Black people that grew up in the suburbs...Please enter this thread.

[General Mills]

I have some questions for you....

1) how did growing up in the burbs help you or hurt you?
2) have you ever been chastised or ridiculed by other black people because of your background?
3) have you ever been patronized by white people because of your background? (Ie...saying stuff like "you're different", "you're not like the others")
4) would you raise your own family in the suburbs?

I just figured this could be a useful thread for everybody involved.

1. Helped me professionally immensely. Also personally. On the professional tip. . I think it prepared me for life NOT in the hood. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. We all know people who grew up in the burbs and are now the most ratchet people. But for me anything other than a nice quiet neighborhood to live in is unacceptable.

2. Yup. Been called a c00n or a sellout cause I am not from a certain area or when they hear I went to a private school etc. . . .They think I cannot relate. But I can get hood if necessary. I just would rather not.

3. I have never said "I am different. etc " But white people tend to like and patronize me because I talk very clear and concise. I live down south now. All the black people say I talk "proper" To me its just proper english. lol. When I talk to chicks on the phone they always assume I am white and I am catfishing them until we meet.

4. Most definitely. Altho there is fukkery in the burbs. I know that for a FACT.

 

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2) I've only been chastised by Northern Black folks who have this idea that all Country folks are Backwoods Bammas
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They mostly are.

 

[DarlingNikki]

1. The public library

2. Yes, @DarlingNikki ridicules me for my voice.

3. I've been called whitest black guy/not really black by whites this one white lady asked me I had white in me because I knew various country-western singers.
This white guy asked me if I'm sure that I'm black because I was listening to blur.
4. Of course, but it would have to be a upper class black suburb with few whites.

I'd never!

 

[KOOL-AID]

1) I grew up in an isolated working class subdivision in the country...It helped me remain a child and not grow up too soon.
2) I've only been chastised by Northern Black folks who have this idea that all Country folks are Backwoods Bammas
3) I get the you're different line frequently.... but they try to play it off by saying it's because I'm from the South... not because I'm Black
4) If Kool-aid and I had children, we would be in Black suburbs in the South. We wld want them to be surrounded by Black success. so that they know that Black = great = success...

fixd

 

[iFightSeagullsForBread]

1) I reckon you do grow up with a bubble like mindset on what life is and what to expect I reckon, like ya' know it all but ya really don't. I say they helped me, mainly because I ran into different kinds of the black folks, I reckon.I lived in a mainly black suburban area, I tell ya H'what.

2.) I was err, ridiculed for likin the skateboarding and heavy metal, hangin' with the white kids, but on a a whole I say people meshed with a feller well regardless. I took it to heart at the time, bein' a youngin', but it comes with growin' up.

3.) A'Yup.

4.) Ain't havin' one.

 

[Jhoon]

Growing up in the suburbs studiyng in a white school is complex. The thing is you get better "education" but at the same time it costs your mental health.
I'd definitely not raise a kid in an enviroment like that.

Reading some of the posts in this thread, I can't help but wonder about this better education these posters received. Maybe it's the way folks now communicate, but the posts didn't strike me as well-educated.

As for Legacys fourth point: First, I didn't grow up in the suburbs. However, I find that his tone was slightly off. Exactly what sane parent would choose to raise their child in the "hood" as opposed to the surburbs? What parent can seriously advocate placing their child in physical danger to enlightened them on what specifically?

 

[Illuminatos]

I have some questions for you....

1) how did growing up in the burbs help you or hurt you?
2) have you ever been chastised or ridiculed by other black people because of your background?
3) have you ever been patronized by white people because of your background? (Ie...saying stuff like "you're different", "you're not like the others")
4) would you raise your own family in the suburbs?

I just figured this could be a useful thread for everybody involved.

1) I don't really know how it hurt or helped me. We used to move to a new neighborhood every couple of years. We lived in a couple bad neighborhoods but mostly the burbs. My mom never worked and we were evicted several times so it wasn't the greatest experience but that wasn't because of the neighborhood.
2) My homeboys used to joke and call my neighborhood "soft."
3) No
4) Of course

 

[Ohene]

I have some questions for you....

1) how did growing up in the burbs help you or hurt you? too tired to answer...will later. But I dont think it made much of a difference to be completely honest. If anything it was how my parents raised me that made me who I'm
2) have you ever been chastised or ridiculed by other black people because of your background? Yes. 'Youre not street smart, youre spoiled' etc,
3) have you ever been patronized by white people because of your background? (Ie...saying stuff like "you're different", "you're not like the others") Yes.
4) would you raise your own family in the suburbs? Yes. But I would want it to be a multicultural suburb.

I just figured this could be a useful thread for everybody involved.

 

[Blackking]

Good answers. I also would like black folks that didn't grow up in the suburbs to add some jnsights.

I grew up in the hood... and then spent the last three years of hs being in one of the wealthiest hs in the nation getting the best of the best shyt.

1) helped me because I was able to see something different. Most of my friends.... you can't even help them because their perspective on life is flawed. In the burbs man! You guys take shyt for granted.. like test prep.. like the the school environment... like you dont know what its like riding the city bus to school dealing w bums. Or living in a ciry were daily girls are approached by old nikkas trying to fukk they middle school pus.

2) my father corrected the way I spoke. Because I was in yhe south I got clowned. It not like up north were people r just hood. Down south they r country and ghetto so I basically sounded like a cac to them...
3. White people love me. And I love it because I dont even like most of them. I make money off them, I even own a white techno club
When I was in the military some cac said "you must be smarter than 90 percent of the black guys your age".. til this day that was the most offensive shyt I ever heard

4) fukk no. I want them around black people. . But im grateful to my mentors, my father, other people... but lets be real... ALL these muthafackas are DETACHED... I don't want my kids around black people who think pro black ideology is funny or unnecessary. Or who feel that a donation is doing their part. And I don't want my kids around cacs. But my woman forced me out of the hood two years ago, she's scared of nikkas... for the life of me.. how r u west African but scared of the descendants of West Africans

 

[Jhoon]

@Blackking

Your first point should be delved into deeper. With me being a parent, and of a certain income, it was expected that I live my life a certain way. I have always tried to buck the system in my own little way. I reasoned I could have all the amenities of the surburbs without the high taxes. I live in the city but provide my kids with all the extra curricular activities that's all the rage across the county border.

 

[Will Ross]

The thing is a Southern suburb is not the same as one in the north.
A southern suburb often has the same issue as the city.

 

[Godless Socialist CEO]

I have some questions for you....

1) how did growing up in the burbs help you or hurt you?
2) have you ever been chastised or ridiculed by other black people because of your background?
3) have you ever been patronized by white people because of your background? (Ie...saying stuff like "you're different", "you're not like the others")
4) would you raise your own family in the suburbs?

I just figured this could be a useful thread for everybody involved.

1. I never really fit in with a particular group. I had friends, but I always felt alone. My family started in the hood and moved to the burbs when I was 10... It was a bit of a shock to the system. BUT I lived in a really nice area...... Like you could leave your wallet at the end of your driveway and someone would bring it to your door nice.
2. Yes, when I was younger black people generally didn't like me because of how I spoke, and my sister got the same shyt growing up.
3. All the time... Still happens now. The hilarious part is the shyt they say ( ex. "you're not really black") is racist as fukk and they think it's ok. I'm quick to let them know to be careful who they say that to because it's racist. I just don't care because I'm desensitized to it at this point.
4. Yes, but I would make sure he/she knows that they can talk to me about anything... Because growing up middle class black you need an outlet for shyt.