Black man explains why the dating scene is messed up

[Wild self]

He's not wrong though breh. Modern women oscillate between these two things because they want the pleasures of being with a man with money without the accountability of being with a man with options who will walk away.

I was dating a girl who told me she dated a bummy dude for a bit, but then broke up with him because he had no ambition. She said it worked for a while because she, as the higher earner, got to do her own thing without him holding her accountable. He couldn't because he couldn't provide.

In I come. I'm fairly well off, willing to provide for a woman but within certain parameters. There were things she was doing communicating with me, being on social media, that I would not tolerate. Straight up told her I'd have to be a fool to provide for & spoil a woman who can't do the bare minimum in terms of communication, ramping down party life, all that.

She told me she hated being called out on her shyt but also loved that I put her in her place. p*ssy stayed wet as fukk so it was real, but at some point, I bushed her. She wasn't ready to let go of just doing whatever she wanted, so I had to leave.

And I'm sorry to say, but most women are not good long term planners financially, so they need men who have and/or are good with money. This woman has made low 6 figures for a decade but didn't have $10K to put together to invest when I tried to put her on to I-bonds.

At some point she's going to have to pick, and I'm guessing she'll pick doing her thing. Modern women do not like responsibility or being held accountable, and they are surrounded by enablers. Most are not raised to set themselves up for retirement without financial assistance or guidance from a man.

It sounds sexist as hell, but it's just reality.

An extroverted broad is jumpoff material. If she like partying often, she automatically

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

To play wombat's advocate, the dating scene was a mess back in the days as well. The only difference between then and now is a smart phone and a app. Folks forget about the feeling of going through the trenches of blind dating. Even a simple rap can have a two sided coin feel. Women back then wanted ballers as well. Lets not pretend that jawns wanting dudes to pay their bills, wine dine, and just eat their p*ssy.

Brehs were getting shytted on for their attire as well. I remember some bytch did not even want to fukk with me because I wore some cheap Nikes and a button up Polo shirt. Hell, one bytch said with her entire chest out that she wants to be a ho and don't want to be saved.


If anything, I appreciate the brutal honesty of these chicks nowadays. It makes it easier to jump over the bullshyt like Mario. Its just the grim reality that men want to fukk the same thing women wants to fukk....a illusion. A fairy tale. I used to want such things as well:

• A PAWG- Thaw MOST DEF DID NOT WORK OUT
• A submissive jawn- She was wild submissive to the point I was a deviant to her
• A "Dime"- Realize the shyt is not even worth the change

After a while, you end up realizing that the one you need is hidden in a puddle of wants. Stop embracing the puddle.

 

[Contrefaire]

What's his username on here?

Women have always gone after men with wealth and wealthy folks have always had it easier. He isn't even saying anything of substance.

Get wealthy or find your level. What he is discussing is older than social media. So when dudes like him bring it into the equation it hurts their credibility.

As far as Chris Brown that's another L for dragging a wealthy man into your tirade about why your broke ass can't date. Find your lane and thrive until you can switch. shyt's tiring at this point. I bet he doesn't know a single woman in his circle that would be crazy enough go drop 1000 dollars for a Chris Brown pic. But he brought it up to make a point? Foh

This is why I'll never take people like him seriously. That one ridiculous anecdote gave the game away. He's not speaking from experience, he's repeating some shyt he heard from another man online who was most likely talking about a very specific type of woman: The young clout chasing wannabe socialite starfukker with few responsibilities and $$$ to burn. I.e. the stereotypical IG "model".

Meanwhile 90+% of women aren't or even TRYING to be that girl. Grocery, gas and utilities now cost the average single woman double if not TRIPLE the amount they did a year or two ago yet this nikka thinks most women are dropping a rack or more for a selfie with Chris Brown of all people!?

This is a nikka who sits around watching SC/IG stories from his favorite instabaddies and then starts to believe they represent ALL women because he doesn't interact with women IRL and gets his talking points from angry incel podcasters.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

He’s right

But interviewer said some dumb shyt in the end

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

Bro, dating is NOT fukking hard.

1. Don't be ugly gang. That's like 90% of the battle. If you are, then you gon have to grind in the gym or be a fly nikka or something.
2. Have interests outside of "bytches".
3. Be gainfully employed.
4. Be intentional. If you are for relationships, say so. If you're for casual, say so. You can't do both.

Do them four things and majority of the female population will at least find you eligible.

Even if that's not the case, have some sort of drive. Women have this weird perception of "broke ass nikka". Its not all about funding because even the most needy bytch will get tired of that. Its all in the personality and drive to be better. If you a slog that have nothing else to do but to sit with a thumb up your ass, of course no chick will not want to fukk you.

 

[Ohene]

Women in the states are mad fukking standoffish and defensive for no reason. With a list of fukking demands like this is a hostage situation. Just spoiled.

lol its not just the states fam

i'm canadian and my girl from france, and shes that way too

i think its mostly a black women thing

 

[Ohene]

why wasnt that an INT

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I think dating is only hard if you make it hard.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

Even if that's not the case, have some sort of drive. Women have this weird perception of "broke ass nikka". Its not all about funding because even the most needy bytch will get tired of that. Its all in the personality and drive to be better. If you a slog that have nothing else to do but to sit with a thumb up your ass, of course no chick will not want to fukk you.

Facts. Its why artists and writers ain't never had no issue with women.

 

[Soldier]

yup. ten years ago when i was back in school women seemed a lot more reasonable and wholesome. now it feels like theyre just all so jaded with unrealistic expectations and looking to get over. shyt is weird man

i think i'm fortunate to have found my girlfriend but time will tell/

The rise of instagram

 

[Ohene]

Most men aren’t tall(over 6’2)

Decent money (i suppose you’re talking about 6 figure salaries.)

Moderately attractive (beauty is subjective, example a handsome man is considered ugly by women who aren’t attracted by his ethnicity/culture/race)


The rise of instagram

its social media in general and dating apps

 

[Soldier]

its social media in general and dating apps

In the 2000s when we had Facebook/black planet/MySpace/msn messenger were women this jaded and picky?

 

[Ohene]

In the 2000s when we had Facebook/black planet/MySpace/msn messenger were women this jaded and picky?

touche

they definitely werent this picky, but it was still kinda taboo to meet people via these methods and they were not as widespread as they are now. instagram was the app that def took it to the next level, but tinder/hinge/bumble are far more advanced and globalized than your black planets and tagged were

facebook, myspace, msn were a lot more personal

 

[Thingsfallapart]

Dating is easier than ever. If you’re not getting the women/men you want, then you’re undesirable. Because if you were desirable to them they would act right.

 

[cauliflower]

Lol shut up hoe u just mad he said y’all hoes ain’t shyt

I like that women aren't shyt, lower your expectations it is what it is.