Before I get to the other misconceptions in this thread, I gotta start with this. You're one the better posters too, but you're talking about an effect/symptom of the problem not the root cause. A good father teaches a boy standards, how to maneuver, and get things done consistently. In essence how to plan, manage and be responsible. Those three aspects comprise leadership. If these good men are not seen as desirable they won't get the opportunity to pass this knowledge on to their own children. Moreover if the number of women who find them desirable is too low in their community, they'll either quit or move to a different community. I say that to say something
@Dallas' 4 Eva @Youseenmywork and others on this forum if they're honest can attest to.
In the U.S. the average black woman, due to media (music, movies, TV), upbringing, and environment is more attracted to black men with an edge/dangerous element. IT DOESN'T matter how legitimate this is aka wanna-be-thug/fake gangsta, nor the tier of edge weedman, scammer, moving work, gang member. With looks being equal if these type of men are put against "square" men who work regular 9-5s the majority of black women 18-25 are choosing the former. There's a ton of reasons for this but the short term thinking is in the forefront edge dudes tend to have flash to themselves, tend to spend, show more aggression/masculinity even when unnecessary, they don't necessarily feel pressed to save/plan for the future and are usually have more "mouthpiece" as they have more downtime to shoot game at women. Conversely 9-5 dudes generally have less energy/mouthpiece due to lack of free time, don't want to waste their money, because they know making it is most of their day. These guys are usually more reserved and less overt.
In the long term 9-5 dudes not only survive but if they don't fukk up there money and if they get promotions/gain experience end up ok, but in the short term black women 18-25 see that as boring and the antithesis to the protecting/providing/edgy baller. It's only after they hit a wall and often end up with a child that they seek these regular stable "square" 9-5 men. In growing amounts these "square" men are holding grudges against they type of women who dubbed them when they younger and now want them after almost a decade of them working hard and being more or less alone. Chiefly due to the fact they see the legal financial stability and safety they can provide. So if this is the leadership you're speaking on that again falls on spousal selection. I know a ton of solid brehs who black women just aren't checking for, yet.