doing with his life that you were the breadwinner and was it gonna be a permanent thing? You might be the type to try to save ain't shyt men and then complain that men ain't shyt.

What kind of guys are you looking for and are you regularly in an environment where you have a chance to interact with them?

 

[Still FloW]

I see a lot of "don't post on the coli. .."

ignore those peons

 

[Action Mike]

Hey Mike YES IT'S DEEP and I'm not too ashamed to ask for help

I don't understand men

Off jump my perspective is this man doesn't like me, is already lying to me or hiding something probably something small like a lingering ex or a chick who might be pregnant, he wants my sex as quickly as possible with as little effort as possible and okay that's fine so I think we'll what do I want? I'm not going to get true love or commitment so.....sex is cool I like sex

And I've just been leaving it there

I don't want to be sold the dreams....I rarely see those dreams coming true

Okay, then it will always stay at sex. Always.

Ask any man what he wants in a wife and sex, just makes the top ten. You already know commitment is a whole other ball game and you know that already.

Men wife women that add to their lives, and wouldn't fukk that up for anything.

 

[DrX]

u should get with a unattractive dude, because hell feel like he hit the jackpot and cherish u

just upgrade him, but not to the point he run off and leave u after his status is up


or u could date outside your race i dont want no trouble coli

 

[Action Mike]

 

[Data-Hawk]

Low self esteem. I sense it a mile away.

 

[#SOG_soldier]

Lol it's too late you either gone have to live a life of lies or face the fact that no nikka wants a hoe as a housewife.


You know the saying a body is a temple.:stupidmofo:

Well years of thottery has destroyed your temple.

 

[Diondon]

So you're telling me all the men you been with
they all did you dirty?

 

[DontDoIt]

u should get with a unattractive dude, because hell feel like he hit the jackpot and cherish u

just upgrade him, but not to the point he run off and leave u after his status is up


or u could date outside your race i dont want no trouble coli

 

[42 Monks]

you do not need a relationship at fukking all

"there are good dudes out there" yeah, but stay away - you'll only perpetuate the cycle. turn him into a jaded a$$hole. or you'll just be one of these hyper-bitter "i could've done better " women that realizes that they settled for a simp






reevaluate your circle. your friends most likely ain't shyt

 

[#SOG_soldier]

What kind of dreams? My therapist was a black lady so she didn't sugarcoat shyt for me.

Did she ever kiss you? :bhop12:

Did you ever dream of sucking her round t*ts lightly drizzled in honey barbecue sauce. :dre:


More details of you fukking your therapist please

 

[Elle Driver]

You need to hang out with @Elle Driver and stop posting on the coli.

 

[Audemar]

If you're actually serious about this, then self-assessment, not a discussion on the Coli, is needed. Usually, the type of people we often find ourselves interacting with are a direct reflection of ourselves/self-perception/outlooks.

 

[DrX]

maybe itll give her more options.......idk, im trying to help bro....i know thats a cardinal sin to say here...im personally isnt into it but im trying to help a coli member

what am i supposed to say, date one of yall? yall dudes are weirdos