Unsolicited advice just makes you (or anyone) look like an ass
Friends support not judge
That type of advice is not appreciated especially if you’re not also big
Big girls know that they’re big girls
They might like their size too
If losing weight were easy, we’d all be the size we wanted
Most people that ask for warranted advice
Are looking for confirmation on what they already feel/thinks right
A true friend tells you the good, bad, ugly and indifferent
No such thing as unwarranted advice when you love somebody
They don’t blindly support you to a fault
As others have said, that’s called enabling
My question to you ma’am
Respectfully
Why wouldn’t you want to tell your friend the concern about her weight
It’s ways to bring it up in a tactful manner
Many big people don’t like being big
Sure they have bought into these weirdo made up slogans
But many want to be healthy but self esteem issues are tied to their food intake
And before you counter that skinny people can also have an unhealthy view of eating
Hypertension,Diabetes, Colon Cancer, etc are higher in the black community for a reason
Why wouldn’t you want to see the person you care about in this world hurdling themselves to health complications to keep up a facade become healthy
Lizzo is a prime example of the conundrum American society is in
That young lady wants to get healthy but her whole image is wrapped in loud/proud
She clearly is suffering from self esteem issues but has been bullied by other big women no less
To keep the charade going
You know what obesity does to your back and legs as you age
I’m not going to bash you for your opinion
Although it’s naive as fukk and lacks nuance
But I really hope you not out here lying to your friends and using them as crash dummies because you see that as “support”
Peace be with you loved one