Black Therapists talks about her patients and accountability.

[KingTut]

Will be an interesting thread. The obvious question: why are we quick to accept generalized statements from therapists when we agree, but throw a fit when we disagree? I don't support this anymore than the weird shyt that has been said about black male patients. I don't want to hear medical professionals discussing anecdotal evidence. It's unprofessional.

I agree but I think there’s a big difference with how some of these social media therapists speak at/about black male clients compared to their black female clients. She was fairly gentle in her analysis compared to the past few therapists who have aimed these same claims at black men with much more inflammatory language.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Look at how women treat eachother. A therapist don’t gotta tell you that lol

 

[WaveWhisperer]

My ex had insecurities like a mf , self aware that she knew she had them but the second i told her to go to therapy she has, argued with me,said shes fine, got angry and told me she didnt need it, not enough time or money etc .

Self responsibility and accountability goes an extremely long way in a relationship. Id smash but i wouldnt get serious with a woman who ducks and dodges it like its kryptonite again.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

These hoes know exactly what is wrong with them this therapy shyt is a ruse.

Women paying someone to validate your feelings is like men paying for sex it is the same thing. Yet women clown men for paying for sex while looking for the same feelings from a therapist. It’s just a neater, nicer package.

Eh, that's a generalization though. My girl changed therapists precisely because her old one wasn't challenging her. Wasn't putting forth any new perspectives. I generally think therapy is a positive thing especially for black people. But we have to be honest about our insecurities and take accountability for our actions.

Men are taught to stand on their own two for almost their entire lives. Young girls are more so taught to be delicate and deserve to be protected (which is fine). But the unforeseen result of that is they turn into people who will always have some external buffer to push blame/negativity onto...weather that's their parents or a boyfriend/husband or their children.

This is why it's important to teach your boy and girls the same lessons. If you're teaching your boys how to change a tire teach your daughters too. If you're teaching your daughters how to cook, teach your sons too. Conflict resolution outside of physicaly fighting should be taught the same as well. Eliminating gendered responsibility helps with accountability in my viewpoint.

 

[Canon]

I’m really surprised she made this video

She’s about to get slaughtered

 

[dat aint da same sandwich]

We been saying this

 

[Gloxina]

This is very real, I’ll admit.

Actually my mom and I were doing family therapy and she cut that shyt abruptly I was like wtf

I ain’t having a serious discussion about any family shyt with her again. That door has sadly closed because there will be no closure.




I think what isn’t discussed is that, unfortunately, there’s a lot of unresolved trauma in the community. Doesn’t make it right, but unprocessed trauma manifests in different ways.


Like, I remember my mom was EXTREMELY careful with me and my whereabouts when I was young. So much so that it got beyond being overprotective. I didn’t know why, but turns out bad shyt happened to her so that was why she was so guarded with me.


But in an attempt to maintain my innocence and not talk to me about certain things…because she never shared that with me I didn’t understand why she was so guarded and what to look out for, so sadly in some ways the cycle repeated itself.

Instead of being like “damn, so sorry that happened to you!”

it was “well what was happening, who did that, how’d you let that happen?”

And then it went to “well, yea, that happened to me as well when I was in school. I’m sorry”.

And I’m sitting there like “ I’d think you would want to warn you child about something that happened to you in college”, but a lot of women don’t share that trauma, bottle it up and it comes out in bad attitudes, short tempers, etc.


_____________________



Some women don’t apologize because they were the cute one and ppl let them get away with shyt forever. So they think they’ve above it.

Some women build their personality around being perfect/having all the answers because that was the only way they received praise, so their confidence/possible arrogance comes from being “the smart one” or always right, so they don’t apologize because they don’t think they need to.

Some women have terrible attitudes because life has been terrible to them and they haven’t learned how to process that negativity and come out on the other side of the trauma.

Some women were spoiled rotten by family and never learned how to properly interact with others.

Some women never had to deal with real world consequences so they don’t know how to react when confronted with the result of their actions. When they are confronted with their bad behavior they don’t even acknowledge it because…it’s never been acknowledged before.




So many factors, but the main issue is not being corrected in one’s youth.

 

[mag357]

These hoes know exactly what is wrong with them this therapy shyt is a ruse.

