type it out or log offI'm not too good to know I got issues (and yall prob do too
) and i talk to yall most of the day on here anyway lately so
nikka help!!!
yellin at clouds and shyt 
Black Girl Lawst....Help!!!
- Thread starter PeridotPuss
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yellin at clouds and shyt 
last night's hoe tales derailment debacle of a thread got me thinking..... listen and learn from those who not tryna troll....
a brehette really could use some productive advice and I know it's some gurus on on here....
So long story short, I'm no victim and no angel but 11 years of dating as left a bytch jaded.....I want to stop seeing men as an enemy to my life and future but thus far have been unable to. The game might have sucked me dry.
Ive also accepted that I'm not relationship material due to my mindset towards males....everyone tells me I'm wrong....but I feel like I have the right outlook
Help!!! black girl Lawst
1st off. What ever you say or claim you are....YOU ARE.
Are some of the things you've said about yourself what you want for yourself? Honestly.
One thing I got from what you want is, ...to stop seeing men as an enemy to your life and future....
We'll need to dig deeper as to WHY you see men as the enemy to your life and future. It couldn't possibly be because of the stories you've told in the previous thread.
I feel like it's more to your anger and mistrust. There is a source to those things.
Elle Driver
Veteran
no i didnt tell her to swirl bro, im anti swirl...i dont think theres anything wrong with IRs if its based off of respect and not a fetish thing.....and im a BM so why would I tell her that all BM are bad...and who said anything about a white dude, so little asian dude might be out there with a 3 inch pennis and heart of gold
The problem is not OP's dating pool. If the poster has issues with every single man, the poster is the common denominator. @PeridotPuss believes that all men cheat, or are plotting to cheat. That is a problem.
Telling the poster to go expand her options by swirling just makes it seem like black men are the root of her problem (assuming of course that the poster has only dated black men). When she inevitably finds that white guy who doesn't cheat, she will from then on subconsciously believe that the problem has been black men this whole time, just like she seems to believe that all men will cheat.
You are right that OP needs to expand those options though. Maybe there is a specific TYPE that OP likes to go after.
It appears that you are a mature and loyal guy that has a solid understanding of the OP's predicament.
Exactly what OP is looking for.
Maybe OP can date you?
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It appears that you are a mature and loyal guy that has a solid understanding of the OP's predicament.
Exactly what OP is looking for.
Maybe OP can date you?"
peridot desverse better....im long gone bro.....im just a shell of a once sweet innocent little boy
I need to see some receipts...I do know yall speak with a fork tongueYou tag me more than any other human being alive
Log off and get your life together or just commit that and save us the pain of having to read your bullshyt
her prices thoNothing to discuss either lie about your past or face the fact that no nikka on his right mind will ever want you.
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reading that other thread, I got the impression you don't really like yourself that much. figuring out why that is and fixing it would be a starting point. As an example, the reforming thot i was talking about in that other post had a terrible mother, who dominated her very weak father. She basically raised her to believe that only a perfect daughter was good enough to deserves love, and of course, she was never good enough. that led to severe self esteem issues, which made her long for acceptance, which in turn led to terrible life choices and a preference for dominating men that weren't as weak as her dad. in addition, sex became her method of choice to relieve pressure and feel acceptance, which only compounded the problem. unfortunately, that shyt was so hardwired into her brain, that she aborted her project of reform half way through
So long story short, I'm no victim and no angel but 11 years of dating as left a bytch jaded.....I want to stop seeing men as an enemy to my life and future but thus far have been unable to. The game might have sucked me dry.
Ive also accepted that I'm not relationship material due to my mindset towards males....everyone tells me I'm wrong....but I feel like I have the right outlook
Help!!! black girl Lawst
so my to do list for you would be:
1.) reflect on what type of man you're attracted to and why
2.) reflect on why your relationships failed and what your contribution was (that includes picking the wrong guy)
3.) reflect on your upringing and how it relates to your opinion of men (a mother that tells you man ain't shyt can't be healthy)
4.) train yourself to see men as individuals and not a collective
Bless't
Living the dream
I do. I don't believe that "good" man exists for me and I'm realizing now I'm not as "good" as I thought I was
I just would like to see men objectively eventually
Dont put anyone else in your path of destruction. Just be alone until you figure yourself out. Be fair to humanity.
#SOG_soldier
New York knicks and phoenix suns stan
He ain't lying tho. Would you wife a bytch that's had 25 dikks in her by the age of 28?
Let me dive in the pm and I can show you
But nah for real you're just going to have to be able to trust again. I know it's hard but you don't want to be jaded forever. Start slow and don't rush things
But nah for real you're just going to have to be able to trust again. I know it's hard but you don't want to be jaded forever. Start slow and don't rush things
Data-Hawk
I have no strings on me.
This. Just because you want a good dude. Don't mean you are deserving of one. Classic case of how good dudes turn hard on hoes.
HELL NO
