Discussion in 'The Root' started by The Grendel, May 17, 2017.
Social anxiety is just really killing me inside and out.
So I had a team meeting with my teammates at work today and we were going over things to improve our sales. And then they were talking about people on the team who are quiet and my friend puts all the attention on me. And it made me feel embarrassed. But she said that she just wants to help me. It’s something that I struggle with and I just seem to tense up when I’m amongst a group of people that I’m not totally comfortable with vs talking to 1 or 2 people at a time.
Did you tell her that made you uncomfortable? Often times extroverted people don't realize their attempts to help do the opposite. I think you shouldn't be hard on yourself about it. Do remember the breathing I taught you?
I told her and she apologized but I guess she’s just wanting me to grow. My manager told me the same thing. I mean I want to come out of my shell, but I want it to be natural. I definitely remember that. I need to do it again.
Well meet half way. Try with your breathing to stabilize yourself. Try talking to 3 people next time. Then up the number when you feel comfortable.
That’s a good suggestion.
I'm doing good. I left an IT job that was stressful due to work and a lot of subtle . My new job doesn't have the same perks but I get to interact/see more black people. I was the only black person at my old job which was very uncomfortable.
I'm trying to fix my dating/social life. Online dating sucks in my area and I'm not into white women like my cousins. They try to set me up with their white girlfriend's friends but they are not my type.
What are you into. I see your name so I assume Morrowind. Any meet up groups in your area?
Not really. The meetup groups are lacking in my state. Its mostly outdoors stuff and I don't fukk with nature.
The more nerdy groups are mostly filled with people with incel traits.
I may join a group focused on fitness. I want to get back in shape and change my diet.
Where do you live?
I live in Kentucky.
Oh. I see. Not familiar with the scene there.
What’s the difference between social anxiety and GAD? The definitions of both sound so similar; unless they’re one-in-the-same...
I'm not sure. I think one has to do with anxiousness in crowds or public and the other is anxious all the time.