Women paying someone to validate your feelings is like men paying for sex it is the same thing. Yet women clown men for paying for sex while looking for the same feelings from a therapist. It’s just a neater, nicer package.

Eggs-muthafukin-zactly

 

[B86]

I think everyone struggles with this shyt.

Ppl generally do alot of great shyt. But we fukk up and, in order to keep trucking along, we hide behind our pride and accomplishments, instead of also self reflecting on our shytty ass behavior.

I think certain women, and how they were raised, tend to struggle with this more. Just because rejection is not something they know how to handle. Whether it happened alot and are actively working against it in adulthood or not at all.

I disagree. I blame myself and admit it whenever it’s warranted because I reflect on negative situations and analyze how it could have been changed/prevented. It’s the only way to truly grow

 

[Gloxina]

It's not gonna help her bottom line to realize what's going on.

Earlier this week, on the topic of therapy for men, white dude said

"Women benefit from therapy"
"Men would benefit more from a coach/mentor - someone to break down what they need to do, to get what the want. "

Not sure if the 1st half is true, lol.

I get it. Men need something that is more action oriented. Women have to talk it out to reach the goal.

 

[Gloxina]

I disagree. I blame myself and admit it whenever it’s warranted because I reflect on negative situations and analyze how it could have been changed/prevented. It’s the only way to truly grow

You know how few people have the ability/emotional maturity to do this?

 

[ajnapoleon]

This right here says a lot


This woman told a damn lie saying this man was SA his daughters

She went far with it

And for years this man had to deal with it


And when she FINALLY said it was a lie



She said “why didn’t you fight harder for your children?”


I’m like you the damn devil


Anything not to say your wrong




Kirk Franklin lying ass mom

Kerry Washington lying ass mom



It’s wild like I say there is no fear of consequences


That’s why they do it

 

[Jaguar93]

This right here says a lot


This woman told a damn lie saying this man was SA his daughters

She went far with it

And for years this man had to deal with it


And when she FINALLY said it was a lie



She said “why didn’t you fight harder for your children?”


I’m like you the damn devil


Anything not to say your wrong




Kirk Franklin lying ass mom

Kerry Washington lying ass mom



It’s wild like I say there is no fear of consequences


That’s why they do it

…feel bad for the brotha damn.

 

[Gloxina]

Eh, that's a generalization though. My girl changed therapists precisely because her old one wasn't challenging her. Wasn't putting forth any new perspectives. I generally think therapy is a positive thing especially for black people. But we have to be honest about our insecurities and take accountability for our actions.

Men are taught to stand on their own two for almost their entire lives. Young girls are more so taught to be delicate and deserve to be protected (which is fine). But the unforeseen result of that is they turn into people who will always have some external buffer to push blame/negativity onto...weather that's their parents or a boyfriend/husband or their children.

This is why it's important to teach your boy and girls the same lessons. If you're teaching your boys how to change a tire teach your daughters too. If you're teaching your daughters how to cook, teach your sons too. Conflict resolution outside of physicaly fighting should be taught the same as well. Eliminating gendered responsibility helps with accountability in my viewpoint.

DING DING DING

 

[Ty Daniels]

"Happy Wife, Happy Life"
"The Woman is Always Right"

These are just a few "Mantras" that reflect the topic at hand.

Anyone denying that a Lot of Woman (Not All) have a problem with apologizing isn't being honest.

Also the Therapist mentioned "Women", NOT Just Black Women.

I got a GANG of Sisters, been in a bunch of relationships, worked as manager over multiple teams of Men and Women.
Women on average, seem to have a harder time admitting fault.

A lot of Women are "Emotional" thinkers, so even if they are "Technically Wrong" on something...
They often still "Feel Like They are Right".

So if someone "Feels" like they were in the "Right", EVEN if the facts say different,
then they probably WON'T Apologize.

I know multiple couples that went to therapy for relationship issues (Black, White Etc...).

AS SOON as the therapist suggests that the Woman, has to make some changes, or may not be correct on something...

Then the Woman, no longer wants to go to that particular therapist.

Women also often "Fall Out" with each other, for BEING HONEST with each other.
I've seen it TOO Many times.

Also telling a Woman "Everything She Wants To Hear", is the reason why Clowns like "Derrick Jaxn" are so "Popular".